[laffly]

Sorry if there's already a similar topic. I did a search and couldn't find anything.


I've just realized I (playfully) hit my boyfriend a lot-- when he teases me, when he says something I don't like, when he makes corny jokes.
*smack, smack, smack*

I usually slap him on the arm or push his shoulder. I didn't realize I was doing this so much until he pointed it out.
I don't know if he finds it annoying. I'd ask him but, I have a feeling he'd just say that it doesn't bother him to make me happy. He's the type of guy that's too nice to complain about my actions and puts up with a lot of my bullcrap.


Guys, do you mind when your girlfriend playfully hits you? How do you feel about it? What if she does it often? Would you tell her it bugs you?

Girls, do you playfully hit your boyfriend? How frequently? Does he ever comment on it?

[Peti]

I hate it, i see my sister do it to her boyfriend as a sign of control.

Either it's equal or i will have to go Chris brown on my girl.

[ShadowMax76]

if it bugged me. she'd know.

[dramaprincessxox]

I personally hate to see other girls hitting their boyfriends every minute and my advice to you is: stop. Guys like a certain level of respect, you know? Just as you would be irritated and it might even hurt if your boyfriend smacked you every minute. Hitting your boyfriend needlessly is a sure sign that you shouldn't even have a boyfriend as yet--you're still too immature.

Note-worthy advice from my favourite Spanish teacher back in high school: "If you keep hitting the boy, and one day he gives you one HARD slap...you looked for it." LOL she was the best.

The only time a guy deserves a slap is if he does something really, really stupid and hurtful. Stupid and hurtful enough for you to dump him, anyway, so the idea is, if you're going to backhand him on his face,
1. Make sure he deserves it so much that he won't have the nerve to hit you back.
2. Be sure that you don't intend to go crawling back to him with tearful apologies because you just can't live without him...

'Nuff said, sister. Restrain your itching little hands. He's a man, not a plaything.

Either it's equal or i will have to go Chris brown on my girl.

My goodness, did you listen to yourself while thinking this, and read it over after writing it? If you don't like the girl's behaviour, what is so hard about simply leaving her like a gentleman? Why do you feel the need to retaliate so violently, a man would know that the girl is still weaker than himself and he would have some kind of decency. Just because the girl is stupid doesn't mean you also must act the clown. You're another one who shouldn't be in any relationship, and I'm serious. You're still thinking like a little boy. After all that happened to Chris Brown, you can actually say a thing like that? Or do you not understand the meaning of what you just said?

[minjin]

Yeah i playfully hit him sometimes but because he says really bad things~xD but i dont even touch him. Just slap his bareback and when i stroke his face (like it would be a slap) then i kiss him immediately.

Its not like i do it hard hihi

[meiming8]

um I hope they don't...because I think if my boyfriend did our relationship would have been over before it even started!

I always hit my boyfriend...not slap around the face, or anything really hard, but we always shove each other and playfully hit each other. We did even before we were going out, but we're not a really romantic couple, more like a jokey couple. He's mentioned it a few times how I'm 'violent', but I think he's just joking because I never hit him hard. Anyway, the only times I think he might be annoyed is when he shoves me, and then I stop, lol. But we would never hurt each other or insult each other for real.

Probably different guys feel differently about it...in our relationship, I would never feel like it's a sign of disrespect, and I doubt he would either

[-_-]

I guess I used to be more playfully physically abusive when I was younger. But as you get older you just grow out of it.

[[JhK]]

if its playful! yay yay! but if it hurts and its constantly done yeah...

[carmy]

i always playfully hit my guy friends.

sometimes its a hard slap though... but thts when theyre being jerks

[Kirei_BoA]

i do that, but i think you have to be aware of how hard, how much, and where you do it. like most of my friends don't mind being slapped on the arm or shoulder, but they HATE being slapped on the head. it's like as if your mom is punishing you kinda thing. also if you do it too hard, of course it's not cool. if you do it a lot, they will get annoyed. too much of anything is never good.

