[spikeyhair91]

I will never get married. You will never have freetime to yourself, it is a huge financial burden also,it is too much commitment.

I can rant on how bad it is.

My parents expect for me to get married ,u know how korean parents are when it comes to this. I told them i will never get marry ,instead just mess around with multiple partners which i been doing all the time.

What do you people think about marriage? Is it bad or a good thing? Many people have different view on this.

[daulism]

You should go buy a shirt.

[dramaprincessxox]

Well, you sound like a guy, which would make it a bit weird that you're saying this. I could be wrong, but marriage is not as bad for guys.

As a girl I am seriously rethinking this marriage thing. I am in no hurry. I see nothing exciting about doing housework everyday for the rest of my life, or about getting married to the wrong man and then having to get a divorce. Too much drama, even for me.

About commitment (Is that what you were trying to type?) I don't have a problem with that. I don't get tired of people and the guy I like becomes the only man I can see. Almost literally.

Again I have to say this: you guys need to stop talking about your parents in that manner; Korean parents are not the worst in the world, I am sure they don't deserve the way all of you talk about them all across the internet for every damn body in the world to see. You don't want to get married; fine. Just don't. Try to leave your "Korean parents" out of it. lol.

[choochootrang]

You sound like a defiant child. "I'm not going to ___ because you want me to!"

And this:

I told them i will never get marry ,instead just mess around with multiple partners which i been doing all the time.

is not something to be proud of.

[spikeyhair91]

instead just mess around with multiple partners which i been doing all the time. Tell me what is wrong with this?

[dramaprincessxox]

You don't even know that messing around with multiple partners when you know you aren't serious about them...is wrong? There's a word for guys like that--Player
Although I don't even know if you check M or F on a registration form, so whatever...

But that's a very messed up way to live! You need to stop doing that to yourself and also hurting the feelings of those you "mess around" with.

[chilovesjj]

Just because you want to screw around with a load of different people, doesn't mean that marriage is bad. It just means that you are too immature and afraid of commitment to have a serious relationship. And being married isn't really a huge financial burden. (Having children is, if you decide to, but if you wait until you have enough money then it's not so bad) You can get married relatively cheaply depending on how you do it, and after that, most couples pool their resources (income) and buy a house together instead of on their own so surely financially it's actually beneficial?

As for time alone- you probably won't be with your partner while you (and/or she) is at work, which is probably a substantial part of your week. Aside from that, you can still go out with friends etc separately from each other. But tbh, if you're married then you generally like being around that person and don't mind that you are with them a lot of the time.. xD

As choochootrang said, you just sound like a bratty child, rebelling and refusing to get married just because it's what your parents want for you. They don't want you to get married just for their own benefit, they want you to find someone who you can be happy with, build a future with. You say there's nothing wrong with just screwing around instead, so go on ahead if you want. Bang any slut who'll take you, then when you're too old and too ugly to get laid anymore, you'll spend the last few decades of your life alone. Have fun. ^^

(Btw, saw your post in the other thread and it's... really very pathetic to boast that you have sex 3 times a week with different partners and lost your virginity at 13. It's not something to be proud of. I guess when you grow up a bit you'll realize that for yourself.)

[xAzumi]

I have the same mindet as you!

For me, I know its requires two people to learn to love eachother through up and downs, financial stress, and trust.

I can never see myself get married because of my parent's relationship with eachother so I am afraid that how my relationship will turn out.
If so, I will rather live a single style until I died, and help my family & relatives & friends.

My mother will always say, "learn to cook for your husband, clean the house more often, do good in school to help your children, respect your mother in law, and be a great daughter in law, I really believe in you."

I am tired of all the nagging, now its like, find a good husband, before they will always tell me, "no boyfriend until you graduate university."

I believe if the person really loves me he will need to wait for to graduate with a master degree and further. I believe both partners need to be financial stable, because its a tough world out there, you need money to get stuff, and prepare for children's future. I see many people are campatible with eachother, but when I view myself, I feel I insecure in a relationship, because I never had one, and I am still at a young age. My parents hope I will change my views before I am tooo old to have kid, since they want grandchildren.

More stress.

[J-10]

i dont really hate the marriage. i hate the wedding day and the planning though

[jaeka]

^ Same. A lot of money and hassle for one day.

[mrskimjinho]

i dont really hate the marriage. i hate the wedding day and the planning though

Which is the reason why more and more people opt for a very simple wedding. Screw the expensive dresses, tuxes, flowers, food, rings, and whatever else. I'd much rather have a nice, quiet, simple backyard wedding with max 50 people ..and then have an awesome honeymoon in Fiji and look forward to spending the best times of my life with my hubby.

As for you, OP, you sound like an immature little child yearning for attention by boasting about your nonexistent sex life with disease-ridden skanks. Have fun with your STDs.

[heheimawesome]

i think when you find the right person that you love enough it'll make you WANT to get married.

whats the point of dating and having sex with other girls when you've found the only person you want to be with right?

[colloquy]

Many people don't get married, even if they're in an exclusive relationship. An example is Oprah and her boyfriend.

[J-10]

Which is the reason why more and more people opt for a very simple wedding. Screw the expensive dresses, tuxes, flowers, food, rings, and whatever else. I'd much rather have a nice, quiet, simple backyard wedding with max 50 people ..and then have an awesome honeymoon in Fiji and look forward to spending the best times of my life with my hubby.

im ok with that and so is my parents. but i dont know if my wife' or her parents can accept a simple one

[flowoftime]

^ well its pretty dumb to get married , spend alot of $$ on the wedding and then just get divorced very soon after..

what would be the smart thing to do.. is get married, have a simple low budget wedding without the glitz and then later
once you see your marriage has lasted get re-married and renew your vowels with an extravagant wedding =)

[MNLV27]

Before I was never serious about marriage and I never wanted to have a huge extravagant wedding but now, I'd love to get married one day but I still don't want a big wedding, better yet I'd probably just go to city hall and get married and then throw like a family friend dinner party and just enjoy the night. Then go on a fun fun honeymoon and maybe I'll convince my husband-to-be to take wedding pictures with just the two of us like how the korean celebrities take post wedding photos..I think it's so cute..

[The Pink Panda]

I'd like to get married, or be in a monogamous relationship of some sort. Yeah, I want the nuclear family and all that. Stability y'know? I mean it's all fun to mess around with multiple people now but what about when you get all old and wrinkly and no one wants to mess around with you anymore?

[popolala]

Marriage are for mature people. It's a dedication and a commitment to spend the rest of ur life with someone u love.
U haven't even met someone u truely love, so that's why u dnt want to get married. When u do, u want to spend the rest of ur life together. No offense, but all those multiple partner's u were with are losers.

[J-10]

^ well its pretty dumb to get married , spend alot of $$ on the wedding and then just get divorced very soon after..

what would be the smart thing to do.. is get married, have a simple low budget wedding without the glitz and then later
once you see your marriage has lasted get re-married and renew your vowels with an extravagant wedding =)

i agree. just get the marriage license thing or what ever u call it that shows ur married. get ur family to takes some pics. and invite the family for dinner. done. thats the best way.

[blackrose@}-'-]

Marriage is for mature people like someone mentioned, if u dnt want to get married. Fine! It's not for people who are thinking of divorce anyways. Marriage is a forever thing, remember the 'vow' ... If u can't meet the expectation, then it's not for you. Only people who deeply in love each other, would wanna commit. This is why marriage are for mature couples.

Why marry? if ur thinking of break up? .. then isn't this like a bf/gf relationship? .. might aswell dnt marry.
Marriage is special, it's not like a bf/gf relationship. Marriage was created for those who want only the 'one'.