[HOSHIKO--]

I've had this problem for a long time. I'm not sure if you would call it a problem, but a habit?
Just to make things short, I have an issue of distancing myself from close friends.
I don't know where I got it from, but I just do. Like, it was always the same pattern.
I would befriend someone in real life or online, but once we become close, we begin
to separate. It's not because of that person, but more of myself.

I have this habit of distancing myself from close friends because I'm worried
that I would become annoyed of them, and it will grow to hatred.
I mean, I still want to have that close bond, but whenever I do, the outcome
usually is me hating or annoyed by that person.

Has anyone been through this before?

[DrAlan]

Love is life. Miss love, miss life.. remember that and you will live on with pride.

[WinSenSun12]

Well yes...
and i ended up with
No trust = No friends = Very SAD

[naoto]

^I had this problem too. For a while I would get annoyed at things my friends did, nobody was good in my eyes. But you know you aren't perfect either you say stuff that is dry too. You must overlook little things and stay friends with people who care about you, because one day you will be down and they will pick you up. This is what happened to me.

[daulism]

all the time girl, i feel ya :(
i think that feeling of annoyance or hate comes around, its either from:

1) jealously
2) drifting apartness/changing

hmm all i can think of right now.

[jaeka]

I get like that. I just cannot get too close to people or I distance. I can only be close to so few people at a time. I don't begin to hate them or anything, I just get uncomfortable. ㅡ,ㅡ

[BrightCloset]

I've done it to a handful of people.

I don't like doing that, but I just can't help it.

[ebolainmemphis]

I've had this problem for a long time. I'm not sure if you would call it a problem, but a habit?
Just to make things short, I have an issue of distancing myself from close friends.
I don't know where I got it from, but I just do. Like, it was always the same pattern.
I would befriend someone in real life or online, but once we become close, we begin
to separate. It's not because of that person, but more of myself.

Yes to this, but...

I have this habit of distancing myself from close friends because I'm worried
that I would become annoyed of them, and it will grow to hatred.
I mean, I still want to have that close bond, but whenever I do, the outcome
usually is me hating or annoyed by that person.

Not this exactly... I distance myself away usually because I grow bored or it just happens. You just hang out with different people. No idea why you'd hate them personally.

[J00NGiEx]

Ah, this happens to me ALL the time.
Well, I wouldn't go as far as saying I hate them,
But I eventually get annoyed and/or bored of the person.
It's definitely something that's wrong with me but I don't know how to fix it either ._.
I love meeting new people and making new friends but eventually we run out of things to talk about and yeah...
I get annoyed ><;

[thanhthuyqt]

I've had this problem for a long time. I'm not sure if you would call it a problem, but a habit?
Just to make things short, I have an issue of distancing myself from close friends.
I don't know where I got it from, but I just do. Like, it was always the same pattern.
I would befriend someone in real life or online, but once we become close, we begin
to separate. It's not because of that person, but more of myself.

I have this habit of distancing myself from close friends because I'm worried
that I would become annoyed of them, and it will grow to hatred.
I mean, I still want to have that close bond, but whenever I do, the outcome
usually is me hating or annoyed by that person.

Has anyone been through this before?

I have the same problem as u now. I think it is my habit. Sometimes, i donot want to meet them. Actually, i have some close friends

in the high school, but after graduating we entered different universities I felt our relationship become fade. After that i often keep distance

from them but i still really like them. I don't know why i behave like that. I always feel uncomfortable when meeting them. My friends often say

that they missed me and i was so cold. Actually, i am not cold and to me they are my close friends but i don't know why i keep avoiding them.

[sixth.]

i've had that problem with pretty much all my friends.. i think i've kinda gotten used to it and don't really think too much about it anymore. i'm the kind of person who just has a lot of friends/acquaintances but barely any close friends.

[see1zee]

yeh .... me .. im guilty.. i've done this with a couple of people.. i don't know .... i don't wanna do it but sometimes.. distance can really make a big change u know?..

[h0ney]

u sound emo -o- but then again everyone has their emo moments
once you start concerntrating on someone's bad points, its all ull ever see... and u tend to miss the good things abt them
when they annoy you, start from urself...are u as good as u think you are?
try to concerntrate on the things you love about them...it gets easier

[xsilverettex]

i've done it to a lot of people; it's not on purpose i suppose but it just kinda happens.
i know the problem lies within me because sure, they would email me and stuff; i'd
email them back but as soon as a few weeks pass, i'll read their email, then say i'd
reply tomorrow. tomorrow turns into weeks then months and i eventually just don't
reply at all. i hate that i do it and it's become a bad habit i can't break so i'm on the
loosing end of the stick. i'm learning to get pass that and become a better email-er. :]

[j'anne<3]

nawww thats sadd!
its kinda happened to me as well. but its like i dunt wanna get close to ppl incase they get annoyed from me?
but all i can say to is yerh just trust them && trust yourself really.
you wont know the limitations of ur friendsship until yuve experienced it that far.
it prob doesnt make sense but it does in my head ><
so it cud be backwards. idk.
but yerh at leas ur not alone :]
takecareeee

[ShadowMax76]

ah. the case of self-devaluation.

you either want to be away from them for another reason you haven't put into words yet
and try to make it seem like self-pity, not wanting to feel wrong for however long you've thought they don't like you when they say they actually do

or

you think you understand them, judge them, and distance yourself from them.

_ o-0' i guess those two are the same. the only things i can think of atm.
myself. yes. i get what ya mean. it's kinda sad when me and certain friends aren't the type to play tennis with invites. but rather wait and wait and wait for someone to make a move... >_>" john teshing hate myself when i think about it ...

[JaCkiie]

Pretty much, and I feel horrible about it.


It's hard to change your habits and the way you think as well. So I just cope with it.

[kibum-LOVE]

totally. like when im around someone for too long, then i full start getting annoyed.
and start distancing myself away from them
i guees when you find the right friend, you wont feel like you need to
and everything will work out =)

[cannotfindserver]

"too much familiarity breeds contempt."


i do feel and act the same way as you shaolisister. i think it's because i value my personal space alot and yet i want to be friends with them at the same time. it could also have to do with "trust-issues". the ones we tend to hurt so much are the ones closest to us.

[foreverxlove]

I have this habit of distancing myself from close friends because I'm worried
that I would become annoyed of them, and it will grow to hatred.
I mean, I still want to have that close bond, but whenever I do, the outcome
usually is me hating or annoyed by that person.

I used to sorta be like you. except it was vice versa.
I was more afraid of my friends being annoyed of me, so I kinda distanced myself away from them.
But the truth is nobody wants to get hurt
so that's why some people block people out.
But sometimes you just have to learn to trust some people and let them in.
Because who knows, maybe that friend might be one you'll have for a really long time [: