[Kinodesu]

Hey Soompi, my boyfriend broke up with me several days ago. We had only been going out for 4 months, but the relationship was amazing. Our time together had punched my previous year-long relationship in the face. We had so much chemistry, and we just ended up spiraling together. It was like a drama and it was so perfect *-*

He loved me and really, REALLY wanted to be with me, but he had a weird feeling in the background. He just didn't want to be in a relationship. Like I said, we had just fallen into it. He said if things change, we can be together again. We're staying friends, and we don't have negative feelings to each other at all.

I'm heartbroken, of course..

Now here comes the question. Has anyone else had a situation like this? And if so, did you guys ever go out again..? Did it work? What do the Soompiers think of this all. ):

[bipolar{polarbear}]

Well . . . something like this kind of happened. I never saw her again afterwards. It's been a few years since. I still have feelings for her. I love her in fact. And supposedly she's already engaged. One can only imagine how I feel. My love is stupid. Don't let yours be. If you feel like there's really something there . . . don't let pride get in the way. Just talk to him and be honest about your feelings. I know if I had done that, things might've been different. But don't force anything on the other person. That's one of the worst ways to begin a relationship.

[`amy]

I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago
and then got back together with him last month.

He kept on doing me wrong
and now I can't even look at him without wanting to breakdown.

Obvs our love was on a lifeline and it just wasn't strong enough.

I think the relationship will work out if you guy are on the same page
and have the same amount of feelings towards each other, but most of the time
if a relationship that has already been broken, it has a really hard chance of being
fully fix.

[bboyKdash]

i wish second chances would arise...but through time, people find interest in another.
It's heart breaking indeed...but you just gotta be strong and maybe it'll work out [=

[_Kelly]

I think second times do work, and this is all from my experience, heck, I'm experiencing it now (:

I had a problem almost like yours, but mines just had a little more knots. My current boyfriend and I was together, we had problems, broke up. It was all there, spread out in place, the first time when we were together it felt like our problems were meant to happen, that the pain was there to build us stronger. The separation that we had and the enduring of missing each other just made us more fond of each other, so eventually at the end I ended back with him. So were going through our second time, and it's been so much better, so much closer and so much more unique.

I think second chances only happen if two people are on the same "page" like what a soompier said above. It takes time and fate, meant to Be's and things that happen for a reason.

[PrincessBoa]

Personally, I don't think so..in my experiences- it hasn't worked out. I mean- if both people in the relationship were on the same page, etc and stuff like other soompiers said, it MIGHT work.. but for me, I guess it didn't. After my ex-boyfriend and I broke up the first time, mind you- it was ME that was the one that broke things off, and we went our separate ways.. but I guess after awhile.. it just seemed like we both needed each other, so we got back together, but that started causing a lot of issues. We argued over the fact that I wasn't willing to take my time to meet him anymore (I was really busy with tons of work to do...so at that time- I don't think I even had time for a boyfriend!) and that he thought I was flirting with other guys, (I WASN"T, those were just my close childhood guy buds!) And yeah. This caused HIM to break up with me.. and needless to say, I think we got together for another 2 times before I cut my ties with him altogether. It was just mentally hard, and I couldn't handle it anymore...

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-PrincessBoa

[,astrolicious]

It depends, right? : )
The situation, the people, the relationship...
Everything is different for everyone.

But if you really want to make it work... make it last
Because you really do care about him
I think starting afresh is one good way, right?
And at the same time, try to fix what happened last time

Good luck : )

[pencil_geeks*]

so far, for me.. it hasn't worked at all. but that's just for me, for you, try it out.

[mintchoco]

Yes, I believe it depends from person to person and also on the reason of the breakup.
If you both broke it off in a non-aggressive manner then there can still be room to make-up.
But, feelings change and priorities do as well.

As for my personal experience, we were each others' firsts; though we had dated for 2 weeks, we'd known each other for 10 years.
I decided that I wasn't ready for a relationship (I needed more room for emotional maturation) so we cut off all contact until 2 years later.
We met again out of the blue and during that dinner, without ever having thought of him at any point during the 2 year course, I just simply asked if he'd like to try one more time.