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

Apparently. if it hurts, they mind.
I do the same things too and I didn't know my punches&slaps hurt, but my exbf and I got into an argument once about it.. o__o
Gotta find me a diesel guy, ahahaha.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

i do it sometimes, if they do something wrong or tease me. they ask for it and personally i think they like it if i hit them...........because it gives them a 'go' to um.......'wrestle'. if you know what i mean. lol

[darae]

My goodness, did you listen to yourself while thinking this, and read it over after writing it? If you don't like the girl's behaviour, what is so hard about simply leaving her like a gentleman? Why do you feel the need to retaliate so violently, a man would know that the girl is still weaker than himself and he would have some kind of decency. Just because the girl is stupid doesn't mean you also must act the clown. You're another one who shouldn't be in any relationship, and I'm serious. You're still thinking like a little boy. After all that happened to Chris Brown, you can actually say a thing like that? Or do you not understand the meaning of what you just said?

yeah i think he thought it sounded cool or something.
lol. think before you type man.

i don't like seeing girls socking guys thinking that it won't hurt.
fyi, guys do feel pain. they aren't all macho and superman.

[siyeon]

I think some of the posters on here are being really sensitive about this!
I mean, she said it was playful hitting/slapping, not smacking him in the face for every offense.
Regardless or race, age, whatever, I've seen all types of people playfully slap at people (children, significant others, friends).. It's not a big deal.

To the OP, I think you should be able to tell if he is annoyed by it. If you slap him and he laughs and jokes around, then he's probably okay with it. (But don't do it TOO much...) And if you slap him and he's like, emotionless, or acts slightly uncomfortable with you, then most likely, he wants you to stop but can't say anything. Tune into his reactions.

But honestly, if you avoid the face/head, most guys do NOT care. It's loving, joking physical contact, and it's by your own girlfriend.
I used to smack my boyfriend around all the time (not abusively, just playing around, teasing him) and he never once got mad or said anything about it. One time I asked him if I was annoying because I hit him all the time and he said "no I barely even notice" (which might be because I did it so much, or because he was trying to act manly )

Just try to see how his reactions are. And really, there is nothing wrong with actually asking him about it. Maybe he'll lie, but maybe he won't. Who knows, unless you ask?

[laffly]

I would never slap him or hit him anywhere on his head. But yeah I guess I should tone it down a bit. It's not like I think about hitting him though. It just comes out before I even realize what I'm doing. LOL.
poor guy

[Snowy_Angel]

umm lol posters? shes just saying playfully, and when he says or does somethign stupid. so I understand what predicament ur in and just be urself but maybe tone it down and/or ask him if he does or doesnt like it =) theres no harm in doing so,

[catheezy]

I think some of the posters on here are being really sensitive about this!
I mean, she said it was playful hitting/slapping, not smacking him in the face for every offense.
Regardless or race, age, whatever, I've seen all types of people playfully slap at people (children, significant others, friends).. It's not a big deal.

To the OP, I think you should be able to tell if he is annoyed by it. If you slap him and he laughs and jokes around, then he's probably okay with it. (But don't do it TOO much...) And if you slap him and he's like, emotionless, or acts slightly uncomfortable with you, then most likely, he wants you to stop but can't say anything. Tune into his reactions.

But honestly, if you avoid the face/head, most guys do NOT care. It's loving, joking physical contact, and it's by your own girlfriend.
I used to smack my boyfriend around all the time (not abusively, just playing around, teasing him) and he never once got mad or said anything about it. One time I asked him if I was annoying because I hit him all the time and he said "no I barely even notice" (which might be because I did it so much, or because he was trying to act manly )

Just try to see how his reactions are. And really, there is nothing wrong with actually asking him about it. Maybe he'll lie, but maybe he won't. Who knows, unless you ask?

[forgottenmemories]

I do hit my boyfriend, but not that much. I hope he doesn't get annoyed. =X

[JASON;]

haha im sure no bf would care.
its just palyful

[~dhluvr4ever~]

yeah i think he thought it sounded cool or something.
lol. think before you type man.

i don't like seeing girls socking guys thinking that it won't hurt.
fyi, guys do feel pain. they aren't all macho and superman.

LOL. true.
i don't think guys like it at all.
you know, their ego and such.xD
but maybe playfully, like lightly then
maybe.