[xoxoknlove]

its about my dad

okay first off, before you read this, you need to know a few things.

01 - my dad is abusive. i was abused from 2 years old to around 11 years old and so was my mom
02 - me&my brother told our principle about it when we were 9 and was sent to see a social worker (with dad)
RESULT= my dad decided to blame everything bad that happened on america's government
03 - my dad got sent to jail after we called 911 because he beat up my mom (in jail for 3 monthes) and snaked his back to our house
04 - in september 2008, my dad accused my mom of being a "prostitute" and yelled at her and called her names until jan 2009, she moved out of my house after my dad threatened to kill her and her friends
05 - i now live with my dad and brother. my mom comes and sees me once a week
06 - my dad is jobless and my mom pays for everything

my dad is typical asian person (the dad is always the head of the family no matter what; we listen, he yells; his needs come first; he is always right). he b*tches at every little thing you do. like when i finished my hw at 2 o clock at night and forgot to eat cherries, he said that i was super picky, had expensive taste, and started calling me names in chinese. something accidentally falls= "you are not a girl, girls are suppose to be gentle and behave, you are so aggressive (followed by more bad names)"

i don't see how he thinks he is so supreior when he is jobless. he even threatened to kick my mom out of the house (it was hilarious! especially when she pays the rent) he tells me that i like good food and that we don't have money for it (yet he buys cigarettes and alcohol...right.)

if he doesn't know anything, he makes up assumptions and b*tches at me. he asked me if i was hungry and i said no. he asked me again and again (because he has bad hearing) and then i said NO loudly and said i had attitude.

he wanted to use me and my brother to persuade my mom home. he said to tell her that he wouldn't yell at her anymore... truth is, he talks BS about her to all our relatives and makes up sh*t so it'll look like he is the victim and my mom is that evil women


so now i'm fed up with him and his attitude
i literary want to kill him or let him abuse me and i'll call 911 and he'll spend the rest of his life in jail




i know i'm messed up... i just really want to hear what everyone else has to say





EDIT why i'm not living with my mom? she won't tell anyone where she lives; why? because when my dad got out of jail, he wasn't allowed to get near my mom (restriction order? idk what its called). he instead used me and my brother to get near my mom and snake his way back in our family... she's afraid it'll happen again...

idk really

[-_-]

Why aren't you staying with your mom?

[lishabeast]

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im so sorry..

if you need anyone to talk to im here
i went through something like this too..
but i wasnt abused physically but mentally..
it does hurt and i can see that your really hurt,
right now for me my family is getting back together slowly.
Like my dad was like an acholic-ish person..i didnt see him much and i kinda lived with my mom..
like..i homestay at someones house because my mom lived in korea...
i know it hurts to see your dad yell at you and stuff..
but remember that there are always people there for you from the internet, to real life!
always keep a smile on your face and laugh
thats how i get through my days... but when in really sad.. i just cry.
crying makes everything better!!
and since im christian i always think of God and pray to him when im sad
i hope your okay hunny D <3

[aiyan]

Oh wow....

Are your parents divorced? I suggest they get divorced and your brother and you go live with your mom. How does your mom feel about this whole situation? All I know is that you guys should definitely not be living with someone like him. Call 911 if things get really bad, but I really think you should report him for what he did (abuse, calling you names, etc)

Your dad sounds like a terrible father, who takes no responsibility and assumes no role as a father. Was he always like this?

[小甜密]

You can't move in with your mom?

[Meenuh]

Why aren't you staying with your mom?

Exactly what I was thinking. I would do everything and anything I could do to stay with my mom in a situation like yours. Then your mom doesn't have to work her ass off to pay his rent.

[xoxoknlove]

Why aren't you staying with your mom?

why i'm not living with my mom? she won't tell anyone where she lives; why? because when my dad got out of jail, he wasn't allowed to get near my mom (restriction order? idk what its called). he instead used me and my brother to get near my mom and snake his way back in our family... she's afraid it'll happen again...

idk really

[cand12]

Ok.. so this is just my opinion.
I really think that staying with your mom is the best way.
Your mom is paying the rent and everything because of YOU nad YOUR BROTHER.
It it wasn't for you guys, she might've just run away without paying him anything.
Who knows that your mom actually truly love your dad (but it's rare at this era...)

Anyway, what i am afraid of is that,
your father might start abusing you as how he abused your mom.
His normal victim (=your mom) is gone, and now he might be trying to find a replacement for that (=you).
Maybe i am being to extreme, but this is just all my assumption, you better be careful.
No matter how much you hate your dad till the point that you want to kill him,
please don't do stupid things like you hit him etc, he's still your parent,
without him you wouldn't be born.

Yeah so, idk if your brother likes it staying with your dad. But it would be good if you and your brother can stay with your mom, and just live, trying to not exposing where you live to your dad.
You can visit him sometimes too

[thesisoflove]

Get your parents to divorce, your dad is such an A$$hole.
Most likely, the judge would put you and your brother with your mom, and your dad can do whatever the hell he wants.
Since he has been to jail, you guys have been abused, I don't think the judge would really want to put you guys with him.

[grey_ic3.]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. If your dad has done enough for your mom to get a restraining order, perhaps that can be used as a reason for you to live with your mom - since he poses a threat to your mom, he probably is a big threat to you and your brother.

[-_-]

^ That's another thing like Delianna said.. are your parents getting divorced? Your mom will probably end up getting full custody.

why i'm not living with my mom? she won't tell anyone where she lives; why? because when my dad got out of jail, he wasn't allowed to get near my mom (restriction order? idk what its called). he instead used me and my brother to get near my mom and snake his way back in our family... she's afraid it'll happen again...

idk really

I understand that she wants to keep it secretive away from your dad but have you asked her about being able to live with her? If so, what was her answer? Since she has a restraining order against him, he won't be able to come close to your mom's residence or else he'd be arrested. So pretty much if you stay with her, you won't see him around.

From what it seems the situation with your dad won't improve because he has a history of being abusive and those people rarely change, in fact they usually get worse. In a way it's sad to leave your dad like this but you can't change someone with anger problems without getting them professional help.

Pretty much your mom has the responsibility to provide a safer environment to you and your brother.