[Song-San]

Here is the story first...: (not perfect english,,, bear with me =P)

So, today we basically had a half day at school...
and most people were out on the field and hanging out... so was i

after a while, i noticed my friend, well, shes just a friend now ,, but she means more than just a friend to me..cause we were once really close, kinda grew apart now , but still, we chat alot over msn and stuff =) ... its always good to have a few close opposite sex friend anyways =) ..

so basically, she was just crying in the corner alone, and i went over, i tried talk to her ..but she was just crying really badly,, i didnt what to do, i was just thinking ... let her cry ...it feels better to let it out? =O ...

and then after a while we sat down and she was just sitting there, i tried to talk to her again but she didnt really wanna tell me,,, shes the type that doesnt wanna people to worry about her ,, i have known her not for long (3 years) ,, but know her quite well..so i didnt bother to keep trying.... and then we just sat there...

of course i cheered her up later on ... but i just felt so useless,, she was crying really hard in the beginning and i couldnt do anything... ..

...what should i do? ..if something like this happen again...???

and another question...
i sort of have a gf.. not really a gf,,, cause we didnt do things like ur my girl and im ur guy...
but we do gf/bf stuff and yeah...
girls get jealous easily over these stuff? .... when i asked her if she was mad or anything she said no,,, but really, i know shes lying .. ..how should i make it up to her??? ....

and how do you handle these kind of situations? ..when u go over comfort another female friend and your gf get jealous and w.e ...

thanks for all your help =) appreciated XD

[heheimawesome]

if it's my girl of interest or girlfriend i'll wipe the tears with my hands and kiss her on the cheek, then hug her and tell her not to cry
if its just a girl friend i just look at her and MAYBE wipe her tears.. because i dont really like to touch girls who are just friends .. hahaha im a jerk. but i think i'd hug her or at least wrap an arm around her.
if i was the reason she was crying (she liked me but i didnt like her) then i would wipe her tears and say sorry and hug her.

OH and if its a girl who is just a friend and she's crying about some other dude then just make her laugh. diss that guy or whatever. just make her smile

[naoto]

tickle her. absolutely the way to stop crying.

[Song-San]

if it's my girl of interest or girlfriend i'll wipe the tears with my hands and kiss her on the cheek, then hug her and tell her not to cry
if its just a girl friend i just look at her and MAYBE wipe her tears.. because i dont really like to touch girls who are just friends .. hahaha im a jerk. but i think i'd hug her or at least wrap an arm around her.
if i was the reason she was crying (she liked me but i didnt like her) then i would wipe her tears and say sorry and hug her.

OH and if its a girl who is just a friend and she's crying about some other dude then just make her laugh. diss that guy or whatever. just make her smile

the girl that was crying is my best friend you could say,...
and we are really close...
point is.... shes got a bf and i got a gf ... and i dont really knwo if its appropriate? =O

[tinatran_]

i say wipe her tears away, give her a hug, give her some tissue (if necessary), ask her if she wants to talk and talk to her if she wants to talk or give her some space if she wants to be alone.

[yingjie]

For me, its the guy physically being there.
He doesn't need to do anything, just sticking around shows that he cares.

[ShadowMax76]

i'd go for the pat on the head. rofl. >>' not sure how everyone'd take that.
in my world. i think she just needs to get it out. so. x-X' i let her..
but eh. perhaps i'm wrong.

[Song-San]

okay..sso i do all that... being there and wiping tears? ..

how would i make it up to my gf ?> =O

[nxtlvl]

Just be there for her as a friend. Even just a presence of another person can help. Hug her, and give her a shoulder to lean on =)

[litoaznbabix91]

Don't talk to her when she's crying. I hate when people do that to me. lol If she's your friend give her a hug and let her cry on your shoulder and wipe her tears. You can talk to her when she's done crying. Just be there to comfort her. That's more then what my stupid guy friends can do. All guys know how to say when your crying is "what's wrong? What's wrong?" It's so annoying.

[iftimecomes]

last month, i cried in class right in front of my crush, my friend and some other dude because i accidentally hurt my friend and she just walked away. i was really sad so i just cried.
and my crush just took off his glasses and started to pretend to cry to get me to laugh.
:] ive liked him more after that.
maybe you could try to make her laugh?

