[Ichiaru]

LOL THAT WAS EMBARRASSING. D: i accidently posted in the beauty and fashion section. xD



Okay, so I'm with this wonderful 6 month boyfriend. : )
We were always strong together even though everyone was trying to tear us apart and interfere.
We're always nice to each other, but we tease each other A LOT. and he's usually the moody guy. o _ o; ;
But i love him lots and i know he loves me.
but last night on the phone he says..
"Do you feel bored of me? " and I replied no, but things WERE going slow.
And then he said "I don't know.. I feel like.. our relationship is going too smooth.. it's.. kind of boring.."
And when he said that my heart raced and I don't know.
I'm kind of sensitive but so is he.
But I ignored it and just agreed.
Him: We never have arguments or anything, we're too nice to each other..

Well, I'm kind of afraid that he'll actually get bored.
Like ACTUALLY.
I really don't want to lose him..
This may sound cheesy, but he's my everything! ; _ ;
We have a lot of fun hanging out.
So what can I do to "spice" things up a bit ? As he refers to it.


Thanks a lot !

[darae]

well me and my bf have been going out for 13 months.
we've never had a full-out fight with yelling/screaming/kicking etc. lol
we argue but overall, we're both passive
but sometimes i did feel really bored and knew he felt the same too

i'd say don't see him as much.
try to go out with your friends more and just be busy
then he'll get jealous and crave for your attention
this is what i usually do if i feel like my bf's bored with me or if he's getting a tad too comfortable
i like to keep him on his toes. lol

or maybe you guys should get out of your comfort zone and do something you both would never have imagined.
sky diving, rock climbing, etc. <-- i guess this is if you're an adrenaline junkie

but honestly, couples do get bored of each other.
whether it's a routine (u guys do same thing all the time; go to movies, go out to eat)
or you guys just spend too much time with each other
if you spend too much time together, you'll never have a chance to miss him.

i always like to leave my bf with the thought like "aww but i don't want to go" rather than "damn,,i wanna go home"

[Ichiaru]

Ahhh~
Thanks!
That's a great suggestion. ^^
I'll try that even though it's going to affect me too. LOL. x __ x;
Yeah, I agree on the last thing you said.
But from what he said he included that we never argue and are too nice to him.
What's that going to do? : \

[naoto]

well you can either both fall into the comfort zone and be fine with it or one of you will stop feeling it. A relationship is never in the honeymoon phase forever I suppose... the comfort zone is boring. I don't even know why. Basically both of you have to want to be in it.

some people say don't be as close, make things different, but honestly just relax. if it was meant to be it will work. A relationship where you both have to try to hard to keep it going isn't going to last anyway.

[The Pink Panda]

I've been in a relationship for over 3 and a half years and I have never had an argument with my bf and I LIKE IT THAT WAY! so I don't think random fighting and arguing is essential for spice.

Take a trip somewhere fun. Everyone loves an adventure.

[Ichiaru]

Thanks everyone. : )
I guess we'll have to see what happens. ^^
if there are more suggestions please post !

[darae]

But from what he said he included that we never argue and are too nice to him.
What's that going to do? : \

okay so me and my bf are both VERY passive
we don't like shouting, yelling
when we fight, we literally just say why we're mad and then give each other the silent treatment.

one time i told him, "hey lets fight! like yell and scream at each other"
and i could see that he was thinking about it
then we both looked at each other and simultaneously said "nawwwww" lol
in our relationship, we don't see the need to argue and fight....
but i guess some couples like that kind of passion? i dunno i can't relate to them. haha

are you guys passive? or is it only you?
i mean do you always just agree with what he says?
do you say your opinion and stand by it?
if he does/says something that kinda irritates you, do you tell him? <==this could lead to an argument lol

the next time he says that you're too nice to him
be really mean and he'll probably want the old you back. lol

well you can either both fall into the comfort zone and be fine with it or one of you will stop feeling it. A relationship is never in the honeymoon phase forever I suppose... the comfort zone is boring. I don't even know why. Basically both of you have to want to be in it.

some people say don't be as close, make things different, but honestly just relax. if it was meant to be it will work. A relationship where you both have to try to hard to keep it going isn't going to last anyway.

i agree that the butterflies in your stomach, sparks flying when we kiss definitely does disappear
however i think that in a relationship you always need to try to keep it going.
guys like the chase, if a girl just always puts herself out there for him, he gets bored.

[trippy<3]

well me and my bf have been going out for 13 months.
we've never had a full-out fight with yelling/screaming/kicking etc. lol
we argue but overall, we're both passive
but sometimes i did feel really bored and knew he felt the same too

i'd say don't see him as much.
try to go out with your friends more and just be busy
then he'll get jealous and crave for your attention
this is what i usually do if i feel like my bf's bored with me or if he's getting a tad too comfortable
i like to keep him on his toes. lol

or maybe you guys should get out of your comfort zone and do something you both would never have imagined.
sky diving, rock climbing, etc. <-- i guess this is if you're an adrenaline junkie

but honestly, couples do get bored of each other.
whether it's a routine (u guys do same thing all the time; go to movies, go out to eat)
or you guys just spend too much time with each other
if you spend too much time together, you'll never have a chance to miss him.

i always like to leave my bf with the thought like "aww but i don't want to go" rather than "damn,,i wanna go home"

i agree with what she says . spend time with your familia' or like , spend time with your girlfriends some more . i love keeping my boyfriend on his toes , he's always wanting more . OR play hard to get , that's my idea of keeping him on his toes .

