[saranghaeyoforever]

Ok well the title is pretty self explanatory .. .__. basically i like this guy *lets call him Bob* well Bob lives in a different state (he moved last summer) lets just pretend theres a state called Kangarooland (<-- LOL idk random) and i still talk to him ALOT. but then i always tell my girl friend *lets call her Girl* about him and how cool he is and then i realize later on that i dont want her knowing anything anymore between me and Bob because i find myself getting jealous over the stupidest things even if there is like A LITTLE interaction or mentioning between them >_> i know ... selfish and immature of me right? ;_; but i cant help it .. argg! i hate this feeling... my mom always told me not to tell anything to my girl friends about my guy friends or vise versa because eventually theyll end up stealing them away or something like that

am i being TOO selfish? ;__; do you guys ever feel this way? :{

[plegend2007]

If you're are paranoid and act jealous b/c you're afraid of someone stealing him away from you, even though he is not your bf yet...Guess what, you'll end up losing him anyways.

It's normal to be jealous to a point, but over doing it will end up costing you, not only him, but maybe your friendship as well.

If you're confident and you feel confident, then you have nothing to worry about. The more paranoid or jealous you act, the more chance of you losing him to begin with.

[exclaim!]

Your mom is kinda right.
I kinda feel the way you do right now cause I told one of my best girlfriends that I like this guy, who's one of my closest friends.
And all of a sudden she starts flirting with him a lot and even touching him, A LOT.
It makes me angry but she's a.. good friend?

[daisy]

Bottom line, he is not your bf. Since he lives in a different state, shouldnt you been more worried about the girls NEAR him? If he liked you, no one can "steal" him away.

[Nine]

Lol Kangarooland.

Your moms right though, some things are better kept unsaid.
If your feeling jealous about it then just stop telling your friend.

[xspringrollsx]

Though theres nothing wrong with you for feeling jealous. You're human and I guess as a friend she should keep a bit if a distance if she knows that you like him?

Though on the other hand theres no such thing as "stealing". He can have more than one friend. If he somehow ends up liking your friend this just shows he wasn't interested you. But since you're interested in him you should "up your game" a little so that he knows that you're interested to see if he likes you too? but theres no reason why he shouldn't speak to other girls besides you.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

insecurity can be a type of unattractiveness and your moms not helping either. instead of focusing how other people are better than you why dont you focus on what qualities you feel you are good in? everybody has a value and if the guy you like doesnt see it......why would you wanna have him as a bf?

[kimmi.kami]

Your mom is right, never tell any of your friends about your guy crush. Cuz i did, and then she wrote on her MSN PM "Why did you let him kiss you?"
and she messged the guy that LIKED ME, she said "Your too late" and he said "I know"
and now he likes another girl
>< while i like him.
but i feel like giving up. ehh.

[azurette]

Your mom is kinda right.
I kinda feel the way you do right now cause I told one of my best girlfriends that I like this guy, who's one of my closest friends.
And all of a sudden she starts flirting with him a lot and even touching him, A LOT.
It makes me angry but she's a.. good friend?

Ahhhh I went through the same thing recently.

Ignorance is bliss, that's the lesson learnt.

[StephyT]

OH, don't even worry. I'm paranoid about EVERYTHING. I guess it's just 'trust issues?'
I think you should just calm down, cus if you just have the mindset that everything is okay, at least it'll seem that way, right??

I know...bad advice. Sorry...haha.

[Rainbow-lotus]

HE IS NOT YOURS. I think u need to focus on self improvement, if u r getting jealous and stuff over lil things. Wait until u grow up... u might get worse

[damyoungji]

I don't blame you for being paranoid. Everyone has some jealousy in them over stuff like these. Even if you aren't a couple with him, it is normal to be paranoid that your friend will steal him away or something. Your friend knows that you think he is cool, but does she know that you like him?

I don't recall experiencing something similar to this with any of my crushes. However, I do recall the experience of my ex-best friends talking to my ex-boyfriend. My ex-best friends go to different schools (we attended the same elementary school and high school), so they knew him by adding him on Facebook without telling me. I was really annoyed because they will talk to him and knowing them, they will spill stuff about me "without knowing or remembering it" (one of the reasons as to why I am no longer friends with them since they often told people stuff because "they couldn't help it"). In the end, I warned them about not saying anything about my previous crushes or anything personal about me to him. I guess they got the hint since they deleted him off their friend's list.