[VintageLove]

Okayy...this is extremely LONG
*THE NAMES ARENT REALLL*
but i need advices...and help...

Please try to understand and be realistic.
Please dont say leave him so simply..look into the story and try to understand.

So me and my bf has been dating for exactly 6 months now.
Today is our 6th monthary.
Okay so basiacally to make a long story short.

We started dating 12.17.08
BUT he had a gf who he started dating 12.10.08
a week before us.
HONESTLY i did not know about her(tina) until a long they broke up. Then he confessed to me.
He recently dumped his OTHER ex( Jen ) before tina.
Jen and him has been dating since 2.4.08 and broke up early december.
3 days AFTER we started dating around christmas time he went to a party and a girl approached him and kissed him, --;; he claims he pulled away...

January came along and he dumped tina around the 12th?
but it was defintely before OUR first monthary.

During mid Feb 09 i first found out about tina and on that he messaged jen around January 2nd saying that he loves her and wants to get back with her.
I was hurt and confused....how can he like 3 girls at once? and i made him confess. By then Him and Tina was already done and over with. They werent in a serious relationship and only pecked lips ONCE. And about Jen he said he had conflicts with her family and left her but a week later one of his close friend asked her out and he said he got mad and tried to break them apart.
That was his explaination. After all that he promised not to talk to ANY girls at all. since hes a big flirt...theres no girls who are JJUST friends to him.

March 6th i wanted revenge so i cheated on him but instead of cheating on him 3 times, i slept with a guy.(technically...not really. cuz we didnt fully go at it and i started to feel this guilt and eventually ended up kicking the guy outta the house.)
He broke down but held it in. It was the first time i EVER cheated no anyone and i didnt know i was the one to hurt more than him.
But he forgave me and understood we both got even.

BUT during april he came to see me the day before my birthday( april 22nd) since i got my belly button pierced that day.
Then an UNKNOWN number texted him saying "chugulae" ---> means "do you wana die" in korean
but shes white. Lets call her Alice.

After the time i cheated on him we were PERFECT. we remained faithful and loyal. so when he got the text he looked over at me and asked if i knew the number and i dialed it in my phone and i told him i didnt know.

He sed okay and that he'll find out. He left to go home.
and what i recall he never told me who it was when he found out. i guess i felt i could trust him so much at that time it wasnt important.

On may 2nd when he came over, we were just talking and having fun until he suddenly got a text message from Alice. at that time i didnt know who it was and had a fit on him.
he sed it was jus a friend but the text said " If you dont want to talk to me, you can just tell me" ...but if they were jus friend...why would she say that?

So i kicked him out of my house and he called her and started cursing her out and stuff. i left my house and went for a walk at midnight and he got worried.
hes a jealous type and doesnt like it when i leave my house...esp at night.
So he apologized and promised not to talk to her ever again. I got her number and told her to back off my bf and etc and she apologized million times and promised to do so.

So after that we were fine until June 11th. he came to my house again and that day i was going to tell him that i was pregnant...and it was the truth.
But RIGHT before i told him he got a text saying " if we hang out where are we gouna hang out" this time i really went off at him.

He sed:
It was his football coach

I sed: why would he say hang out if hes like 50 years old.

He sed:
He talked like a teen cuz he wanted to feel young

So then i went off at him cuz i knew he was lying and then he got a call from his mom and they started argugin.
after him and his mom hung up i got suspious with HIS COACH so i asked to get his number
he went off at me saying that hes pissed and not in a good mood etc. so i was like o.O okay then bye! *slams door* he came back 3 mins later
saying hes sorry and that i can look at his phone and i sed NO i know for a fact you changed the number and eventually i snatched his phone from him and went to his phonebook.
Under the "coach's name" there was 2 different numbers. so i was like the last time i checked there wasnt 2. so i took both number and dialed it on my phone.
I found out it was HER again. i got furious and told him to leave and that i hated him. at that second i felt like killing myself.
I had HIS KID...he didnt know..i didnt have the chance to tell him...at the same time he broke his promise...
He left and i texted her for the true story but by that time she told me the same story as him...i knew he got to her alrdy.
the story was that his coach wanted to go over the playbook and wanted to know where to meet up. and the coach was supposely HER DAD.
which was obviously BS. cuz i checked his school athelete team and the coaches name but the name tat was under his phone wasnt there

so the next day he came back when i told him not to. so i sed call this coach of urs and confirm to me tat hes ur coach.
i wana personally talk to him. and he froze. then he made up another lie saying bunch of lies.
He told me that she didnt mean anything and that he'll prove it by cursing her out and threatenin her over the phone RIGHT in front of me. by then i was disgusted but i didnt stop him.
basically he kept lying. as he was lying he was on his knees crying and grabbed a knife from my kitchen and went at his throat i stood there seeing if he would actually do it.
he went far enuff to make it bleed a lil thats it.
then he went at his wrist and cut it REAL deep. there was BLOOD alll over the place.
still then i couldnt look at his face and when i did i sed ur a f*****ing liar. and kicked him out of my house.
he wouldnt leave so i went through his phone and i went on his email since he has an iphone.
n i found out the girl sent him pictures of her half naked 2 days AFTER MY BDAY...like wth! it was right after my BIRTHDAY