[lil_miss_kawaii]

TO ME "spice it up" means ~ if yas get me

BUT ~ i am NOT saying you should do stuff just to spice it up

In a relationship it is completely natural to fall into a place where everything is comfortable and nothing is really moving
This is known as a "rut" haha

But if you wanna "spice it up" then I suggest trying new things together ~ like go on more dates, do random activities, start talking about things and discuss new things ~ Don't "ignore" things like you say and actually say what is on your mind etc
Get out of the routine I guess and try to be abit more spontaneous ~ I mean I am not saying go crazy! Just try new things like rather than go to the movies go to the theatre ~ etc ~ altho theatre can be boring too
OR try go-kart racing or batting cages or like a random trip to a country to go for a picnic and walk etc ~ swim in the lake

lol ~ just some suggestions
But also if you really dont want to do those ~ ASK HIM what he wants to do to make the relationship more "spicey" lol ~

COMMUNICATION IS KEY!

[StrwB3rry]

umm.
try to be a bit more touchy or something?
or use the same old moves you used on him when you guys werent dating..
do you know what i mean x.x
haha
gahh i hate it when i know what to say but i cant put it into words.
>.<"
just constantly tease him.

ooo
i used to play games with my ex
and i would set up whole search/game thing
i would make my friends make sure that we dont see each other for a day until later on
kind of like the thing in My secret Valentine by We the Kings (the MV)
(:

[NICONICO-Jin93]

try exploring new places together

[sukixyume]

What the hell? Damn my bf and I on the other hand, have too many arguments and fights with each other. Lol. We always patch things up though, I guess you guys can try doing things to make it more romantic or exciting. Go out to more places, do some outrageous but fun things together etc. People tend to get bored once that "honeymoon stage" wears off, I'm not sure what to make of it in your case.

[hishari]

If he says there's not arguments and you guys are too nice to each other, you should pick a fight with him.
Be careful what you wish for.

My bf and I on the other hand, argue and say horrific things to each other

[grainsofrain]

the passive is definitely better than arguing full in the face, imo.
guys can get aggressive.

maybe you should try spending time away from each other and definitely go out with friends whether individually or in groups, but don't always be around each other too much.
some couples might be okay with 24/7, but i'd say majority shouldn't be...

[plegend2007]

To me...it's a two way street lol. I don't think you should be the only one trying to spice it up for his sake, and instead, he should also put some effort into it if he wants things more spiced up.

Smack him in the head, ask him what he wants and you tell him the same...Both of you should communicate and come up with a viable solution that will make the both of you happy, and not just him. Both of you should meet half way and figure things out.

[Meenuh]

It is a problem if you NEVER argue. It doesn't have to be full blown arguments like yelling and shouting but for example.. when he asked you if you were getting bored and you said no and you just agreed with him. Is that how you actually felt or were you just indifferent about it and decided to agree or what? I have a feeling both of you hold your tongues a lot of the times you want to say something to eachother but you think you might offend one another so you just always agree with eachother.

If that's the case.. you shouldn't. A relationship is about communication and not about always agreeing with eachother. Sometimes in order to communicate you need to voice your opinions, your wants, your hurts and so forth. Start speaking up for yourself and actually saying what you WANT to say but obviously there are certain things you shouldn't say but that's really up to you and your common sense to figure out.

[FusionGT2]

You guys could always try to do things out of the ordinary. Go for a long distance trip or maybe go go-karting.. all i know is that people get bored cuz they are slated on a daily routine. Once you break this routine, some excitement will spark and things will be interesting again.

[bipolar{polarbear}]

I used to think I was bored too. But back then everything seemed unappealing. It could just be a phase. You should either talk to him about it or give him some time to think about what he said (if you think he was serious about what he said).

[bboyKdash]

truth be told if you don't it to be boring, you guys ARE in your 6 months, just sleep with him LOL.
I mean that's logical right?[= haha. It's just a fact of life that everyone has hormones that need to be satisfied! ahaha

[leejunkified]

To me...it's a two way street lol. I don't think you should be the only one trying to spice it up for his sake, and instead, he should also put some effort into it if he wants things more spiced up.

Smack him in the head, ask him what he wants and you tell him the same...Both of you should communicate and come up with a viable solution that will make the both of you happy, and not just him. Both of you should meet half way and figure things out.

^ I agree. Your boyfriend is being kinda... lazy wanting you to be the one to take the initiative. So just ask him "why" he´s bored and "how" you two can change that, and try to fogure things out.