[AMIbunny]

Hello everyone.

I'm incredibly in love with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years..... I admit I am kind of clingy... We see each other almost everyday because I go with him to buy stuff for his Store and he said he doesn't mind me being there...he said he likes it.

I love him so much..i always think about him, he's my #1 priority >_< (i know i'm an idiot), I miss him after 5-6 hours of seeing him... omg I don't know why I just like him/ wanna be with him so much. I always try to help him as much as possible.. I don't mind helping him because he's always so busy with work... I told him I will be his helper.

HIs friends always notice his flaws when he does something stupid or wrong. Sometimes I notice it too, but i quickly forget about it and when I talk to him about serious stuff, like school or careers, I feel like he is so smart and wise! lol. I see past his flaws..and I think he is almost perfect... i love everything about him!

I wouldn't even mind being with him all day! lol. He's the one person that completes my life lol... he always gives me advice about life, and I try to follow his advice. I'm so sad to say this, but i can't live without him......

I don't want to love him less...but is there any way that I can stop missing him so quickly?

Does anyone else feel like this with their s/o?

EDIT 6/2/09

This morning I talked to my boyfriend about It. He told me, "I love you so much too...but I don't put it up front to the point i want to be with you all the time, because you're in my heart. Also, that picture of you on my bookshelf allows me to see you everyday I wake up..so I don't miss you as much."

Then he said to make me miss him less, we should try to not see each other for a day and then 3 days..... I understand his point..but its going to be hard for me...because I miss him after a few hours of seeing him.

I think i will be able to do it. it just takes time!!

[dahl gee]

yup i was/am the same.. and at the end u get hurt... not saying you would cause every guy is different.. but you shouldnt give out ur whole heart.. cause in the end... you have nothing if he breaks it..

[Allure011]

I've been with my bf for almost 4 years, and I still feel that way--well maybe not to that extent that I always want to be with him all the time--but close enough. I make sure that I'm not clingy though because everyone needs their space, and if you stick to a guy too much, eventually, he WILL get tire of you in time. I do still think about him allooott though especially before bed, but only because he makes me so happy and bubbly. =] And even after almost 4 years, we still say "I love you" to each other ten times a day. haha I guess the secret here is to keep a balance. Spend all you time together, but not too much that you don't have your own life. Give each other space, and don't forget that you're an individual of your own too. Anyways,I suggest that you focus your energy on something else like school, friends, or hobbies.

[x3yajme]

I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I still feel that way <3

[moot11]

I've been with my bf for almost 4 years, and I still feel that way--well maybe not to that extent that I always want to be with him all the time--but close enough. I make sure that I'm not clingy though because everyone needs their space, and if you stick to a guy too much, eventually, he WILL get tire of you in time. I do still think about him allooott though especially before bed, but only because he makes me so happy and bubbly. =] And even after almost 4 years, we still say "I love you" to each other ten times a day. haha I guess the secret here is to keep a balance. Spend all you time together, but not too much that you don't have your own life. Give each other space, and don't forget that you're an individual of your own too. Anyways,I suggest that you focus your energy on something else like school, friends, or hobbies.

Welcome to the forums.

I agree, and well said. Make sure you do not make him the only joy in your life, and to not be too clingy.

[EHNerJI]

this is so cute, i wish i can be like this with my guy soon ^^

[aubrei]

yup i was/am the same.. and at the end u get hurt... not saying you would cause every guy is different.. but you shouldnt give out ur whole heart.. cause in the end... you have nothing if he breaks it..

you say that as if feelings dont come back.
broken hearts can be mended.
if you dont give your whole heart into a relationship, then why do you even bother?

sounds like you've been hurt that way, so now you think like that.
i hope you can one day love someone whole heartedly.
you'll be missing out on a lot of wonderful things in life if you dont.

(its not like im talking about just any random guy. i mean if you can find that right person)

[sus]

dun b so clingy
get a life of ur own??
cos wen u put everythin into it... ur just gonna get hurt real bad...

[HaplessChild]

Eh, I'm like that. In opposition, he really likes to have his space. I miss him dearly when he's gone even when he's been at my place for days but I have to make a real effort to curb my enthusiasm. We've been together for almost 8 months or so. I admit it though, sometimes I'm happy when he's gone because I like to have my space back. A few hours later I'll miss him though.

I dunno, nothing wrong with liking him that much. Just make sure you don't crowd him. As long as he's comfy with it who cares? You're fine.