I threw his phone to the ground, picked it up and threw it in the sink, then threw it down the stairs.
he didnt care. he just wanted to be forgiven...but still then he lied.
i slapped him soo many times cuz i didnt know if i should tell him that i was pregnant.
i got frustrated.
I got sick and tired of hiding it from him and yelled that i was pregnant and even showed him the test. he froze...


i kicked him out of the house and he left silently and i texted the girl knowing he cant text her or contact her.
i asked for the true story and she did...she was hella scared for some reason.
so baiscally he texted her first and etc. they flirted but the first day they started talkin i found out.
i was so shocked to hear that HE was the first to text her and to hang out.
i asked him why did u ask her to hang out,...and he said because he wanted to hurt me the same way i did but he wasnt really gonna go.
it was just to see if the girl still felt for him.

i dont know if thats bs.
so basically i sed we're done and that im going to get an abortion.
he tried to convince me to have it.
but i had mood swings and i told him it was MY decision and y the heck would i have it if he did that crap to me.
he didnt say anything after that.

he sed i could cheat on him again and that he wont do this ever again.
but i personally didnt want to so i didnt.
so he sed instead hes gonna beat the girl up.
they planned a day and time and he sed that i have to be there to see it,.
its kinda screwed up...she didnt do anything.
so im waiting til that day until it happens.
to prove she really means nothin to him.

until the day comes i physically hurt him.
i got mad.
i bit him everytime he hugged me and he even let me throw a hairspray bottle at his...area and he rolled into a ball for 20 mins.
and i just sat there staring at him.
im cruel i know. but its my decision whether or not i want to have to this kid.
so what should i do...should i leave him?
afterthat day should i give him another chance?

[Mannosuke]

What a k-drama. Sucks to be you.
I wouldn't get into again lol

he sed i could cheat on him again and that he wont do this ever again.

lol, he's already given up, I would go for the abortion and try to find another hobby.

[VintageLove]

What a k-drama. Sucks to be you.
I wouldn't get into again lol



lol, he's already given up, I would go for the abortion and try to find another hobby.

honestly...this isnt funny.
but thats what i was planning to do..but i wanted to give him another chance

[Mannosuke]

Sorry, I only find it amusing because of the way you wrote it.
In any case, he doesn't really sound like the type that'll keep his word anyways (which has been demonstrated several times throughout the story already).

[VintageLove]

Sorry, I only find it amusing because of the way you wrote it.
In any case, he doesn't really sound like the type that'll keep his word anyways (which has been demonstrated several times throughout the story already).

thanks. i made the appointment and i guess ill have to leave him

[jiwoneex3]

What a k-drama. Sucks to be you.
I wouldn't get into again lol



lol, he's already given up, I would go for the abortion and try to find another hobby.

what is wrong with you?

honestly, your boyfriend is a douche.
and i don't understand how you managed to even last this long with him (and 6 months isn't that long,really) after all the things he's done to you.

and sorry, but you're pretty careless as well.
i want to tell you not to get an abortion, but i can't see how you can manage to raise a child either, after how the two of you dealt with your relationship. plus, you sound young?

basically, you should've left him a long time ago. he obviously does not cherish nor care about this relationship.
i have no idea what you're going to do about being pregnant,
but try not to go psycho-crazy on him,
you should be careful and not stress so much

[kerpao]

get an abortion and use protection next time.

[anglegur100]

honestly i think you should .leave him because it is hard to have a life like that, it just making it miserable for yourself. also if he didn't change before i don't think he would now. not to be mean having a abortion wont help , you will later regret it also it giving him a easy way out.

[saranghaeyoforever]

>_> Sorry I don't wanna come out as rude, but you sound so stupid to me right now.
Stop wasting your time on him. God damn. Both of you sound like a pain in the @ss to each other and just reading about this is giving me a headache and making me feel like punching your bf.
Meet someonelse, hes not right for you. Let him get HIV from cheating so much.

