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To start off, I'm 2 years older than my boyfriend. He's a junior going on senior in high school while i'm a freshman going on sophomore
in college. Our long-distance relationship started off completely fine at first. I visited him during the holidays and whenever I was in town.
We were 9 months into our relationship when I learned that he was cheating on me with a mutual friend. The girl is a year younger than he is.
They cuddled a lot and displayed affection towards each other. I didn't believe it until I learned that they confessed to each other. The thing is - the girl knew that he was in a relationship with ME, who is also her friend.

Lately, he has been ignoring my calls and facebook wall posts. He even blocked me on aim and msn. I have decided that I'm going to break up with him. But there's just one thing I wanted to ask - especially from a guy's viewpoint. What causes a guy to cheat on his girlfriend? Is it boredom? Or..?

And also:
Please don't simply say, "Forget him". If you knew how hard I had tried for this relationship, then you would know how hard it will be to forget him. I had sacrificed so much for him, and he just throws me away. It took 11 months to build up a relationship, can it really be forgotten in just a day or two?

[xsaranghae<3]

eh maybe guys just get restless?
im no guy myself
but sometimes i try to think about it in their POV
not very easy.
does this bother you soo much that your on at 1:39 in the morning
asking fellow soompi-ers about it?
and i guess this should go into ask the fellas~
where guys answers girls questions =D
vrey helpful.

but when i think about it
i guess its the thrill?
or they get restless and bored?
i guess it depends on what kind of guy...
im sorry im not much help... D:

[_ATELIER]

boredom. he's at that point where he's lost interest in you because your relationship lacks interaction,
and having someone physically there to cuddle with him makes him happier.

-- eh; i'm answering the wrong thing...and you're asking guys. lol.
ignore my post then, but i think you've answered your own question anyways.

[ChingGoo]

He got tired of the same you. =\ and lost feelings for you.
ask yourself, "do you guys connect as well as when the relationship was still fresh?"
Good relationships should strengthen everyday.

good choice to break up with him. I don't think you guys can really piece the relationship back together.

[mintcracker]

Boredom
horniness since you're not there
just cos he can

=(

sucks eh? But that's guys for ya.

oh and I think the age thing probably got to him alittle =/... he's such a coward to do that to you blocking you and everything.

[ShadowMax76]

same reasons a girl would cheat on her bf.

[screamxlove]

same reasons a girl would cheat on her bf.

Pretty much what he said ^ :|

[Mannosuke]

If you knew how hard I had tried for this relationship, then you would know how hard it will be to forget him.

That's what guys also say, but girls don't even give it a second thought.

[HaplessChild]

In your case I would say it's the distance. She's there and you're not. That simple.

[AHLEENA]

yeah.

long-distance relationships are really hard to maintain.
especially if you haven't really spent a long time with each other before the distance part started.

[NuChee]

A hot chick who also has the hots for him.
But yes, it also has to do with boredom. When you're in a relationship for a long time, things tend to seem the same...then the cheater goes out and seeks for something new and exciting to satisfy him/her.

[i KITTY x3 =)*]

Distance. I know from experience..

[erinfinite]

Guys will cheat when they find something they didn't have in the current relationship. It sucks.

[thesisoflove]

Out of Bordem, or some girl seduced him in a sexual way ? :/

[visuelz]

If a guy can't get what he wants from his girl, he will resort to other girls. That's all.

[Angxizzle]

he's young, bored, and horny. he can't be with you because of the distance so he's looking at other girls.

[suejinners]

I thought of this article when I read the title of your topic.

Steve says there are a few major reasons why men stray, though none of them excuse the behavior. The top 5 reasons:

• They can

• They think they can get away with it

• The man hasn't become who he wants and needs to be or found who he truly wants to be with.

• What's happening at home isn't "happening" like it used to.

• There's always a woman out there willing to cheat with him.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/06...iref=newssearch

[Jazzyfizzle]

WELL SAID!!! Cheating just opens the door to karma. It will come back and haunt you. Cheat on someone, someone will cheat on you. I honestly don't know how a man's brain works but if he thinks he can get away with it, he thought WRONG!

[Subways]

Its usually when a relationship is lacking in any aspect and the guy seeks it elsewhere from other people to compensate. It could be someone to talk to or someone to do things to , etc. etc. You get the point whatever is missing from their relationship they seek it elsewhere.

WELL SAID!!! Cheating just opens the door to karma. It will come back and haunt you. Cheat on someone, someone will cheat on you. I honestly don't know how a man's brain works but if he thinks he can get away with it, he thought WRONG!

That wouldn't really explain where cheating originated from would it?

[arwenstar]

What causes a person to cheat has everything to do with them and not necessarily to do with you. You could be the worst girlfriend ever and some guys will still be loyal to the end. Only the mature and respectful person will face you, break up with you, or tell you what they want from you instead of resorting to another person.

It sounds like in your case, the main reason would be the distance. You know the quote, "Distance makes the heart grow fonder?" or "Time makes the heart grow fonder?" Not really. That's only if both persons in the relationship are willing to make it work and are very dedicated to each other.

I don't really know the finer details of your relationship, but it sounds like the right thing to break up with him. He's being immature by avoiding you, so you should probably make it quick and painless, and then you should focus on healing yourself.