[SmilesCrammedWithSorrow]

I have VERY over protective parents.
They make sure they know everything thats going on in my life.
I think it's pretty annoying.

My parents forbid me to hang out with guys,
but I do it anyway.
Is having over protective parents a good or bad thing?

Do you have overprotective parents?
How do you deal with it?

[catheezy]

My dad is over protective but he's getting better at it. He wants to know where, who, and when I'll be hanging out..and I have to give him a call just to let him know I'm still wherever at some point that I'm there. There's no way around it.. as you get older I can imagine our parents to eventually crack. I think having protective parents is a good thing, not to a point where they won't let you go out just cause they don't trust you though.

[naoto]

Good thing unless you're a boy. Let me explain.

I am a guy. Whether it is girl - friends, girl friend, or imagining what it would be like to have daughters I am completely psycho. I know how guys think, I know who looks at who, and I don't want that happening to my ladies. Don't give me "well everybody dresses like that", I don't give a flying fruit what other people dress like. I get worried when people I care about dress that way and that's that. If I have a daughter she is not leaving the house until she is 25. She will also become a judo prodigy, dress like a nun, and only hang out with religious boys under my supervision.

I think about how I would treat my son and you know what I don't care about him at all. Do what you want, because you're a guy nobody's going to check you out. Fighting? Builds character. Finish.


-don't quote and yell at me I know I'm wrong, I mean well.

[versep]

over protective is bad. protective is normal.

[Jello.]

Good thing :
They can prevent you from going too far w. things, and it just means they care alot about you.

Bad thing :
You wont have a life.

[Tessellate]

It's terrible. I won't be an overprotective parent. Heck, I just won't have children. Hum.

[emy1024]

BAD BAD BAD. i have OVER protective parents and they suck


1. No normal life (aka. hanging out past 12, parties, or even hanging out with guys)
2. Never gonna be INdependent
3. they're annoying
4. you feel clustraphobic(?) around them...

[thesisoflove]

Over protective parents might suck, but hey, they just want to look out for you.

Most the people who I know, who usually don't have over protective parents, dont actually end up doing stupid things. But then again, it varies for everyone.

My parents were soo damn protective of me, overprotective too, now they know I'm growing up.. so.. yeah.

[des monstres]

depends.
if it's extreme, then that's never good.
how do they expect you to make mistakes and learn from them?
that's how you get life experiences.

if your parents were too laid back,..
problems would arise from that as well.

there should be a good balance.
show them that you're responsible.

[erika.march1993]

Overprotective= bad and suffocating
Protective= good

Its good to let your children have a little bit of independence, but not too much or they'll run away and go to another state like Texas or Alabama.

When I have kids one day, I know I'll be the cool strict kind of mom.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

It would be very very funny if you guys will do the same thing to your kids in the future.

[imready]

Well from past experiences with friends, i'd say its a bad thing. When you forbid kids from doing something, they do it anyway just because they;re not allowed to.
Its like weed, people wanna do it because its illegal, if it were legalized a lot less people would be smoking because it wouldn't be as hyped up.
hope you get my analogy ><

[forgottenmemories]

I have overprotective parents. It drives me crazy! I'm almost 20 years old and I can't stay out late at night without them giving me crap about it. It drives me insane. There's nothing with being protective, but overprotective is insane.

[G.EunMi]

BAD BAD BAD. It really sucks, but I know when I have kids I am gonna be just the same so just gotta suck it up and deal with it.

[xrhapsody]

My parents were a smidgen overprotective but over the years, they've lessened it a bit.

When I was in elementary school,
all of my school mates had play dates and hung out at each other's houses and have little kid sleep overs.
My parents never let me sleep over (they still don't). I got to play at a friend's house 3 times a year + every other year's birthdays.

7th grade, my parents didn't let me hang out. Period.

8th-9th grade, I got to hang out every other Friday until 6:00pm but ONLY if I was "hanging out with my sister". My parents didn't let me go out with my own friends. They would always call and ask to speak to the both of us.

10th-11th grade, I got to hang out every Friday until 6:30pm with my own friends. They called and asked to speak to my friends in the 10th grade. 11th grade, I hung out more often.

