[xJoyful]

okay the titles from the song thinkin of you by katy perry.

ANYWAYS, its meant to connect to comparisons.
sorry if this is in the wrong section. i'm new at this.

okayyyy, so i am constantly compared to other people. my mother makes it seem as if its never okay to be me. i always have to be someone else. but comparing me to others does not motivate me to do better. can anyone relate ?

Teachers also compare me to my older sister. like, i'm not her, and im not that great in that particular subject.

[lil_miss_kawaii]

Ahh i used to get compared to my older sister ALOT in high-school
AH so annnoying ~ teachers would always be like "aahh ___ was such a good student ~ you two are so different ~ blah blah blah" >.<

Didnt motivate me AT ALL to do better cos it just peed me off to the max!

I would always smile and be like yeh thts my sister ~ but inside id be like "yeh thanks... tht made me feel ALOT better" >.<

[xBABy]

i hate it when my parents compare me to my cousins or people older & smarter than me.. or better than me at something. if they really think thats gonna motivate me to do bettter.. it's not. it's just irritating & there really is no point in comparing me to others becos i'm NOT them. so i'm not going to be like them =\.

i just ignore it & continue doing what works best for me. just be yourself, who cares what people think, really. even if it's your parents.

[angelaness]

EVERYONE IS ALWAYSSS COMPARED TO.
Face it, especially with asian parents, you will be compared to by education, appearance, wealth, power, anything you name it.
I am always constantly compared to my great "perfect" cousin.
I know how you feel, I get envious and mad.
Your parents should be glad they have you. IM sure youre a nice person, your mother is comparing you to someone who she BELIEVES is perfect. I bet theyre not. you can always blame your parents that it their fault that they dont like how you are.
YOU DONT HAVE TO CHANGE TO BE APPRECIATED.
You can try to talk to your parents and teacher, and whoever, that they should lay off the unnecessary comments and also that their comments are really affecting emotionally, mentally which can cause a serious damage to you.
YOu should work million times harder then your sister and you will be the one shining.

[orange.xin.wo]

AGH. When I'm at a friend's house, and my mom is there too, my friend would do the dishes. And my mom would go "Look at her. How good of her! She's washing the dishes. Unlike you." and I'm like.. uhh. I washed the dishes before we left....

Or, when my younger cousin and I are setting up the table, My mom is like "Why don't you be more like your cousin?" And i'm just standing there..like. "wtf. seriously?"

[Mannosuke]

Comparisons are for the weak in order to boost their pathetic egos.
Parents that compare their children with other children 24/7 means they wish they had better genes.