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A couple of months ago, I was in the supermarket with a friend when a good looking stranger stopped me and told me I had a beautiful smile. Incidentally, he was the manager of the store, an older man (40,50). There's a considerable age difference between us, but I am definitely interested, and I'm almost 100% positive he is too. In the past few weeks I've gone a few times to pick up some things- he remembered me each time, and stopped me to talk each time, asking me questions and being rather sweet.

He knows where I work (I gave him a business card) but he has never called, never visited, never anything. But he always greets me with a smile, drops everything to talk to me, forgets his job and usually walks around a little with me and talks with me. I guess I've been a bit too keen on him because I'm fairly sure he knows now; but I can't help but stop by whenever I'm around and see him there.

On Sunday, I went over there and he said hello to me, gave me a hug, and started talking to me. He's a Korean man, very polite, and asked me if I'd eaten dinner. I wasn't very coherent so I just kinda shook my head around a bit, and he started pestering me into letting him buy me dinner. I declined, because I know he's busy, but I'm feeling a bit rueful. The thing is, I'm kinda tired of wandering over there like some stupid fool and I guess I've started over analyzing his every move. The first few times when I visited, he'd always steal a few last glances, always ask me to come see him again sometime. But he doesn't say it anymore, and hasn't for the last two times I went over there. Is it because he's just not that into me anymore? I'm positive in the beginning he had some kind of feelings toward me, but I have no idea anymore.

If I just didn't visit him anymore, would he come see me? I mean, I know I'm being a total girl and freaking out over every little thing, but I'm so confused I have no idea what's going on. I feel like I'm just calling and calling him and wondering if I didn't call, would he end up calling me eventually?

Any advice/comments? Thanks.

[AHLEENA]

Is he single? 'Cause he's older, so maybe ask if he has a wife.

Okie. I edited this again but anyways, the first thing you should do is let him know you are interested ok? (whether in person from a visit, or using the phone)


Good luck :]

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I am definitely interested, and I'm almost 100% positive he is too.

Yeah ok. Since you are almost 100% sure he's interested in you back, what is there to hesitate for? Ask him out to dinner/lunch?

He knows where I work (I gave him a business card) but he has never called, never visited, never anything. But he always greets me with a smile, drops everything to talk to me, forgets his job and usually walks around a little with me and talks with me.

Maybe he doesn't call/visit because he doesn't want to seem clingy? Ask him why he doesn't visit/call you.

On Sunday, I went over there and he said hello to me, gave me a hug, and started talking to me. He's a Korean man, very polite, and asked me if I'd eaten dinner.

He asked you out. He's interested in you right there. Too bad you rejected him. And the Sunday you are talking about was yesterday right? :]

The first few times when I visited, he'd always steal a few last glances, always ask me to come see him again sometime. But he doesn't say it anymore, and hasn't for the last two times I went over there. Is it because he's just not that into me anymore?

I think he's still into you, but you are routinely visiting him right? So maybe he realized that repeatedly asking you to come see him again was unnecessary.

If I just didn't visit him anymore, would he come see me?

I don't know. Have you voiced that you were interested in him back? Actions mean louder than words but sometimes you need to voice how you are feeling too!

I feel like I'm just calling and calling him and wondering if I didn't call, would he end up calling me eventually?

So you want him to initiate the phone calls? Maybe you can ask him why he never calls you first.

[AngieK]

May I ask how old you are?

You'll never know until you try. If you're tired of waiting for him to make a move maybe you should casually suggest to go out for a cup of coffee or something, to get to know him a little better, etc.

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May I ask how old you are?

I honestly don't feel comfortable disclosing my age, but there is quite a considerable age difference between us. Sorry I couldn't be more specific.

[AngieK]

^ No problem. I was just curious is all. I'm not really into advocating say, a fifteen year old with a forty year old man. But I re-read your post and I'm guessing that you're a bit older because you have a job and are actively going to a supermarket.

But one thing you should take into consideration. I know that a lot of people say that age doesn't matter, but it can in some aspects. If you are, say, twenty years different in age, then the two of you will probably be at very different points in your life. And because of this, even if you have the physical attraction, it'll be more difficult to find things such as common interests or similar mentality. It's not impossible, of course. Some people are more mature for their age, etc etc. But it's just something to consider when pursuing.

Good luck.

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Like you said, he have an interest in you and if you really like him back why don't you give it a try??? Maybe you should do the first move, maybe ask him to dinner like the time he asked you before but you declined. He might not call you in thinking your not interested in him.

Edit: LOL And I thought you meant it literally =.=" Yes!! You should visit him.

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If I were you I wouldn't call but just return to the supermarket. If he's interested chances are he'd ask again to buy you dinner. Since you like him, feel free to say yes.

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Thank you for all the comments everyone- but just to clarify; the "calling" was a figurative thing.
I mean it as in, should I continue to visit him? Sorry for being unclear. He hasn't asked for my cellphone number and I haven't asked him either.

[AHLEENA]

Go. Visit. Him.

and ask him to dinner.

[:: ShaDoW ::]

thats where u went wrong; when you declined him for dinner. it was him asking you out and u turned him down unintentionally. so therefore, makes him not bother being interested in you, because you are not interested. if u feel differently, go talk to him and show ur interest.

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Thanks for the advice everyone. I appreciate it. If I go see him this weekend and anything happens, I'll update this thread.

[h0ney]

maybe he was discouraged when u rejected his invite to dinner
if u want u can always turn up arnd the time theyre abt to close if ur afraid he has too much on his hands to leave.
and also.. i agree wit AHLEENA...be sure he hasnt got a wife