[donporkuloin]

I was talking to this girl, and she's not officially with the guy. It's clearly obvious that the guy is cheating on her, and they argue a lot. Yet she's still with him. It irks me a lot, because she tells me, "He's not doing me right, but it's something about him that makes me not able to leave him." Why do girls stay with guys when they get cheated on?

[cookieXjar]

Because they hope they change (but most of the time they don't) & idk, just someone by their side? But then again, that's me.

[~ BunnyliciouS ~]

most common reasons,

she doesn't want the time she's spent with him gone wasted.
her feeling is too attached to him, she's crazy about the 'good' part of him, she's afraid she won't be able find someone who's as good as or better than him.
she's afraid being alone, afraid she cant find a man who wants to be with her if she breaks up w/ him

[Mannosuke]

she's afraid she won't be able find someone who's as good as or better than him.
she's afraid being alone, afraid she cant find a man who wants to be with her if she breaks up w/ him

Of course she'd be afraid she might not find someone (better) if she never goes out and looks.
It doesn't matter if the next guy's any better, cause that means nothing if she doesn't even try.

She can't find a man who wants to be with her because she doesn't go out and find one lol.
So I agree, these are common reasons that apply to most women in general.

[lil_miss_kawaii]

Ummm.... Well I know someone who stayed with this guy
Shes a nice girl and the guy is supposedly known to be a player
But he insists he isnt (he says hes religious and stuff) and they arent official
But she doesnt want to stop because she wonders "what if he was telling the truth"

Its not completely certain tht the guy is a player ~ its just when hes out hes a partyer

But ~ its like the girl will always ask her self "what if he changes?" "What if he did this" or "How will he feel?"

Uusally because she is attached to him and doesnt want to be alone until she finds another guy to get attached with
He probably does something which makes he have a bit of hope

Happens al the time ~ you just have to be in her shoes to truly understand!

[jaeka]

Us women are plain stupid. .___.

No, I agree with lil_miss_kawaii -- we have such questions like that. Hope, basically. "He must still love me if he's with me" and so on. Hopefully, either things work out for the girl or she sees sense. ^^

[visuelz]

She wants someone that can step on her as a husband. He'll probably beat her too. Tell her she's doing a great job...

[forgottenmemories]

I agree with Bunny, its because she's scared she won't find anyone else and all her time with him will go to waste. If it was me... I'd leave the minute I found out he cheated. Your friend will come to her senses.

[foxtrot]

I was talking to this girl, and she's not officially with the guy. It's clearly obvious that the guy is cheating on her, and they argue a lot. Yet she's still with him. It irks me a lot, because she tells me, "He's not doing me right, but it's something about him that makes me not able to leave him." Why do girls stay with guys when they get cheated on?

because they are stupid.

[myxo]

Probably for the same reason that guys stay with girls who cheated on them. Girls aren't the only ones who choose to stay.
Most likely people stay because of insecurity issues. Another reason they stay is because they don't want to have to start all over again with a new person. I've talked to friends who stuck to the rotting relationship because they didn't want to have to go through the whole dating and getting to know someone stages again. Sounds lame, but the comfort and attachment of being close to someone makes letting go difficult. Also, in most dysfunctional relationships, the stronger minded s/o tend to play a lot of mind manipulation tricks on the weaker s/o, usually making them feel inferior, ugly, unwanted, and isolated, thus making it harder to leave.

[iAmTan_1]

There are several reason why but here are the top three:

1. They feel like the time that they invested into the relationship they don't want it to end
2. They believe that they "love" the person.
3. They don't want to be "alone"

[YESUNGHWAITING!]

I was wondering the same thing...

Also, why do guys stay with girls that treat them like crap just because they're pretty?
It makes me mad.
:|

[JJM]

^^ I totally question that too. Why do guys stay with a bean pie loser of a tramp gf just because of her looks when she looks like every other girl out there.

And sometimes, as foxtrot stated... pure stupidity.

[BAZINGA!]

I've always wondered this and thought they were stupid for staying. LOL, until I became one of those that stayed.

It's an emotional roller coaster that leaves you blind to his faults and even when he's an bubble gum you stay because you know he has a really nice/sweet/loving side. And because you love him you accept all the good and bad sides of him. He will talk down to you and then turn around and treats you like you're the only thing that matters in the world once he's not mad/taking his anger out on you/etc.


Lol, it's kinda like a drug, I guess? Nothing can compare to the high(love) it gives and once it's gone, it's like hell, but you can't help but keep the cycle going just to feel that high(love) again.


It doesn't happen to every one though, I mean, really it happens to the weak. And I'll admit it, I am actually very weak even if I don't seem like it to some people.

[Lie]

Low-self esteem + needy + secretly enjoy the drama because it keeps them entertained.

[greenlavender]

they are most likely insecure and afraid of being lonely. plus most of them hopes a lot that the guy will change. i think thats plan stupid because the guy will probably think he could get away with it again but i get it that sometime emotions and irrational thoughts get the best of you so i just hope the girl would see that he is not worth it

[heheimawesome]

because when the guys treat the girls right once in a while, they feel happier than anyone else in the world can make them

then they wait and wait until the next time the guy is nice and treats her well and shes really happy again.

[c.to_]

my theories
- afraid of being alone
- think they 'won't do it again' or that they'll ' change'
- " people make mistakes"

[Nana544]

The reasons are:

1. The girl is lonely
2. She's too attached to the guy
3. In her eyes, the guy is perfect no matter what he did to her
4. She's not strong enough to leave him
5. She doesn't want to admit to the fact that he cheated on her,
6. She choose to ignore the reality
7. She's afraid she won't find a boyfriend ever again.

-There could be a million reasons!

[aiyan]

There are indeed many reasons but I think that most of the people who have already posted are pretty spot on.

Women stay because they have seen the good side of the guy, and only hope that the guy will change and become the good guy she fell in love with again. Same rationale as to why most girls prefer the "bad boy." The woman should obviously move on, but it's tough. The only thing that can make her really move on is by meeting someone better who will love and care for her.