[CONSTANCE]

so i was introduced to a friend of a good friend of mine. I started talking to him, we hit it off right away. We have been talking a lot of the times, but we only saw each other once since Ive been too busy with school and work etc. Anyways, the conversations that we have been having have been dying and I'm not interested in him anymore. I'm just completely booked with other things so I stopped texting and calling him. Ever since then, hes been CONSTANTLY calling and texting me like crazy, to the point where I'm just getting pissed off. He's using up my texts with two words, its so annoying ugh. Everytime he does call and I pick up without even seeing who is calling, he gets dramatic and all emotional on me saying how I dont care and how I cant even spare 10 minutes of my day to see how he is doing. Then he started rambling on and on about how he has 3 jobs and he still has the time to think about me or call me. Now, since i have finals and research papers due REALLY soon as in next week, I havent been sleeping and been forgetting to eat a lot of the times. I told him this, and he went ballistic on me. I ended up putting my phone down and let him vent lol. I once forgot to answer his call long time ago and he went nuts on me. Hes a really nice guy and I get that he means well kinda? .... but its getting really annoying and I cant even stand it anymore and I have my own problems. I'm not a mean person, so I told him whats been going on but his reaction towards me is too emotional and dramatic for me to even handle.

This is probably a simple problem and no big deal lol, but what should i tell him? I dont wanna be a bitc* and tell him to f*ck off or anything. He really seems to like me, but hes blowing everything out of proportion. Thanks a bunch


edit-- thanks for the response you guys! he called again and again, i picked up and b*tched at him. I seriously cannot handle the clingy/needy/emotional/ dramatic type, i really cant. I hope he never calls me again, erased his number and everything. Thanks again!

[StephyT]

Just tell him that you need to focus on school and live your own life.
If he really needs to hear it, maybe you should tell him that you don't have time for a relationship, and maybe he'll back off.
But if you do like him still, you could just politely mention that he's too clingy.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

yes this is a big problem or could lead to something thats even more serious. he is now dependent on you. i would see this situation appropriate to be a bi.tch. because he needs to know. hes using up all your text limits and basically is selfish with your time. he is not respecting the line and now he seems to be causing you some emotional frustration. its time to take care of it. the next time he calls tell him you dont want to be his friend anymore and to stop calling you or texting you because thats harassment.

[jhealizzie]

tell him that he's annoying.
that's it!
aha XD

seriously, you just have to tell him what you really think/feel, so that he will understand you.
and if he still don't get you, Ditch him.

[ShadowMax76]

rofl.. i just think of a two year old that has the capability of using a mobile and expressing it's feelings as good as a 14year old.

neh.. don't put up with it. it only allows him to continue.

[_dax_]

It seems he isn't handling the stress associated with his three jobs well and resting on people he feels close as a way of relief or support.
Everyone needs a good rest to keep their mental health in check but dealing with an overly needy person is tricky if you want to keep a relationship in tact. Best to arrange a good talk with him, perhaps at a coffee shop and tell him your point of view, needing some distance.
At least this would give him a little heads up for your absence. If he does continue to pester at least you know you did what you could.
However keep an eye on him, he may be dealing with the beginnings of depression.

[cowsie]

Wow i would ignore him all the way to the end. I can't stand guys that's so emotional and clingy. Wow, please ignore and text him straight up 'stop texting me'. If you give me your phone I'll do that for you!

[moot11]

Obvious that the guy likes you. Just tell him the truth, and end it.

[plegend2007]

If you don't nip this in the bud...It will get worse and worse.

I know you don't want to come across as the B-word, but sometimes you have to do, what you have to do. Be ASSERTIVE and let him know what "time" it is, and how you won't put up with his nonsense. If you have to get nasty or something, don't feel bad or guilty b/c it's obvious your methods that you have been using isn't working or he is not responding to them the way you hoped it would. Honestly, he is bringing this upon himself, so it's time to let him know in a way that he gets ittttttt.

Good luck and stay strong.

[aiyan]

I see your edit; good for you! He was way too psychotic.

[_dax_]

Your update: There is a difference between being assertive with sensibility and without.
I wonder if he understood your flaming message since it was over the phone and not face to face.
Did you let him explain himself as to why he has been acting the way he has?
It could be a sign of drugs, illness, family crisis etc.
As a friend it would have been better to find this out first, inform the school counselor, then dismiss him.
I would think you would handle it a bit more mature have being entered university..

Cheers

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Tell him you ain't his girlfriend.

[Kraka]

Slap him and tell him to man up. He's being a pansy.

[AzNsk8er4Lyfe]

tell him to F**k off and stop calling you.

[CONSTANCE]

Your update: There is a difference between being assertive with sensibility and without.
I wonder if he understood your flaming message since it was over the phone and not face to face.
Did you let him explain himself as to why he has been acting the way he has?
It could be a sign of drugs, illness, family crisis etc.
As a friend it would have been better to find this out first, inform the school counselor, then dismiss him.
I would think you would handle it a bit more mature have being entered university..

Cheers

I'm not his friend, we talked couple of times, texting each other back and forth. I hardly know the guy.
I actually did ask him, but he kept saying "i dont know, i dont know, why cant you just live your life??"
He's 27 and already went through college. I, on the other hand, am currently in college and I have so many things to do and certain deadlines to meet. I mean, if he was straightforward with me or did something rather than send me useless text messages stating "call me" x 100 all the time, then yeah i would have listened to him. He doesnt even say anything when we are on the phone. I clearly told him I had papers to do and finals are coming up, so we should talk later. His response was to let loose and live my life because I'm so young. YEAH I do, but after I complete my priorities FIRST, then ill play. I work hard, but play hard too. He clearly was not respecting that.... and I got fed up with it. He just added onto my stress even more. And he lives far away, so there is no way we could have met, so phone is definately the only way I can say anything to him.

sigh.

[Kraka]

tell him to F**k off and stop calling you.

AHAHAHA! Nice one man! This gave me a good laugh.

Get a new cell phone # and it's GFG for him and leave a voicemail on your old phone as AHAHAHAHA.