We're currently dating.

[jaejoongie <3]

It works only if both parties change and work to make the relationship work.
If they get together just because they miss each other and don't do anything about the problem, then it will just be the same exact vicious circle.

I don't know what weird feeling means... but if both of you guys had chemistry and broke up because of circumstances then I definitely think it could work out.

[pochacco]

ehhhh it's different for everybody. But if he broke up with you in teh first place, he'll probably want to stay single. Don't force things or rush anything.

[violetion]

it definitely works out the second time if you can correct the problems from the first time. i'm saying this from experience.

[blue_wishesx3]

it might work, but i find that it rarely does. (depends on the situation)

once, i restarted a relationship, and it just didnt quite feel the same. i lost
the trust that i had in him when he broke up with me out of the blue. it happened once
it sure can happen again.

[DarkWaltz]

I'm sorry to say this but out of experience, restarting relationships will never be the same after a breakup, and thus is just another way of hindering the ultimate breakup. My 2 cents.

[chilovesjj]

It can work, as others have said, the two of you need to be on the same page, want the same things, be similar levels of maturity etc.
My parents started dating when they were about 15 and 17 respectively, and it got too intense for my mum, and she decided she just wasn't ready for that serious of a relationship at a young age, so they split up for a little while (I think because of a course she was on, it was quite long distance too so it was stressful for that reason).

They got back together, eventually married, had 3 kids, and are still together now. So, never say never. Depends on the couple and the circumstances. Hope that your situation works out for you

[CJos]

Well, you know, everyone is different. But people get back together all the time and work things out. My suggestion would be to not contact him for awhile - at least a month. If he contacts you then agree with him about the breakup and tell him you think it's the best for both of you. That will really get him thinking!

Give him some time to miss you and in the meantime work on getting back to the person you were when you first met. He was attracted to you then, right? Better yet, try and expand yourself, try some new things - maybe something you've always wanted to do. Go out with friends. Even a casual date or two. Work on your appearance to make it the best it can be. Overall when he sees you again you want him to be really attracted to the "new you".

Also, remember people are attracted to what they cannot have, especially if it seems just out of their reach, so play it cool. Be nice, but don't seek him out. Let him make the moves and take it slowly. Give yourself some time to cool down emotionally.

[dorkafied!]

I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago
and then got back together with him last month.

He kept on doing me wrong
and now I can't even look at him without wanting to breakdown.

Obvs our love was on a lifeline and it just wasn't strong enough.

I think the relationship will work out if you guy are on the same page
and have the same amount of feelings towards each other, but most of the time
if a relationship that has already been broken, it has a really hard chance of being
fully fix.

there you go :b
although, i broke up my my boyfriend
and we decided to be together again. So far
it's been together for 2 months since the
break up
We'll see how it goes :b

[xosaranghaex33]

I was in the exact same situation. I started dating the most amazing guy, &* as with yurs, our relationship kicked the butt of the relationship I had before him. We were perfect. Our relationship was like Jan Di &* Jun Pyo from BOF, even down to some of the actual situations. We were so in love, but we ended the relationship out of nowhere. he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, wasn't going to hook upp with anyone else, loved me still, &* if I didn't find someone better, we could be back together. we stayed friends;; then we started dating again. We spent time with each other previously, before actually getting back together. Before getting back together again, though, we also argued quite a bit. Well, after getting back together, things seemed to get worse. Nothing was as good as before, all we did was hurt each other, he didn't trust me, I didn't trust him. So now we're done. &* it hurt, but I'm getting over it. I believe it can work out though, so don't give upp^^
aza aza fighting ! Be positive
message mee for full storyy hahahaha

[xqtpi]

Mmm, exact same situation as you.
I was with my boyfriend for six months before we broke up.
We stayed really good friends for about a year, then by the time summer came around, we're back together again.
We've been together for... about three months and we haven't had any problems.

If you two are still really good friends, then you two can figure out what you guys did wrong then start back up again.

[Swtlitogrl]

I think relationships can start again, but it depends how it ended.
If it ended sour I dont believe it will be a good relationship again

There is always exceptions of course
so good luck!