[MarsReiko]

Is it unreasonable to ask someone what it is they want from you? Like...what do they expect to happen between you?
I guess I should clarify...here's a little background:
Ok, so I've known this guy for just a little while now. We've gotten together and hung out twice. The rest of the time we talk through text. For a week straight we were texting. We hung out the first time, talked, and continued texting. Then we hung out again...and he ended up kissing me. O_O
Now in my book when someone kisses you it means they like you...but I really can't read him at all. So the day after we hang out I don't hear from him....at ALL. So I'm like, what the hell? We've been texting everyday and all the sudden... @_@ So I texted him today...and just said general conversation type things. He seemed kinda off though..and I know thats hard to do when its through TEXTING, but you do get use to a person acting a certain way. So I dunno if I'm reading that wrong or what. I then asked if he'd like to hang out again this evening. He was like oh yea sure, blah blah, kind of like an I don't care either way attitude. And I asked him, are you sure you really want to hang out? He says yes. So after we decided he'd come over....that was the end of the texting. Now like I said, we've been texting like crazy up to this point and he just stops...
I am EXTREMELY confused right now. We don't know eachother well...so is it weird for me to ask what it is he wants from me? I know it might be weird but...I'm not interested in being played with, ya know what I mean? If thats all he wants to do, I'm not interested.
I was going to wait and see how he acts around me tonight and kind of decide from there. Like if he acts like how he normally does with me...maybe let it go? But at the same time, if he kisses me again or something, I STILL would like to know what it is he wants..*sigh*
So, I guess I have two questions/need advice on two things:

1.) What do YOU think his intentions are or might be
2.) Is it ok for me to speak up and try to get an understanding of what he's thinking?
(Oh, and any suggestions on how to bring it up or what to say without sounding like a totally cliche girl? lol)

Please keep in mind that I'm 21 years old...I'm not an idiot and I'm not naive. I need some solid, HELPFUL answers!

Thanks!


Nevermind, I got my answer...*sigh* How despressing...

[Meenuh]

I don't think it's unreasonable at all. You have every right to know and I think it's great that you're willing to ask him straight out instead of beating around the bush.

As for his intentions or why he's like that I can't give you an answer. I can give you a lot of what ifs and maybes but that won't do anything except make you think more. Best thing is to just ask him for yourself. Like you said, neither of you really know eachother very well so maybe there are some other underlying problems or reasons why he's like that.

Atleast after you hear his answer you can decide whether he's worth pursuing or moving on.

[lalalaaa]

This sounds veryyy familiar. I would say that because of the KISS, he's sort of embarrassed to talk to you. And he's playing his embarrassment off by doing an "I don't care either way" thing to save himself some face. Haha he totally likes you.

[MarsReiko]

Meenuh: Thanks, that made me feel a bit better! You're right, a lot of what if kinda speculation stuff would not help. I DO want to ask him flat out...but I am SOOOO nervous about it! >_< I don't want to come of as some cliche girl who gets all whiny and whatever. I'm really wondering how to go about this! *

lalalaa: LOL. Hm, that was one possibility I was considering. He IS a really shy person (or at least that is how he has come off..that could just be a bunch of bs for all I know XD) So maybe his kiss...which was by the way, more than one and we'll say, passionate...caused him to become nervous about the situation.
I just SO don't want this situation to be like...he was just playing and now he's done or something...cause unfortunetly..I do like him. *sigh*