[AMIbunny]

My guy friend, lets call him Jim and I have been friends for about a year. I referred him to work with me last summer, and we just became better friends. However, i know that he has many other girl friends and he is the hugest flirt i've ever met, plus he's also a charming and smart guy. But he's is not attractive in my eyes at all Lol

That is not the point though. I have a boyfriend of 1 1/2, and Jim knows that. I tell him everything including stuff about my own sex life w/ my bf..he doesnt mind talking about it with me, but he said that if I hang out with him he "might" do something perverted o_O..i think i would be able to get away from him doing that though... but he asked for a kiss on the cheek which im totally not comfortable with....especially since i have a bf. i actually told my bf about it, he said "i dont want u to hang out with him.." but i told him "he's my friend..." he ssaid "well.....its up to u.. i can't control what u do. just..try not to go.."

*sigh...i dont really wanna say no though, because this guy is a prety good friend....but sometimes i just dont really trust him. I feel like he lies to me alot lol just to make himself look "cool". he said he had sex with 2 of his best girl friends...which is really weird and sounds totally unrealistic. one time he told me he had sex w/ one of his girl friends... but after that, he confessed that he lied =___=

so i have no idea what to believe. I just try not to trust him too much....ugh. i like him as a friend, but sometimes it can be annoying since he tries to flirt.

How do i let him down gently??? =/ i feel very uncomfortable sometimes while chatting w/ him... even though he's a nice guy.

he says "i cant control my perviness" >_>

[ShadowMax76]

what disturbs me is that girls still consider a guy a friend, when his intentions behind his 'kindness' aren't exactly pure.

x_X' but eh. it's just me ( cos then you wouldn't care if you let him down easily, and then it'd be easier )

_ either tell him directly, straight-forwardly and once-and-for-all

or suffer his' perviness' for the rest of this 'friendship' or your own relationship with your bf.

[_ATELIER]

let him down gently? lol i'd just tell him to john tesh off.
he sounds annoying ...so be blunt :]

[mintcracker]

your boyfriend's awesome. Seems really understanding and trusting =)

ok this guy...he's alittle eh...

Do you still want to be friends wit him?

[AMIbunny]

i do still wanna be friends w/ him..just w/e the pervy stuff Lol. should i just tell him? O_o

[Vision_Epiphany]

Err why are you still friends with such a person?
He has a bit of issues, even though he may be nice...

[Swtess]

Then tell him you're not comfortable with it. You sound like you like the attention he is giving you so you don't want to hurt him so much that he'll back off from you completely. Your bf is a great guy to still let you hang out with him though.

[MsChen]

LOL!

Another guy who can't keep his hands to himself.

You've got to confront him about it. Maybe you have to enforce the fact that you have a boyfriend and that both of you don't appreciate it. They won't stop until you tell them to.

[KareBear]

Just tell him that some things he says make you feel uncomfortable and you would appreciate it if he cut it out. If he tries to flirt just be like "<_< stop it. It's annoying" Haha, I know it's pretty harsh but I can't really put up with guys like that because they're just soooo damn lonely that they start to disrespecting people.

[MizzprEEETy]

I wouldn't hangout with a guy friends who talks like that to me knowing that I have a boyfriend, that's disrespectful.

Maybe you should tell him you don't like it when he talks like that to you. If he doesn't stop, don't talk to him too much...because it will hurt your relationship with your boyfriend. Put yourself in your boyfriend shoes, if that happened to your bf, I don't think you'll let him talk or hang out with that friend.

[Twinny]

Keep him in a distance,
If he still see you as a friend he shouldn't do these things!
Tell him that you feel uncomfortable of the things what he say.

[Jamila]

Err why are you still friends with such a person?
He has a bit of issues, even though he may be nice...

agreed..if he was a true friend he'd have enough respect for you to keep his perverted actions and thoughts to himself.

[HaplessChild]

Just stop talking to him. Don't answer the phone, don't call, don't talk to him outside of work.

[Lie]

Not sure why you would talk to him about the sexual stuff you and your bf do in the first place, but I'd just be direct and tell him that you're not comfortable with that whole aspect of the friendship. Hopefully he'll be considerate, if not, stop talking to him.

[shim shim hae]

i feel bad for your bf, he shouldn't even have to deal with this kinda BS. you should be thankful that he's handling the situation in what appears to be a calm manner. you def have the wrong idea of a "GOOD FRIEND" if thats seriously what you call a good friend lol, what a joke.

[es623]

Not sure why you would talk to him about the sexual stuff you and your bf do in the first place, but I'd just be direct and tell him that you're not comfortable with that whole aspect of the friendship. Hopefully he'll be considerate, if not, stop talking to him.

agreed. why are you talking to him about your sex life? its implying you're comfortable talking about intimate things, so he jokingly(or not) hits on you/tries to make himself sound 'good' by saying he sleeps around.

you still wanna be his friend minus the perviness ? best way would be to tell him. and stop talking about your sex life so he doesnt get mixed messages.

[azurette]

1. ew you're talking to him about your sex life, not fair to the hubby.
2. your friend sounds sketchy.

DUHHH.

[damyoungji]

If he is really a nice guy, he will respect you and try not to be a pervert around you.

Tell him that he is making you uncomfortable and be stern if you do tell that to him. If you let him down "nicely", he is going to take it that you are not being serious. The majority of those who flirt a lot usually don't know when people are serious or not. You have to let him know if you want this friendship you have with him to continue. Not to mention, if you don't feel safe and your boyfriend doesn't like the idea of you hanging out with him alone, you can always bring a friend along (preferably a guy? just in case he goes after your girl friends).

[hishari]

From your other topics and posts, you said that you're kinda possessive, jealous, and clingy. If this was happening to your boyfriend, and a perverted girl wanted to hang out with him, would you be fine with it?

Oh the hypocrisy