[CHOMP!]

Hello,

I'm just wondering how you knew when to break up with your partner. What finally caused you to do it?
This is directed more at the serious relationships, but less serious ones can contribute, too.

Maybe you just "know", but how did you "know". What emotions, actions and thoughts pushed you to do it?

Thank you!

[ChocoRain]

When you don't love him/her anymore.

[BaboJen]

When you don't have feelings for them anymore. duh.
Or when you can't stand staying with them.

[Apple.Mint]

when i realized being with him was unhealthy
we would always fight even over the tiniest issue
and finally, one last fight that broke us apart =O
so it's not cuz i stopped having feelings for him
i still loved him very much at that time, in fact, it took over half a year for me to even stop hurting whenever i see him [and that's everyday]
and a year later, i am indifference toward him yay! hahah
so my factor was, i realized we're unhappy

[CHOMP!]

^ i am kind of in your situation, and idk if i should stay or not..

we fight pretty frequently though it's not outrageous or anything
and i'm not unhappy.. but i'm usually not happy either
and i definately still care about him a lot..

[naoto]

just fighting shouldn't be a reason for break up. That is never the reason unless it gets physically fighting.

My experience is odd. One disappeared on me because she did not like me anymore. One I dumped because she was too clingy. One I just had nothing to say to and we ended it. I've never been in a relationship where it ends because there is nothing left to say.

[sw33t_innoc3nt]

well my situation is kinda odd... cos he was cheating on me...

not that he stopped liking me or vice versa... but i guess at that point... the trust just isn't there anymore...

so i guess... trust is gone....

[PandaKiss]

From my friend's experience,
it's when the relationship becomes a routine? (can't find another word.)
& when it becomes one sided ...

[pretty_tin7]

When you think your relationship with him is killing you off.
When there's no more trust nor love.
When you feel like there's Nothing in your relationship that can make you happy.
When he does something bad to you like cheats on you or abuse,etc
Sometimes you would just wake up and feel like there's nothing to treasure in your relationship.

@sw33t_innoc3nt: My situation was like yours.
We still love each other but you know it's wrong cuz he cheated on you
and you just have to break it off...

[Tranberry]

When you're not happy anymore...or you spend more time being unhappy vs. happy.
Also, if you start making excuses to see him/her less often than you would.
When you don't feel excited at all to see him/her or you feel like it's something you HAVE to do rather than something you WANT to do.
That's how I felt.

[rawrasaur]

When you can't make yourself happy with it anymore.
There's rarely a clear cut time to break off a relationship (unless there's cheating or something dramatic). It's always going to be hard. But I guess you just have to ask yourself "am I going to be happier when we break up or when we stay together?"
There's pain to both sides, but it's when you think ultimately you'll be better off apart then that's the time to break up

[Charry]

When you realize your life with him is like without him.
No more emotion toward him, u realize u don't like him anymore
The bad outweights the good and u can't take it anymore
the relationship has brought too much stress to your life
You don't want to see him as much anymore
When u're very bored of him? D: lol

[sw33t_innoc3nt]

When you think your relationship with him is killing you off.
When there's no more trust nor love.
When you feel like there's Nothing in your relationship that can make you happy.
When he does something bad to you like cheats on you or abuse,etc
Sometimes you would just wake up and feel like there's nothing to treasure in your relationship.

@sw33t_innoc3nt: My situation was like yours.
We still love each other but you know it's wrong cuz he cheated on you
and you just have to break it off...

yea... the cheating thing is just unbearbable....
after going through that... even if i WANTED to keep going, i know i wouldn't be able to...
in arguments, the cheating thing will always come back up and it'll just hurt both of us...
so i guess it's better
but hey... i'm happi that i made that decision.. even tho it was hard...
now i have a wonderful loving bf

[vi3tazntoan]

Well I cheat on my half a year gf with my 2 year ex, so she end up breaking up with me but we got back together sometime after.
But, Nothing was the same after that, everyday she would cry or get depress from the past, and it kill our relationship. I know Im an ass, but, well no but, I know what i did was wrong, and Im sorry, and regret it very much.

[ANYOTHERDAY]

When you just don't want to cry over him/her anymore.

[squishybear]

When you just don't see yourself with your partner anymore.

Or when you've reached a point where you're hurting yourself being in the relationship than being without them.

[lostedminds]

When you no longer think about him/her as much or at all
When seeing him/her upsets you
When he/she can not make you happy again
When no longer want to kiss/hug him/her

those were my symptoms but in the end, he ended the relationship w. me because I was not sure if I can end it

[kellyalster]

Lacking emotional/physical passion.
Doubting compatibility and potential for a future.
The routines aren't fun anymore and they become more like chores.

Personally, I was dating a wonderful man, and I loved him because he did everything right. But we were totally different people. When I felt I had to try to enjoy the things we did together, I knew it wasn't fair to string him along on a one-sided relationship. It was hard for me to hurt him, but breaking up was better for the both of us.

[nickynisa]

idk since i never date

from my friend's experience, when he starts to change.. when he always find excuses.. when he no longer spend time together.. when he hardly text..

poor my friend.. she should dump that guy before he dumped her..

[Saeria]

If you meant serious relationship as in a relationship where you both legitimately love each other (and not infatuation) then it's hard to say. I believe if you've loved someone once you'll always love them to a certain extent. I don't mean this as in you'll always be unbelievably in love with them, but I believe if you've truly loved someone, they'll always have a part of your heart. As time goes by, they'll fade into the background, but you'll still have feelings for that person (they don't have to be romantic feelings).

I'm speaking from experience when I say this:

Regardless of how much you love the person, if the relationship isn't healthy, it's time to put an end to it. If the person you're with is unwilling to meet you half way and as a result you get hurt from it, it's time to end it. If you're giving to the point where you're not receiving much in return (emotionally, not materialistically) then it's time to end it.

Always end a relationship if it's unhealthy.