[musicpoplove]

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please c;pse

[naoto]

you are not a slut. actually a lot of girls look for what you said, bad boy type but not bad boy. Being flirty is okay, some people are.

what I think:

I think you are just growing up. nobody thinks like you do forever, it's a phase! you couldn't last like this for 20 years anyway there will be someone who impresses you so much and makes you think about him and not anyone else. Best of all, he will be nothing like what you ask for. He might be dorky, he might be the same age as you, feelings have no rules.

I do not think your bad experience made you afraid of relationships. There are guys who will pamper you and never hurt you, but you don't care. Maybe you are just not looking to be tied down right now. A lot of people want to be free and do whatever they want. Maybe you are pretty and are used to attention, so you know you can get any guy you want. Don't take that badly, if it's true it's true right? Nothing wrong with it. I laughed a little bit when you said when you were young though. You are ... under 20 yes? That is young If you don't have a significant other, you are free to do whatever you want so stop thinking there's a problem. It's your life.

Going back to being flirty. Make sure you don't hurt the guys though. Guys will fall for you if you do that, and you know it already. Let them know you aren't leading them towards a serious relationship or anything from the start. Is it bad to kiss multiple people, most people will say so. Holding hands with multiple people is okay, nudging and hugging is okay, kissing is a bit over the line I think. But up to you~ I am trying to lightly restrain your actions in my opinion (which you asked for). Kissing multiple people is not really a good thing. Everything else, I have friends who do that.

[Swtess]

^agreed.

Although you do sound quite promiscuous but I think its due to the fact that you're afraid of commitments and full of doubts. A lot of adults act the way you do. They prefer hooking up instead of settling down with just one person. Its not bad to hang out and kiss multiple people but thats in the eyes of adults. I'm not sure how young you are, but probably around the teens and at that age, some are very immature and likes to trash talk one another.

Back then I was sort of like you minus actually hooking up with guys and whatnots. I had a very negative view on relationships and prefer the no strings attached. But once you find that special someone, your whole outlook is different.