[영원한 사랑]

Ever since college started, I feel like so antisocial and I have NO friends anymore, since all my good friends went to other colleges elsewhere. Everything I do now is done alone. I study alone, eat alone and do everything alone. I feel like I wanna get to know new people and make new friends but find it so hard. I just can't find people i connect with and college is so large and sooo spread out.

I remember in high school, I had easier time making friends and had friends to hang out with..but now im a loner. I'm in my going into my 3rd year of college, and still only hav acquaitances that i know. but then again, i commute to school, so i dont have lot of time to talk to people.


Anyone else have my problem??

[mizswtifee]

in the same position.

i dont know if i should count it as a adv or disadv.
alone... you can study without being distracted and less chance to cut class

i admit..it does become lonely sometimes, b/c when you're looking at other people, they are always with a friend and you're not.
i think i've gotten used to it already. i've tried making friends, but it just doesn't click. [i feel like people are intimidated by me ]

but anyways to change your problem, you should join a club that you are interested in. trust me it will help you

[NoBreak92]

hmm don't most people become more social when they get into college? cuz unlike high school, you meet a large diverse group of people and you can find the "right" people for you easily, which can make you feel more comfortable. that's what i think.

[Hax]

hmm don't most people become more social when they get into college? cuz unlike high school, you meet a large diverse group of people and you can find the "right" people for you easily, which can make you feel more comfortable. that's what i think.

If you are not a social butterfly or someone who tries really HARD to meet new people, you might end up being anti-social. It's really easy to stay at your dorm being alone or quickly go home after class if you commute.

The opportunity is there to meet people, but you really have to try hard to make use of it and many people don't. I've had to make immense effort to form the friendships I have now. This meant calling people out constantly to hang or watch a movie.

Highschool was easier because you always saw the same people so you automatically became friends. College is different in that regards.

[odarketernityo]

commuting to school makes it more difficult to become social because you don't have the dorm situation... and many college students become friends because they live with each other and constantly see each other. for me, I lived in a quiet, anti-social dorm my first year so I made most of my friends in my small foreign language classes. also, you could take a chance and sit next to someone random for a meal and start a conversation with him/her.

of course, having friends did come at a cost. empty wallet and lower grades XD

[yuiyean]

I seems to only make people irk with my atics. I'm the cold-sleepy head-clown-oddball type that rather than fake a smile to get friends chooses to sleep and look sincerely stupid (so I can get away with stuff).

[yeuthuong]

i still feel this way sometimes...even though this coming fall will be my third year! although i have made many friends, other than my roommates, i barely ever hang out with them. for me, i prefer spending my weekends relaxing, sleeping, just taking a breather from all the stresses of that week. i don't know about y'all, but i find that a lot of people i meet like going to clubs, local/house parties, and to the bars for drinks during their free time. i'm not really into those kinds of things so i never go with them. but if you do want to just be around people, i find that doing study groups is a good way to talk to people and even joining some clubs or groups on campus. there may be lots of different people in that group/club, but at least you know someone shares the same interest as you idk..i'm usually the shy one of the group and i'm going to work on that and just be a tad more social and try to relax...

[felinius]

hmm don't most people become more social when they get into college? cuz unlike high school, you meet a large diverse group of people and you can find the "right" people for you easily, which can make you feel more comfortable. that's what i think.

It's not like high school ... you're not forced to be around people for about 8 hours a day. At most it's only 3 hours if then.

I've had the same problem, and a lot of people just don't click. It's a good idea to just go out and find at least one or two friends to talk with.

[awdark]

Yeah, I wasn't social to begin with but college was a great opportunity for me to stop interacting with people unless I really needed to.

[aeri]

I made a few friends so far, but I haven't really kept in touch with them. It's only a matter of actually passing by them do I say hello and ask how it is going for them if neither of us are busy.

I still feel pretty antisocial, but I kinda was in high school, too x___x;;
I do agree that joining a club would probably help in making more friends, but don't spend too much time with friends when you have to take care of yourself, too :]

[SHARK]

I personally had the opposite happen.

I'm a pretty introverted person, and kinda anti-social to follow.

After my first year of college, I made plenty of friends, especially with my hall, that I'll be seeing again this year! I think it depends on how you approach it, I always enjoyed the company of people even if I'm not sincerely being who I am supposed to be.

[vectorzz]

Yea, feel like that too

Joining a club helps a little bit

and I do try to call people to try and hang out, but it's always me calling them but not the other way around!

Overtime I end up feeling like I'm desperate or something....

