[janjan1]

Im sure many of you girls have had arguments with your man about him paying too much attention to his video games than you. i understand that boyfriends need their "me" time, but a lot of the times, it's like video games are all he cares about. He stays up late to play, but when i want to talk to him over the phone, he gets sleepy by 9. Whenever we get into an argument, he never steps up to apologize, im the one who ends up apologizing for "overreacting" just so we can stop fighting because im fed up with it. He knows he hurts my feelings, but apparantly he's too prideful to say sorry to his own girlfriend. i feel unappreciated and i feel like its all my fault. Like i have to try harder for him to see that i care so much about him so he would start being a boyfriend. It's not fair how i put so much into this relationship and i ask for very little, but get nothing in return. any suggestions? ive tried talking to him but it only resulted in another argument that I again apologized for. How can i make him see what he's doing to me?

[Cγиσsυяε`]

You just have to tell him everything you wrote right here in your post. I'm sorry you're going through that but I understand how you feel. Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and be patient. I've been well trained to do that, lol. Wait to see if he realizes that he's making you unhappy. But it's best to confront him so he doesn't end up thinking he's doing everything alright when in reality he's making you

[Telmedragon]

Something similar happened to my sister and her bf. He was a WoW addict and would stay up for days at a time trying to grind honor before the reset (to the point where he asked me to do it for him while he caught up on his wee hours of sleep).

My sister eventually broke up with him. After that, it took a while to realize what he had lost, but he changed. They're together again, and he still plays WoW, but very moderately.

I'd say, talk to him first, and if he keeps going, break up with him. You might as well be dating yourself if he's treating you like that.

[jhealizzie]

you already talked?
but ended in an argument?

i think you should try to ignore him.
do things that would make him feel that he's being taken for granted.
so that he'll know what you feel.

oh well,
it's just a suggestion.
ahe.

you might try if you want.

[janjan1]

you already talked?
but ended in an argument?

i think you should try to ignore him.
do things that would make him feel that he's being taken for granted.
so that he'll know what you feel.

oh well,
it's just a suggestion.
ahe.

you might try if you want.

i tried ignoring him for the whole weekend, it was soo hard. sometimes i wish i could make him jealous so he knows that he can potentially lose me if he doesnt change.

[thanhthuyqt]

i tried ignoring him for the whole weekend, it was soo hard. sometimes i wish i could make him jealous so he knows that he can potentially lose me if he doesnt change.

U know a love relationship has two sides; weak side and strong side. I think that u love him so much that u are willing to take the weak side.

U have to be stonger and tell him what u want from him. If he loves u, he will change. And remember not to make your talk become arguement

because boys often love sweet talk. Besides, I think u should try to make him jealous by flirting with other guys. May be he will change. Good luck!

[es623]

i dont think making him jealous will do the trick. it could backfire and seems immature...
you need to talk to him about it, but approach it carefully so it doesnt lead to another argument. people dont like admitting they have problems and if his gaming addiction is a (potential) problem, then hes not going to want to see it that way. so dont make it sound like you're accusing/blaming him...suggest things you'd like to see changed.
i think you need to communicate to each other enough to be able to put yourselves in each others shoes, maybe he likes space to play games and you like spending time talking to him ? relationships is about compromise, so find a way where you can both be happy by talking it through.

[plegend2007]

I'm sorry, but you might not like I'm about to tell you.

A relationship is about give and take, not to mention, it's really about being selfless and not about being selfish...This is all done through communicating properly with one another. He may be HEARING what you're saying, but he is not LISTENING to them; big difference. In other word, he is being selfish and taking you for granted.

As long as you are putting in all the effort and always giving in to him...Why should he change? He knows that you will eventually give in, again and again, time after time. In a way, it's somewhat your fault for letting him get away with it. Sure, you'll tell him and whatnot, but what good is that when you're the one that will always apologize to him for something he did. If you don't teach him a lesson in a way he will truly understand, he will never learn. You have be more ASSERTIVE and not be so SUBMISSIVE. You have to be willing to walk away b/c you deserve better treatment then he is giving you. He needs to realize, if he doesn't meet you half way, he can lose you for good. Without this "plausible threat", he is never going to change or even meet you quarter of the way.

Right now, he doesn't have respect for you, and why should he if you don't have respect for yourself. If you truly have respect for yourself, you wouldn't take half the crap he is throwing at you. Sometimes you have to draw a line in the sand and say, enough is enough.