[adiavoy]

Leave him, ignore, and whatever. He sounds like such a pain, and if you stick with him, there will be even MORE drama, which will be a waste of your time. Doesn't sound faithful or loyal at all... and plus he wanted to beat the other girl up in front of you!? But you should decide whether you want to have a baby or not, and find yourself somebody better, (and if that guy cheats, don't get revenge, just leave)

[_Kelly]

Wow, you two sound so fcking crazy, no offense. I understand how you felt when you cheated on him, we are girls, we have a rebellious side in us somewhere, esp when were moody and insecure at the same time. I understand how much shet you have to take in because of his immature indecisive feelings. At first when i read about his first two previous girlfriends, i was like okay, this is bad. Then about the texting and trying to hurt you back, was really bad. Then lying, that's making it worst. About how you hit him and let him cut himself like that was crazy, i know you were mad but really? wow, that's some insane shet. I can tell he cares, but I'm not sure if he's committed to his decision about never doing it again.

Too much deceiving, too much cheating and conflicts. It's your choice if you want to keep the baby or not. Don't let it ruin your life, he doesn't seem worth it, even after what i read from the very beginning about his ex's. You shouldn't deal with all this insecurity and his lies.

[joie.de.vivre]

....How old are you guys ?

[MNLV27]

Your relationship sounds soo unhealthy. You need to just forget about him, what is it that he's soo special? He's a flirt, he's made and broken promises that he made for you, that clearly shows how much he cares. Why else would you want to be with him?

As for the baby, I can't really say keep it or abort it, keeping it would be hard for you since you might end up being a single parent and aborting it is not an easy task to do because it's a life you're taking away. So it's really up to you to decide.

[,astrolicious]

I'm a bit confused and everything.
And I really don't want to say anything about this except for the last bit.

A guy should NEVER beat up a girl.
He shouldn't think about it let alone PLAN IT.
That is probably THE biggest dickhead move any male could make.

It's completely ... I don't even know what to say about it.
How would you feel about that?
Especially since apparently HE was the one who called her first.
That is unfair and just plain violent.

Don't encourage stuff like that.
Let alone anticipate it just so it can prove something.
I don't even know what to say about this.

That is cowardly of him to say stuff like that.

And you should come to realize what kind of person he is after all of this.
Like, how many girls did he play?

You have a lot to deal with right now.
He's obviously not a trustworthy guy if he does these kinds of things.
Since the beginning of your relationship, it seems like he's just been playing around.
All these lies, all these crazy stories he's made up.
He's not worth your time or your effort.

You have to ask yourself where you want to go from here.
And why.
Talk to someone about it, someone you can trust not to be biased and just help you think things through.
Everything must be cluttered in your mind right now, you just need to think things through.
But trust me and the people who tell you this
Your relationship with him is unhealthy and you are getting hurt and so are a lot of other people apparently.

The baby. Tell your parents about it.
Have you talked to anyone else about this?
You have to talk to someone about this.
Because you don't have to be alone.

And he cut himself?
He needs to talk to someone about this too.

Good luck with whatever your choice is.
Just know that someone is there for you, even if it is just us.

[小甜密]

Instead of focusing on your horrible boyfriend, why don't you decide what you're going to do about the baby first? You better get that taken care of before it really starts to show on your belly.

And this relationship of yours...it sounds REALLY messy. Do you really want to be back with him? After all the times he hurt you? I'm sure there are plenty and plenty of guys in this world that surpasses your bf in sooo many ways. I hate girls suffering in relationships, especially in your situation. Please, do what's best for your future and possibly your kid. Having that man in your life makes life worse than hell. I'm surprise you can last that long with him.

Anyways, good luck! Keep us updated. I hope you make the right decision.

[SushiToaster]

wow that was really something :/
this guy's gonna bring you noting but trouble, break it off with him like, cleanly (does that description even make sense? lol) so he won't try to get you back and drama stuff :p go get a fresh start, you probably shouldn't associate with him any more
forget him, you're way better than he deserves :)

[blackvelvetfever]

....How old are you guys ?

I was asking myself the same thing.

But in any case, you should've left the guy a long time ago. He was obviously taking you for granted. Well, once a jerk, always a jerk (in most cases).

[iamkrn2494]

anyone find this story quite fictional?
..maybe its just me.
oh lord, here goes soompiers bashing at me

[JJ no Baka]

How old are the both of you? No person in their right mind would just randomly decide to cheat on their boyfriend just because you were upset with him for whatever reason. You sank lower than he did. Oh wells, too late for that now.

I feel so sorry for your soon to be aborted child.

[pervert]

it's your decision whether to get an abortion of not. don't let him sway your decision because he's obviously not a good boyfriend. don't stay with him, because he'll only continue to hurt you. don't be swayed the extreme stunts he did to "prove" himself to you like let you throw a hairspray can at his crotch or cut himself because it hardly proves a thing. it just proves that he's stupid. AND DON'T LET HIM BEAT UP THAT GIRL. WHY ARE YOU ALLOWING HIM TO DO THAT? you had better not let him do that because that girl is probably being hurt by his relationship with you too.