[dahl gee]

My boyfriend and I have had been having problems lately... and honestly its mostly half my fault for being so insecure... But it takes 2 to tango..
Last weekend i went to go visit my boyfriend.. and we were just watching a korean movie.. since he never watched any before... Well while we were watching he made this joke.. which i thought was really offending and rude.. so yea I got pissed.. and i just gave him the cold shoulder... (which was kinda stupid for me to act. but o well @ that time i was just pissed) as the movie is over.. and im laying down.. and he says.. "Can I ask you something?" So i said sure what is it.. but he told me before he askes me the q's I cant ask why he brought it up or whatsoever.. he just wanted me to be direct.... He asked if i thought we were compatible... My answer was of course Yes. But i kinda wondered why he would ask me this.. and if i did reply yes.. while hes thinking differently.. it would make me seem like a fool.. so i said.. maybe we're not... after a second.. he gets up and seems really pissed off and says maybe we do need a break...

He said for me to take a break and see if the grass is truly greener on the other side... After that... I cry my eyes out.. My heart shattered into million pieces ! I was so devastated... words could not explain. when he saw me cry he gave me a tight hug and said hes not breaking up with me.. but he thinks i need the break.. he told me just one weekend.. to go out with friends.. and do my own thing... It really confuses me because dont breaks mean seeing other ppl? After that he explained to me how fed up with how i get mad over smallest things... And he said at times i try to get in his head and try to figure out what hes thinking.. what also killed me inside was.. how he looked straight at me and said.. youll never figure me out cause one.. ur not inside my brain and two.. you dont have my heart.. wth does that mean? if he says he loves me. and he says hes a man of his words...

he says he doesnt want to break up.. but i know inside hes really tired of me.. and i dont know if i shud go on with this any longer? should i take the break it off completely? because i feel like our love is never going to be the same again... and yea i did screw some things up over the month... and he did deal with it and now i guess he cant take it no more.. and sometimes just love cant really stand alone... i feel like he was sugar coating some words cause i was crying...


i forgot to include there was a time i brought up.. maybe we needed a break.. the reason why i said that was because of my own insecurities.. i felt i had to build a wall... and i know at times my moodiness can overcome me.. and so i felt maybe he needed a break frm me? this may sound confusing.. but i guess i thought he would bring it up one day... so i just said it... not that i really did.. i never want to.. but my heart and mind just conflicted.

I called him today cause my mind was so uneasy... he seems like he doesn't really care by the way he talked and responded.. i asked if he really ment what he said to me... he said if i wanted a break.. he wouldn't mind.. cause that's what i wanted... i mean if he cared wouldn't he say something else rather than that??? So i told him.. i would never want that.. and explained.. how i just said it out of insecurity..and he said he ment what he said and that they were not out of insecurity but the truth.. and it really hurts me...... he says he cares but how is that proving when his words just totally threw me off... i feel like the way he sees me is not the girl he once fell in love with... and frm his actions.. it shows, im just not that really important to him...

[brownman90561495]

maybe you do need a break. but take a note of this: if you are taking a break on this, he is too. meaning, if you are free to mingle with anybody, well, it depends how your mind accepts the latter part of my statement.

so if you do decide to take this break, i advice you to totally not think about what he may be doing. i know it's REALLY hard because you love this person and you don't want him "getting along" with other girls. but try to free yourself of that thought. don't even think of trusting him at this point. just let him be. in this way, you'll be more relaxed and you'll realize better why aren't you compatible. plus, you get to miss him. so if you get back, i assure you: IT REALLY FEELS GOOD!

if you decide not to go with this break, i tell you it's harder to adjust for whatever is needed to be adjusted. but you have to try! always listen to what he says to you, and talk to him slowly and clearly when you are saying something important to him. the keys here are FAITH and CLEAR COMMUNICATION.

[joxxy]

If he wants a break, it is a serious signal that you need to change.
Breaks can be really good or really bad because it may allow for someone to realize they want to be with someone or they don't.
Use the time during the break to think of what you're doing wrong.
But remember that even though you guys are on a break, it doesn't really mean you're free to go off with other guys and do what you want - keep in mind that your bf will care about what you do and it'll definitely weigh on the decision of whether he wants to get back together with you or not.