[mintcracker]

^ woah that sucks. This is how it was like when i just moved in my dorm. The whole silence after I talk thing. I just stopped trying lol.

Is this your first year?

[MaliceInWonderlandx]

i know how you feel, but i kinda grown to like it.

i commute as well, dorming at my school is pretty expensive. and just looking at my financial situation, i honestly don't think i'll dorm until like the very end of college. and apparently, after talking to kids who dorm, they say that you mostly get friends from the dorms because they are your neighbors.

as much as i miss my friends, i just tell myself that i have more time to study.

my friends are just as busy as i am, sooo we can understand each other's situation.

[supa'Wanki]

I've become anti social yet social at the same time. I became less self conscious, confident, and more open, but at the same time I've closed myself in because I feel like I don't have a reason to get to know anyone.*sighh

[Tiffa_xx]

I've become anti social yet social at the same time. I became less self conscious, confident, and more open, but at the same time I've closed myself in because I feel like I don't have a reason to get to know anyone.*sighh

yeah, me too. I feel like sometimes I'm really extroverted and party alot and have a good time. But at the same time, I just feel so lonely and awkward in social situations. I feel as if I've forgotten how to make close friends. Even though I have alot of acquaintances, there's not that many people I can actually just call up and chill with and it seems as if it's always me doing the calling and making plans.

My first year, I dormed but my dorm was really small and relatively anti-social at first. And then everyone started getting all close and even though I was friends with people, I still felt as if I was out of the picture. I joined a fraternity and became a lil sis and ended up making alot of guy friends but there's only so much you could do when hanging out with a bunch of guys who smoke all day. I wish I had more girl friends

I'm in my 3rd year now and I'm dreading going back to school because my boyfriend graduated and is going to be out of the country for a while. It was fine in my 2nd year cuz I hung out with him. But at the same time, I lost touch with so many people and I feel as if I've forgotten how to socialize and then I end up feeling awkward and lame.

[Eja]

It's just so tiring when you have to meet a lot of people, you can't even remember all of their names! So yeah, maybe I'm turning into one.

[pam]

I actually became more sociable when I started college a year ago.
I made a couple of new friends who I can relied on.
College has been good to me so far.

[she-smiles]

of course it would be easier to make friends in high school. the atmosphere/environment was much more smaller. where as in college (depending on population), it would be more difficult to make friends. high school doesn't require as much responsibilities as being in college either. because with more responsibilities, you lose more time to hang out. at least to me. it also depends on where you live. my freshman year, i lived in the dormitories, and i met a new person just about every week. (that helps with your social skills. ) but my sophomore year, i got an apartment. it was quite a far distance from campus, so i stayed away as much as possible. i was only on campus when i had classes or if i had to run necessary errands. i still had friends, but at that time, we got more responsibilities and we became more focused on our studies (and less focused on playing around). i was also very busy with my major. a lot of my classes required us to work individually and off campus (such as student observations, i'm an education major btw). so i didn't get to befriend a lot of my classmates either. i'm usually a very social person, but because of the workload, i just don't care anymore. i still have my friends, and we hang out when possible. being social and meeting new people regularly doesn't really matter to me anymore. just don't freak out when someone wants to befriend you.

[doremii*]

I've made a lot of new friends but I've completely lost contact with my high school friends =T

[alicechen]

I always hang out with the same people that I met during orientation.
I do have other friends...but with different schedule and being a commuter does not help at all.
But I LOVE the people I hangout with. 3 is enough...

[litoxshortaii]

quite the opposite for me. i was really shy in high school cuz strangely enough, going to a small high school where i knew everyone by name made it harder to make new friends. there werent a lot of ppl and everybody already had their cliques from day one so it was hard to fit into a different group. but in college, there are so many different ppl with diverse interests-- you just have to find them. go join some clubs you're interested in. i know some of my friends who commute always hang out in the student center cuz they have nowhere to go in between classes so they met just from being in the same area all the time.

[twinkle_l0ve]

I'm in this same situation too

High school was so easy because we saw each other everyday and had the same group commuting to and from school

But university is so different and it's killing me! There is NO ONE from my high school going to the same uni as me and that's pretty wow because there's only about 5 uni's around sydney that are worth going to. I have a few friends (more like acquaintances) but that's it. My course has less than 100 people and when one of my friends refers to someone in our course and I don't know them, they feel kind of shocked (?) since it's not that hard to know 100 people or something.

I don't know, it just seems like my social skills from high school have disappeared. And it's depressing because my high school friends social lives are flourishing while mine's just crumbling

[sassa15]

Well, on my situation, my first year first sem really got into me. I don't know anyone and shocks! I don't have any friends on my first months. But then, as days have passed, I got friends and has a strong bond between us..

[kuroioshare]

I became totally anti-social. I went to school near home so I still had the friend there that hadn't left yet. This year, I'm moving to dorms and since my two best friends are leaving i think it's a good idea and a good way to meet lots of new people so I think i'll be fine :]

[Raisuki]

The opposite for me actually..

I came into college not wanting to be social, at least amongst the asians (I was fairly white washed).

We had a ALANA program though that let diverse students arrive on campus a weekend earlier than the rest of the freshmen..

That totally changed everything. Everyone was meeting everyone else, and after awhile, all the diverse people knew each other.. and just hung out. :]

Hopefully your college supply programs like these. :S

I'm class of 2011 btw.. going to be a junior this year, so this happened two years ago.

[pityfulblue]

wow what a nice school!!! hahah actually i think my school has something like that but everything is optional and im too lazy to go...i guess i have to make an effort to make friends it used to be soo natural..my hs school friends keep asking themselves do you remember how we met? and NONE of us remember cuz it was that natural..but w/ college friends there's soooo many awkward silences ive to put on my cheery partially fake personality to get rid of it and now it's getting tiring but i guess the few friends who ive maintained a good relationship with are the ones that are worth me not putting up a fake facade

[polaress]

I always been kinda anti-social...you can try and join a club.

[haruharu07]

I don't think I've become anti-social. I mean yes I have moved away from my friends and family and don't get to see them near enough. But I have made new friends. I go to a really small school. And pretty much the only friends I have there are the ones in my class. There are six of us in my class. I have some other Audio Engineering friends in the class behind me, but I don't get to see them much either.

The school I go to is pretty much a nerd school, 3D gaming, digital film, network security. That kind of stuff and all of the courses are really clicky. So you can't really make friends. I attempted to talk to a new group of 3D kids and they really didn't seem to care that a really pretty girl was talking to them, they just went back to drawing. So no hope really for new friends. Thank gawd I have my old ones.

[an1287]

Same situation when I was in undergraduate (but it got better by the 3rd year!), and now all over again for graduate

I guess over time, you just "fall into place" with some people and become good friends. In other cases, it's just difficult to interact with people who don't understand your sense of humor It's not so much "anti-social" as it is you're on a tighter schedule with less time to socialize. Either way, you do what you need to do to get that precious precious piece of paper also known as a degree! (just kidding)

[BelindalovesTOP]

i feel that way sometimes, since most of my friends went to other colleges, we barely have time to hang out anymore. But we always find a way to any how.

I've made friends in college, even though it's not like high school, where it's the same and two or three new people, i still find it kinda fun to meet new people and get to know who they really are.

[tofu plushie]

I was pretty quiet and shy in high school and I had a small group of friends. In college I met a lot of people and made a lot of friends. I opened up and became more sociable. I find the best way to make friends is in small classes. Most of my friends that I made I met in smaller classes, for example in foreign language. We exchanged numbers to study together and ended up hanging out. I also met friends through other friends.