[Fly to the Sun]

Are your parents controlling? And want you to live "their" vision of your life?

[forgottenmemories]

They're somewhat controlling. But I don't and won't let them control every aspect of my life.

[Collidexeyes]

True she raised you and everything but really I thought a mother's job was to raise their children to their own happiness.
Looking through what you wrote it just seems your mother kind of uses you to brag to her friends.

I don't think you can really talk/persuade her since she's set on wanting you to take law but maybe talk to your dad about the situation. Maybe he can help ease to situation out?

Really your mother can't control your future for you since it was you who worked so hard to graduate and to get into that college. What it all comes down is that it is really your choice and no one else. You can either do what your mother told you or do what you want to do.

I don't want you to sever your relationship with your mother but she's not giving you the respect as your giving your respect to her.

I can see your mother in truth just wants you to be someone she's proud of and to show off to her friends how good she raised her own child but in the end if you're not happy then she has failed you as a mother.

Sorry if I'm not much help but good luck.

edit*
oh you edited your post. xD

[hobobear]

my chinese parents are pretty laid back.
i can pretty much get away with anything and i think its cause i have two older brothers.
my parents have dealt with the worst and best of situations with my brothers..
and since im the youngest, i dont think my parents would 'push' anything upon me.

i think the children with controlling parents are usually an only child.

[AzizOnDeck]

I live my own life and my parents accept that because they know I know what's best for me now at this day and age

[ebolainmemphis]

Don't know. My future is kind of influenced in one way because of my parents (sort of convinced that its either medical school or bust) but I'm working to realize that I don't need to go to succeed. They are fair on other aspects though. I suppose when you're older/move out, you'll have a better time.

[i13elieve]

yah my mom is controlling my life but i only have to wait till im 18 then im gonna do whatever.
im gonna be moving out and be independent. i dont want my mom controlling me anymore.
i only have 6 more months -___-;
gosh so far away.....

[silent8]

^^

Haha same, but its both my parents who love controllin every aspect of my life. An im turnin 18 in two months, cant wait!

[bonjour tristesse.]

not as much ; my parents' lives were controlled
by theirs when they were growing up and they dont want me to go through
it like they did. though they are strict at times, comparing my self to my friends
that have very strict traditional asian parents, i have a lot of freedom

[emceej]

my parents control my life >:O
it will probably stop once i get out of their roof and have my own place, job, and family.
but i guess it's only for the better

[binjoo]

My parents make strong suggestions about certain things, but they would never force me to do anything I didn't want to. They want me to make mistakes and learn from them.

I'm pretty sure it'll stop, or be less significant, when they don't pay have to pay for you anymore, like school.

[colloquy]

When you are 18+, and you are financially independent of your parents.

Anyway, I am living my life. Why should I live for my parents? What a nonproductive, miserable way to live your life.

[x_MiSSANN]

When you decide to live your life according to you. Your parents is going to try to control you until the day you get some guts and tell them to back off.

[they0me]

Nope, they made all the decision when i was young after i turned 13 they just give suggestion, pro and cons for certain subjects like education, ourse in u etc. But their opinion influence me greatly and once i made a wrong decision not really wrong since i survives and learn a lot from it. i won't do something that will upsets at the same time get what i want. But then they never force me to do what i don't want .

[Swtess]

They never controlled anything. Always let me do things at my own pace.

[kikyomai~]

i only have one lifetime to live (sorry, don't believe in afterlife.) so i make sure that at most times, it is i who is in command of my life.

parents (and elders) are just there to give you pieces of advice so you won't end up hurting yourself. (they've been there, done that. you know. ) they just care. so just understand, ok? don't get too worked up. but if they go a little overboard . . . go rebel(?!) LOL.

you see, as a child, don't make it to the point of spoiling your parents by being an oh-so-nice son/daughter. break some rules and be responsible for them so they would see that you're already a big boy/girl. and most probably, they would trust in you and let you on your own.

i'm talking from experience.

[bohyunnie]

my parents are veryyyy controlling. i don't expect them to stop, and i don't think i'll mind if they keep going at it. even if it does upset me, i'll just learn to deal with it.
everyone just has so many expectations for me and i can't stand to disappoint them...

[cheerydumdum]

yeeep. it drives me nuts. and the bad thing is that i don't hold up well under pressure, so i end up feeling obligated to do what they want me to do and listen to them. stupid me. but i'm going to move out soon (hopefully next year if i get the courage to).

[IATEYOU]

I have this problem. But, it will stop when YOU want it to stop. Parents only want the best for you, but they are human- they are not always right. Be respectful and show that you love them and that you have considered their advice/request. But, if you feel strongly about something they do not agree with, in my opinion, believe in yourself. Have your own opinions. In the worst cases, they may control you physically, but make your will your own.

Parents are scared of letting their children "go." Show them that you will be okay and make sure to let them know that "you will always need them" even if you don't think you will.

[h0ney]

sometimes it has to do with the environment your parents work in.
my mum does sales..so shes always out there..understanding the world we live in now
but my dad just works at a factory so his much more traditional..
thought they both give me heaps of freedom