[sujulove]

Okay so normally, I really don't care about having a boyfriend. I really don't need one, I have too much stuff to worry about w/out one, etc etc. I normally don't admit it, but lately i've been wanting that kind of a relationship with guy. I just don't want any guy. Well, there's this guy who I used to talk with a lot, and I tried soo hard to like him, but I was still not over another guy and we just didn't click. I rejected him and (not to sound full of it or anything) I'm pretty sure I broke his heart. (But we agreed on staying friends) Well, I saw him while camping last week and there were times when I looked at him and I felt like I could really start to like him since the other guy thing is no longer in the way.The things is, when we talk online and stuff he talks a lot. But then when I talk to him in person, he's so shy and quiet. There's a lot I like about him(his taste in music, the things he likes, his personality, his strong arms(rofl), his breakdancing, his smile(sometimes), he can play piano, he's really nice and dependable, he's so sweet), but he's just soooo shy. ...And I don't want to like, lead him on and then realize I don't like him after all.

And also, I'm so sick of getting hurt, I just want someone who I know can be there for me. And he seems like he could be that type. He's caring, and I know he'd be that person to really care about me. We've been texting, and he even called me last week to check up on me...'cause I texted him late at night 'bout how my mind was 'bout to explode from studying. But he doesn't really live near me(like 20 mins away) and neither of us can drive... maybe I should just give up? I don't even really know him. But it's so hard to get to know him, cause he doesn't really open up and express like...his emotions or anything. When we went camping, he barely talked to anyone and just UGH. it's so frustrating. But I also feel like, there could be a lot more to him, you know? BUT WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO OR SAY? -whheeww. Sorry if that's really long. Just wanted to know...ahaha.

[spark.]

I'm lonely too. T^T -- Though I don't have a guy in mind.

Anyhoo~ just keep talking to him, ask him questions about himself, he should open up by himself if he wants you to know more. Just get closer to the guy--through texts, IM's etc. If you really liked him you'd try. Then again, you might've just been shaken up a bit from seeing all the other relationships going on in friends that you know. So, if you really don't think too much of him, then save the guy the heartbreak. If you really do like him, then hey give it a shot. Don't lie to yourself now. Just my thoughts.

[CCaoKJ]

Aw your friend sounds nice.
i think you should give him time and try to get to know him, and he'll surely open up.^^

[AzizOnDeck]

At times like this I'm glad I have a best friend of the opposite sex. What you need is someone to lean on and apparently the guy you want to lean on isn't the guy you expected but hey keep talking and see how it goes, plus it seems like you guys have gone through a lot right>

[hobobear]

I'm like that. I tend to 'talk' more online than in person. I'm always planning/thinking of what to say to make sure I have something to talk about with someone. And i'm usually only loud when i'm with my good friends.

If you like him, don't give up yet. You guys should get to know each other better. You'll gradually learn more about him and he'd probably be more willing to open up once he knows you better too.

[L&Light]

I think you should wait just to be ssure that you have serious feelings for him and that you are not forcing yourself unconsciously to like him.
See if you miss him, look forward to seeing him or if you are physically attractet to him. BECAUSE IT would make it a little bit easier if you really do those stuff. Good luck, Hope for the best

[pocketsoul]

Are you sure that you aren't forcing yourself to feel a connection with him because you're lonely? I mean, maybe if there doesn't seem to be any kind of "spark", then you aren't really meant to be together... I understand that you want to be in a relationship, but sometimes it's better to sit back and let these things happen on their own. It's just something to think about. If you do decide that you feel confident there IS something, maybe YOU should approach him because he seems so tentative about it. Obviously if you can strike a conversation online, you can do it in person too. Once you let it happen once, it could maybe give him the incentive to reciprocate, and you two could get closer?

[ShadowMax76]

lonely? then keep him as a close guy friend.
perhaps your expectations of him would drop and you wouldn't be so fussed if he's perfect or not.

btw. what's the rush?

[Mannosuke]

but he's just soooo shy

PM me.
+1 for initiative?

Yes, you should take the initiative tyvm.

[sujulove]

thanks for all the replies ^___^
and also, to make some things clear...

a while back(around November), there was no connection at all...
but last week when I saw him again, I did feel a kind of connection
and attraction, but it was just a little. And idk...for me, I feel like I have
to be able to see a guy and talk to him in person a lot more
to have that kind of connection...idk, it's just how I feel.
and if I could see him more often and talk to him in person
I feel like it could grow into something more than just friends...
I just don't really know what to do or say to him
hmmmm...

[walkingmuse]

he sounds like a nice guy!
I know girls usually go for the jerks... I do... and I always end up in the same place
fall for the nice guy for once!!!

and it sounds like he likes you and he's just shy because of it.
once you guys got more comfortable together he'd probably open up a lot more

one of my guy friends talked to me about that and was like "well sometimes you have to adapt to a guy but it can work out great if you stick out the awkwardness in the beginning of a relationship"
you should try that

I know what it's like to like the idea of a relationship more than the relationship itself,
and once it starts getting serious you're like "oh no.. what did I get myself into.."
if that happens try sticking it out and you could have a really good relationship

[Mannosuke]

thanks for all the replies ^___^
and also, to make some things clear...

a while back(around November), there was no connection at all...
but last week when I saw him again, I did feel a kind of connection
and attraction, but it was just a little. And idk...for me, I feel like I have
to be able to see a guy and talk to him in person a lot more
to have that kind of connection...idk, it's just how I feel.
and if I could see him more often and talk to him in person
I feel like it could grow into something more than just friends...
I just don't really know what to do or say to him
hmmmm...

"Go out with me"
"Be my valentine"
"HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY"
"YOU ARE MY SUNSHINE, my only sunshine."

[yoyoseki]

so you don't need a bf but you want to be friends with him or what? i don't get it.

[Telmedragon]

Keep being friendly with him. Get him a bit more comfy with you, eventually you'll break him out of his shy shell .