Senior year/Post-graduating
I got to hang out every Friday/Saturday.
My curfew went from 6:30pm > 7:30pm > 8pm > 8:30pm > 9pm > 10pm > 12am > 1am > 6am (only for Prom)
Now I usually get home around midnight because I don't want to push things and I hang out like 3-5 times a week.

I think what helped was: getting a job ages 14-18, pushing limits, meeting some of my female friends, and then graduating High School haha.

The rules are still: NO BOYFRIEND, NO GUY FRIENDS, DON'T GO OVER PEOPLE'S HOUSES. but I don't follow any of them.

EDIT:
POSITIVE: Never drank/smoke.
NEGATIVE: It caused me to skip school a lot for freedom.

[rachii-ee]

I have overprotective parents~
I'm not allowed to have guy friends until i'm 19~ but I still have them anyway

I say it's a bad thing because it doesn't allow the kids to have any freedom~
They'll constantly be protecting you from things/places/situations that they think are dangerous.

Having overprotective parents = no life.

[kRaZiExLaDiE]

i think it`s a BAD THING!! i`m the only child & i`m a girl which makes it even worse. i`m 20 already and i STILL have a 12 o`clock curfew. that`s just ridiculous. i have friends younger than me who can stay past 12! every single time i open the door at night.. they totally freak out & forbid me to go out. they said, "in our eyes, you`ll always be a child" wtf.. i`m old enough!! they think terrible things are going to happen to me blah blah. & i can`t even sleep over at my cousins our best friends` houses cuz they think some perverted guy`ll come over and rape us =.=
at college.. i stay out waaayyy past 12 all the time. i actually usually sleep over at my boyfriend`s house. look at me.. i`m totally fine & alive!! i don`t get why once i come home.. i have all these rules i have to obey again. i`ve proven over & over that i`m responsible & can handle it... nothing`s going to happen to me. (i really hope this doesn`t jinx anything >.<) oh & i can`t have boyfriends, but i do anyway lol my dad wants me to date when i marry which totally doesn`t make any sense cuz how am i supposed to marry if i don`t date first. he just doesn`t want me to be any guy at all =.=" grr but what he doesn`t know won`t kill him haha

i understand that they`re parents & that parent`s are naturally worry-warts especially if they only have one child... but at one point.. they should learn to let go & trust that everything they had taught their child will make them a strong person. strong enough of a person to take care of themselves.

[absinthe_faerie]

I think its a bad thing. We're talking about over protective here not caring like simple things eg, not wanting you to drink/smoke, get into bad trouble (No parent wants that kind of thing). I feel its bad because it feels like they don't trust you.

My parents were very over protective of me when I was younger, I think with my parents, age is what they are looking for. I'm now 20, I can go out every now and again with my friends that they have never met before but they would usually call at 11pm to see where I am but thats quite normal since I don't call them but staying out too late like 3am is not good, they will not sleep until you are home, think of them as well.

When I was younger however, different story. I wasn't allowed to have boys as friends and certainly no boyfriend, no make up and no just hanging out with friends after school. Obvious things like no smoking or drinking was allowed. I don't drink though even now, they will allow me to now but I don't since I'm a little bit allergic to it >< Being a girl I think the thing that they fear the most is pregnancy and your safety.

There's those people who always tell you that talking to them will magically fix this but I don't believe it for a second with strict parents. Honestly, if your good at it and willing to take the risks and can, then tell a white lie. I used to tell my parents I went to the library after school for bit but I really just went out with my friends into town after school. No harm done, unless they catch you so you have to be careful. You just have to find ways round and eventually they will let you be who you want to be as long as you gain their trust first. Show them that you are good, help around the house, help them with things etc.. You've just got to remember that it won't be forever and you will be able to do what you want, whenever soon.

[emceej]

well, i have over protective parents and it sucks...my dad doesn't care as much as my mom, but my mom doesn't even let me hang out with my friends which sucks so badddd. it's like i have no life because of them :x they care too much and they are afraid to let go. they think something bad will happen to me. and i agree, this world is not safe but being protective and over protective is different. the good thing about it is, you know that they care about you a lot. the bad thing about having them is you're life has so many restrictions...some don't even have a life like me D:

[jungyoorii]

its good to some extent but wen they are too protective i think it wrong. if ur old enough they shuld trust u and let u make some choices on ur own