[AngieK]

you say that as if feelings dont come back.
broken hearts can be mended.
if you dont give your whole heart into a relationship, then why do you even bother?

sounds like you've been hurt that way, so now you think like that.
i hope you can one day love someone whole heartedly.
you'll be missing out on a lot of wonderful things in life if you dont.

(its not like im talking about just any random guy. i mean if you can find that right person)

I think what she meant is that you need a bit of balance when it comes to loving someone. Like, sure, you can love your s/o a lot and share everything w/ him, etc. But you should not let your entire life revolve around him. Because ultimately you can't control him and there is always a chance (even the slightest) that they may leave you. If that is so, then you need to make sure that he's not like...the center of your life. If he is, then picking up the pieces is not impossible but it is a lot harder. But if you learn to balance your life and actually have things going on for you outside of the relationship.

Give each other space, and don't forget that you're an individual of your own too. Anyways,I suggest that you focus your energy on something else like school, friends, or hobbies.

It's like allure said. It's fine to really love your boyfriend and whatnot, but make sure that your life doesn't revolve around him. I think that's where most people have trouble, the whole balancing thing. Just because you don't spend 99% of your time with your boyfriend doesn't mean you love him any less either. Remember that ! and good luck!

[Swtess]

I am the exact same way. I'm with him everyday and if I could, I'd probably be living over there. lol

[allyy]

don't worry! im still like that with my bf whom i've been with for almost 3 years. at first it was HIM who was like that for one and half years. now i'm like that with him >.<

after he leaves, maybe an hour or less i start missing him like crazy. i'm always wondering what he's doing and always want his attention. haha

i always say i miss him and stuff. i'm wondering how long he would be able to take me like this. pwuahaha

[TechnoFibre]

Was it always like that for you guys? Like from the time you first started dating or did this feeling come later on?

[jaeka]

I used to feel like that, then it calmed down. Haha. I still love him and would love to see him everyday, but I think we're more independent. We do a lot of stuff together so maybe that just satifies the need.

[AMIbunny]

Was it always like that for you guys? Like from the time you first started dating or did this feeling come later on?

At the beginning I didn't feel so clingy. When he'd go out with his friends at night w/o telling me, i didn't get mad... or anything o_o. However, now if he doesn't tell me and he goes out with his friends..i'd get upset... >_<. I defenietly became clingy after we started seeing each other for a few hours each day =/

[xXeunhaexP]

omg i'm COMPLETELY the same as you
my bf and i go to the same college and we lived in the same dorm building too
so we saw each other everyday and had lunch/dinner together. we would go to the gym together and party together and everythingg

now since it's summer break i don't get to see him that much even though he lives 10 mins away from me....
and unfortunately he is leaving across the country to do an undergraduate research study for 3 months!
i'm just trying to cherish the moments we do have with each other
it is REALLY hard not seeing him everyday and spending SOO much time together....but i guess it is better in the long run? we still need to be our own individuals first

[MaryMagdalin]

trust me its better not to see each other TOO much
it leads to a lot of problems
guys have their thing where they like their alone time
it`ll work out

[xfatrabbitx]

you're going to lose him if you don't relax. nobody likes a stalker. dont u want him to miss u too. just pretend to have a life and make him think u have other things going on in your life besides obsessing over him. nothing is more unattractive then clingy girlfriends

[aiyan]

It's good that he is proposing a solution to your clinginess but I think you should hang out with your friends more to keep your mind off him.

Too clingy = really unattractive. Even if your boyfriend liked your clinginess, it gets old after a while and he might start to take you for granted.

[ssulja]

I'm gonna say the complete opposite. I had roommates that have been dating for 4.5 years. It got to the point where the gf would call after not seeing him for 2-3 hours. They'd call each other to check up on each other, and often just to talk. Even if they were just waiting in line.

Simply put, if you're with a guy that can do that (and honestly, most can't), I say keep doing it. If it looks like, or he mentions he wants his free space, then yeah, sure, lose the clingy a bit. But if you've been like this for awhile, I don't think it'll change that much.

And for anyone who says that my roommates only had each other, it's kinda true, they were each other's lives. But they balanced it with friends and their own goals in life. The girl is going to be a doctor (got into medical school in only 3 years), while the guy is going to be an architect (one of the top students at my school). They just learned to fit each other in so well.