[car_shrimp.]

honestly, i think that you should talk with the girl that isn't really your girlfriend.
you were probably hurting her when she saw you with the other girl.
you should talk to her and have a serious conversation with her.
she probably wants to know that you like her.
if you like that girl, you should just confess it...
and i think that you made a mistake by talking to the crying girl.
when girls cry, they probably want to be left alone...
please update with this situation.

[hishari]

Since she's got a bf and you've got a gf, just make her laugh.

I'd be pretty upset if I saw my boyfriend comforting a girl by hugging her and wiping her tears or comforting her like he would comfort me when I cry. Wth man

[Miyavi]

well my friend is a girl...and sshe was like crying today also...i just felt useless so i wrote her a letter and snuck it into her locker

[hippiehop]

If a girl is crying, let her cry and listen to her talk. Don't try to reason things out, she might just get pissed!

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Hug her and pat her in the back.
Then Offer her some ICE CREAM LOLL

Thank you.

[Delusional]

Girls don't all have the same preference.
Some girls want attention; want people to ask what's wrong.
other girls want to be left alone; act like you never saw her.
For me, a good silent hug would suffice.

[JJ no Baka]

Don't ask any questions. Just be there to hug and comfort her. After she settles down, then ask questions. Some girls just need to let it out before wanting to talk.

[`faded]

heh kinda reminds me of myself..the girl I mean..O_O...well I've had alot of ups and downs for these past 3 months..and when I first heard the news of my mom's death like WHOA IT HIT ME!! I was crying like NO OTHER..like I've never cried before..my guy friends were there for me every step of the way...whether they were taken or not it doesn't matter..for me having them there for me is already enough...soo sometimes just being there for a girl is good enough...you don't have to say anything..just hug her and tell her you'll be there for her when she needs it

[brownman90561495]

Here is the story first...: (not perfect english,,, bear with me =P)

So, today we basically had a half day at school...
and most people were out on the field and hanging out... so was i

after a while, i noticed my friend, well, shes just a friend now ,, but she means more than just a friend to me..cause we were once really close, kinda grew apart now , but still, we chat alot over msn and stuff =) ... its always good to have a few close opposite sex friend anyways =) ..

so basically, she was just crying in the corner alone, and i went over, i tried talk to her ..but she was just crying really badly,, i didnt what to do, i was just thinking ... let her cry ...it feels better to let it out? =O ...

and then after a while we sat down and she was just sitting there, i tried to talk to her again but she didnt really wanna tell me,,, shes the type that doesnt wanna people to worry about her ,, i have known her not for long (3 years) ,, but know her quite well..so i didnt bother to keep trying.... and then we just sat there...

of course i cheered her up later on ... but i just felt so useless,, she was crying really hard in the beginning and i couldnt do anything... ..

...what should i do? ..if something like this happen again...???

and another question...
i sort of have a gf.. not really a gf,,, cause we didnt do things like ur my girl and im ur guy...
but we do gf/bf stuff and yeah...
girls get jealous easily over these stuff? .... when i asked her if she was mad or anything she said no,,, but really, i know shes lying .. ..how should i make it up to her??? ....

and how do you handle these kind of situations? ..when u go over comfort another female friend and your gf get jealous and w.e ...

thanks for all your help =) appreciated XD

in case this happens again, DO NOT FREEZE for crying out loud! yea i know it's way easier saying than doing because she's a special girl to you. but try doing this: do everything that you feel is right WITHOUT MALICE. you're there as a friend, nothing else man.

and don't fret too much with her not talking, or not sharing her story to you. i dunno, but my principle is never force a "broken" person to tell you her problem? she should tell you her problem in her own accord if she's comfortable sharing it. in that way, you could create a rapport with her, maybe make it easier for her to share her stories to you.

as for your "sort of" gf, well she's not your gf, but with the jealousy issue, let's assume this girl is your gf. i'd say, don't let this hamper your concern for this "crying girl" because you know there is no malice to it (if there is, maybe you should stop right there). if you really are a good friend (for 3 years), you'd comfort her.

why am i saying this? because i have experienced this. and i did the right thing, i believe