[exileXtenshi]

does a relationship require effort or not?
VOTE!

[Malice_Kaiser]

Definitely at first, but after a while if you're meant to be, things should just come naturally. You shouldn't have to be TRYING really hard to make things work out all the time. So I put yes, some effort.

[wicked_]

Yes, at least some =) Nothing ever comes easy so a relationship isn't any different.

[-_-]

Yes it does.

Even if a relationship reaches a point where you're comfortable with each other, it still takes some effort to maintain. My relationship is very low drama and we get along great but still, gotta put in effort.

[riceavocado]

Yupp, If you want to keep things together after your initial feelings come out you have to work to keep the relationship alive. Of course, it's two-sided and if one side gives up the whole thing dies.

[thesisoflove]

No effort = No Relationship. Simple as that.

[es623]

i picked 'some effort' because both parties need to put in effort to build and mantain a strong and healthy relationship. a LOT of effort...would be too much effort...if it takes too much effort, then its not worth it ?

[Pun]

Not too much effort to force it to work but enough to keep it going.

[ShadowMax76]

"choose a job you love, and you will never work a day in your life."

something like that. i think.
it's effort. yes. like anything.
and, like anything, it can be frustrating at times.

but i think what you're asking is near 'doubting the relationship' 'pushing yourself to maintain the relationship' 'making sacrifices' 'putting up with it'. then i guess the problem can either be you or the other person.

o-0' maturity + communication + mutual respect probably is lacking from most of our questionable relationships.
_ i guess most people would see it as a "if you don't get as much/or more than what you put in, it's not worth it"

[HSuke]

I wonder who was the one person who voted "No" up there ... and without posting an explanation.

[mintcracker]

gosh yes, it's ALOT of effort. But I really think it dpends on the relationship? Sometimes both of you get along really well and it's more smooth. Still needs effort of course, but it's not as tiring.

[Emerald Snow]

I really do hope that this is a rhetorical question. Because my answer would be "NO DUH!"

[damyoungji]

I don't have any real experiences, but from my point of view, a healthy relationship requires some effort.

A relationship with a lot of effort does not seem healthy or a smooth one at all. After all, both sides should enjoy the time they spend together, or not together. By putting so much effort into making a relationship work, it sounds as though both sides (or one side) feel like they have to do something constantly. I don't think anyone is fond of being the one running around and trying to make things work out. As for very little to no effort at all, unless both sides are like that, I don't think the relationship will last long. Why not just be friends? After all, by showing some effort, at least it lets the other side know that you actually do care about them.

[ANJEE<3]

should be 50/50

so some effort

[greenlavender]

both side should make effort but if its too much effort than maybe you are just not meant to be

[jaeka]

It takes 2 to tango! It shouldn't feel like an effort though, or work, it just requires understanding, knowing when to bite your lip, knowing when to call it a day, knowing when to give eachother space, patching it up, settling arguments etc. Some may that call it effort/work but it's just knowing how it rolls, really.

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

In the beginning, it's tough, but things fall into place over time. (:

[chilovesjj]

both side should make effort but if its too much effort than maybe you are just not meant to be

Agree, if it just ends up feeling like a chore to try and make it work then that's not a good sign.
There's a balance, relationships don't just easily 'work' by themselves and especially if you end up living together and/or marrying,
there will usually be some friction when 2 people try to live as 1. You have to be willing to compromise so that you can function together properly,
if that makes any sense. I suck at wording stuff. xD But yeah, it gets easier over time as you get to know your s/o <3

Also depends on the seriousness of the relationship. If it's just casual dating then no, I guess that doesn't take much effort xD
Serious/long-term relationships take more effort because when the newness, the novelty wears off, that's where a lot of people have problems :]