I'm sorry if my post seem harsh, but a reality check is sometimes necessary.

Anyways, I hope he comes around, and he gives you what you need and deserve. Stay strong and good luck.

[kathoz]

yeah be more assertive. you need to speak up. what's the point of having a one-sided relationship?
trying to make him jealous won't work, trust me, it backfires easily.
and also the idea of 'getting something in return' doesnt really apply in relationships? its not like you're investing in shares.
love is/should be conditionless. (sooo corny)

I normally will confront my bf if i think hes being inconsiderate. he tells me too if I did something wrong.
well of course, sometimes we get little carried away and raised our voices a little and things just escalates but in the end, things usually work out.
If he wants everything his way, you can just ignore him. if he cant work out why you're ignoring him, spell it out to him.
write him a long email

anyway, good luck and hope it all works out for the best

[DrAlan]

your a pinkberry... let him play his video games, it is his life. Love is life miss love miss life.... this dum pinkberry

[xxdis0riental]

You're pretty much being like me in a situation that I see very clearly between two other people (who I live with, so it's all the time). Honestly, I don't think your boyfriend will do anything unless if you get the point to him clearly. I cannot emphasize enough the use of "clearly" in that sentence because I don't mean telling him outright, "I don't like you playing video games" (I'm not saying this is how you are, but I'm giving a general example). Telling him without much of a talk just makes it appear as nagging to him.

Perhaps you can give him an ultimatum if you're to a point where you aren't happy. There's a difference between having things you don't like in your relationship (that can be fixed) from just simply being unhappy. Hopefully you see that and make a decision before it gets worse. Don't let it get too far.

[**mashmellow**]

your a pinkberry... let him play his video games, it is his life. Love is life miss love miss life.... this dum pinkberry

You just sounded like an idiot. How is she a pinkberry?!? He's the one that's being selfish, all he cares about and pay attention to is his video games, and you expected her not to say anything about it when they're in a relationship?!

[WinSenSun12]

you should play some games with him aswell then you guys will be happy

[Aeiuchkvn]

First of all, you need to attract attention, maybe some sexual appeal. If that doesn't work try actually PLAYING video games with him.

Sadly, if everything is still going downhill, break up before you hurt yourself more and decide to jump off a cliff or shoot yourself.

[janjan1]

your a pinkberry... let him play his video games, it is his life. Love is life miss love miss life.... this dum pinkberry

when you learn how to use the proper YOU'RE, spell dumb correctly, and the appropriate time to use ellipses, then come talk to me, little boy. You just sound like an uneducated jerk and i think everyone here agrees with me. so thank you for your pointless reply, you worthless troll.

[masturyan]

Dump him and find someone more compatible with yourself. Honestly, if you aren't happy, then why continue with it. I guess love means being unhappy most of the time to some people.

[ChingGoo]

i think he is losing feelings for you.
my previous relationship with this one girl.. i used to be sweet and give her all my attention.
But eventually i lost feelings and started playing more starcraft rather than talking to her
i would fall asleep when she wanted to talk on the phone during late nights. ><

buuut that's just me. GoodLuck homie.

[Swtess]

I think you should just go off and do your own thing instead of being around there for him. My bf at times plays a lot of games for hours while I just sit there doing absolutely nothing. When he finally finishes, he wants to cuddle. Well screw him, I just throw him off. If he asks me to come over I give him snide comments like 'so I can stare at the inside of my eyelids for the whole day?' He usually gets the hint. lol well thats my tactic.

Like some people had said, its the fact that you give into him so he sees that there's really no need for him to change his way at all. No matter what, you'll come back and everything will be normal till you blow your casket again. The cycle will just continue.

[RisingxSun06]

mm .. something similar happened to me a couple of months ago ..
my ex bf was addicted to playing a chinese version of audition -___-;
and he would always want me to call him, but whenever i did he always ignored me
and when we're on the phone he always go to sleep @ 9.
but if we're not on the phone he stays online until 1 AM.
in the end it wasnt good :\ if you tell him how you feel, and he still does the same
i suggest you end it with him. because he wouldnt be worth it.

[MsChen]

You should definitely confront him about it.

The more you stay quiet, the more he won't know. The next time you guys argue, he's going to assume you'll take the blame. Guys have to learn to apologize when needed. Their pride should be placed somewhere else (?).

Sigh*