[Lisa]

Yeah, I can relate. Actually, when I was going to community college I met tons of cool people, but now that I'm at university I've made 0 friends. Luckily I have my boyfriend here with me, so I'm not completely alone.

[Antz]

it depends on your personality really. luckily i made a lot of friends in my course, as well as out (their friends). i tried to make friends on the first day, which is usually better cuz everyone's in the same boat! if not, usually in tutorial classes.

[beeness]

Ever since college started, I feel like so antisocial and I have NO friends anymore, since all my good friends went to other colleges elsewhere. Everything I do now is done alone. I study alone, eat alone and do everything alone. I feel like I wanna get to know new people and make new friends but find it so hard. I just can't find people i connect with and college is so large and sooo spread out.

I remember in high school, I had easier time making friends and had friends to hang out with..but now im a loner. I'm in my going into my 3rd year of college, and still only hav acquaitances that i know. but then again, i commute to school, so i dont have lot of time to talk to people.


Anyone else have my problem??

I actually lived at the dorms my first year, and now I live at the apts across from my school, but I'm still in the same situation as you. The first year, at least I had the people at the dorms, but I didn't really have much in common with them. Now, I have my one roommate and I live in routine. I know some people that commute to school that made more friends than I did. I only have like 3 friends from college. That's pretty sad. But it's probably because I became pretty introverted my first year. I actually ignored this girl's calls after a month or two because I thought she was annoying, but now that I think about it. I shouldn't have done that! She could have became a really good friend. btw what school do you go to?

[KuYA II]

Yes!

I hardly talk to my friends. When we all hang out, it would be if we haven't seen each other between 5 months to one year and just catch up on what we do.

I don't even hardly talk to people in college, just classmates to exchange missing home work assignments and notes.

[albeitalways]

I'm half and half. I'm an intro and extro at the same time. I like hanging out with people, but at the same time it makes me drained afterwards. I just noticed this in college. I go out on dinners with tons of people, make small talk with my classmates just to have a common ground and so on but for some reason I feel tired when I'm back at my dorm. And anyway, even if I want to stay on my own--CAN'T. I dunno, I think college is a breeding ground for cliques, social circles and such. It's impossible to stay out, even without having an org.

[jelly_pudding]

Ever since college started, I feel like so antisocial and I have NO friends anymore, since all my good friends went to other colleges elsewhere. Everything I do now is done alone. I study alone, eat alone and do everything alone. I feel like I wanna get to know new people and make new friends but find it so hard. I just can't find people i connect with and college is so large and sooo spread out.

I remember in high school, I had easier time making friends and had friends to hang out with..but now im a loner. I'm in my going into my 3rd year of college, and still only hav acquaitances that i know. but then again, i commute to school, so i dont have lot of time to talk to people.


Anyone else have my problem??

wow.. and here i thought i was the only one....... =/ my best friend lives in another state from me, all of my friends from high school go to different schools and i have like no social life right now. its really depressing actually.. but then when people ask me to hangout sometimes (my old friends) , i don't really feel like going out.. i guess i'm just getting depressed.. its so hard to find friends in college.. seriously, i'm not friends with the same people i was from high school.. so i only have a few friends from high school that i made.. and i thought i could go to college and find new friends.. but not really .. well hopefully we will both find some good friends in college soon.. i'm tired of meeting people in college and never talking to them again just because we don't have the same class anymore -____-;; people should WANT to meet keep new friends.. but it feels like people don't want to..

[heartdrops]

^ aww that's kinda how I feel right now even though I'm not in college yet. It's the summer and I'm not even hanging out with a lot of friends anymore. Most of them are busy with work and will be going to different colleges. I'm really worried that I'll be antisocial in college because I AM a shy person to begin with.. =/ I do have one friend that will be going to the same college as I am, but she's really different from her.. like she's a total night person and I'm a day person so it should be hard for us to hangout..

[dimdup]

Why don't you try making at least one friend in every class you go to? I did my 2nd semester and it really worked for me =]. Plus you have someone to ask about any assignments or what not if you missed a class. Other than that try to join a club or intramural sport. Have a goal to like introduce yourself to like two people in it.

I am a little bit of a shy person, especially in an unknown surrounding. But I just have to push myself through the intimidating atmosphere to be able to introduce myself to someone new.

Take advantage of any small classes!!! I had 2 small classes for English and Beginning Korean. I basically became friends with everyone because of the small amount of students in the class.

I remembered an really old friend of mine that went to college when i was in 8th grade, and she told me that her motto was "To make a friend everyday." I know that's not always simple or easy. But TRY!!! Also i heard that people are more likely to hang out/ meet other happy people... just a little extra something to think about.


GOOD LUCK!!! =]