[xtenglong]

I was wondering what all of you think about this. Should a guy be going through all the trouble to get a girl, or should he just let life take its course and hope that it will work out the best for him. I've been stuck in military school for two years now, so I haven't really dated anyone for a long while. Recently I was talking to my best friend and he was just telling me how he felt like total sh*t because the girl he had a crush found him a bit creepy just because he tried to hang out with her a few times. That just got me wondering if I really want to go through that kind of stuff after I get out of high school. Should I just not bother with trying to find a relationship and just focus on getting a job and hanging out with my friends??

[LoveStrangled]

Okay. Uh, First of All yes. Anybody no matter what gender should be able and should chase after the one they love.
Anyone can wait for life to take it's course but, if you like a girl and don't do anything about it...seriously, what are the chances? :S

Plus, there's a thin line between chasing after her and stalking/creeping her out. It was probably just your friends approach to her. Maybe he was too aggressive or clingy. Or he was too rash. Or she simply didn't like him. He just has to move on or keep trying. And just because your one guy friend had a little girl problem because he went after the girl he liked doesn't mean it's wrong for a guy to do that. In my opinion I think it's cute if a guy tries to win a girls heart. :3

Well that my opinion on your friends situation and the thread's title but,

That just got me wondering if I really want to go through that kind of stuff after I get out of high school. Should I just not bother with trying to find a relationship and just focus on getting a job and hanging out with my friends??

This is your personal choice. I can't help you with this question. It just depends on what you value in your life.

[angels.disguise]

yes, first of all. guys should be chasing after girls.
& even though it might seem like a hassle, trust me its worth it lmao.
your friend got rejected prob because he was either coming on too strong
or the girl wasn't interested & he didn't know what the word "no" means

[daulism]

yes they should, because we girls like it XD

[ax1989]

Girls like it obviously when guys chase girls.

But, I just want to get this clear: Most people (guys) seem to have this 'ego' thing going on where they don't want to seem 1)desperate 2)weak 3)dependent and play that stupid game with girls and just pretend to ignore them. What do I say? Love is genuine and honest and selfless. THEREFORE, I believe that no matter what gender you are, you should always let the person know how they feel. Love isn't a sin - why not share and give to your fellow human being?

BTW, again, girls like it when guys chase them. WE ALLLL DOOO~!

[bipolar{polarbear}]

It shouldn't be a matter of gender, if you like the person you should be honest with your feelings. And if he/she likes them enough, I don't think anyone can tell him/her what to do.

[ima_robot]

BTW, again, girls like it when guys chase them. WE ALLLL DOOO~!

lmao i like chasing too!
it really does depend.



and btw, WHATS THE DEAL WITH THAT GIRL?!
gosh, i dont like it when girls think that a guy is a creep when hes JUST tryin to get to know her better and hang out >[ you friend deserves better.

[micky813]

yeah i think chasing the girl is nice but not to the point where it's like stalking lol

[SafetyCharm]

No.
Obviously a girl would want you to chase, because everybody likes feeling wanted and noticed (pretty much the reason why you buy clothes, your style, etc). Let's say you do chase a girl you like, and you find out 1-3 months later that you've been trying but she fell for another guy. You've just wasted 3 months and shes lost pretty much nothing. The thing about chasing is that you limit yourself to one girl, and if she doesn't respond positive to your chase, you're left with a broken heart and time to heal and find another girl (to chase again? Come on).
Take advantage of your male status, you're limited to the number of girls you're willing ask.
(Girls here will tell you they liked being chased, but they really don't know what you have to go through to actually chase)

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

if you don't make an attempt then nothing will come by itself.
it depends what you mean by chasing I guess.
But you can't sit around and expect the girl to come in front of you.

[xKanane]

I don't think there should be a set gender as to who should be chasing after who.
But the majority of girls enjoy being chased .. including me x]

[h0ney]

well that depends if u want a gf?
ud chase after a girl who you think is worth the chase i guess
if u just want to concerntrate on ur career right now, theres nothing wrong wit it
dont get a gf, just bcos u want a gf there

[xtenglong]

I think for my case, almost all the time I try to go after a girl, there are other guys chasing after her, and I'm pretty much left clueless on what to do. I have sorta been going after this one girl for about 9-10 months now, although I haven't seen her since last summer vacation. Didn't even start liking her until we stopped seeing each other and we were just talking on the phone every now and then. Told her how I felt and basically got turned down. EPIC FAIL -.-;;

Another question relating to the topic: is it wrong for a guy to try chase after a girl that they think is one of the prettiest girls he had ever seen, but just doesn't seem to have any connections to you, such as the girl you would always pass by in the hallways on your way to chemistry class? I can't really think of any approach a guy can really take without seeming like a total creep unless the guy himself just looks really good himself >.<

[QWERTY.]

you need to go with the flowwwwwwwwww

like you dont want someone to clingy and mayeb that is what your friend was doing
the boy and the girl should be chasing after each other

[ThaiNote]

chasing a girl is what makes life interesting man. lol unless of coure you have some other thing occupying your life (i.e sport)

[StephyT]

I'll try to make this short and not ramble on.

If you like someone enough, go after them because you might not get another chance.
Also, it's better to go after someone and find out the truth, than to wonder 'what if?'

[KTZ811]

Well to answer the original question, of course girls like to be chased. The feeling of being chased is nice but not in a stalkerish way (that's a no-no). It all depends on the girl - whether she's attracted to him or not. Your friend might just be coming on too strong. Reminds me of someone .....

No.
Obviously a girl would want you to chase, because everybody likes feeling wanted and noticed (pretty much the reason why you buy clothes, your style, etc). Let's say you do chase a girl you like, and you find out 1-3 months later that you've been trying but she fell for another guy. You've just wasted 3 months and shes lost pretty much nothing. The thing about chasing is that you limit yourself to one girl, and if she doesn't respond positive to your chase, you're left with a broken heart and time to heal and find another girl (to chase again? Come on).
Take advantage of your male status, you're limited to the number of girls you're willing ask.
(Girls here will tell you they liked being chased, but they really don't know what you have to go through to actually chase)

Wow *blink *blink.. Nice analysis. I should take notes, lol

[orangious]

I think it depends on your personnality and your self confidence. Me I like chassing, when i'm not busy it can be fun sometimes. If you chase dont take the relationships too seriously in the begining