[Phantaci]

I assume most people are able to talk to their bf or gf about certain things that they don't tell other people, so what about after you break up with them? Can you still stay close with them? Say.. something happened, would he or she still be the person you call and cry to? Or are you one of those people who just stay out of his/her life after breaking up?

I recently broke up with my gf, to keep it simple she hurt me pretty bad but she still wants to stay close with me. She left me because of another guy and she would still msg and call me, she would tell me her problems and what they did and etc. I would reply as cold as possible with answers like yes, no and i dono. I dono what i shud do... i feel like i still want to be there when she needs me but what she's telling me is hurting me continuously. I'm... stuck, dono what to do.

One more thing, I'm gonna leave the country for a month or so in a week, i didn't tell her yet and i dono if i shud. I feel like just disappearing in her life but i dono if that's right.

[Aiyla.-]

although you broke up, the weakness is still there, for a little. So what if he likes another girl? I dont think I can talk with him about such things..it would be to awkward. So what is there left to say?

[smylies]

i think you can still stay friends with an ex.
it's just there needs to be time.
if you still want to be friends with her, tell her to give you some time to sort out your feelings and to possibly get over her.
and when you feel better and can accept her with a new boyfriend, then you two can still talk and be friends.


i'm still friends with my exes.
but it took a loong time for me to talk to my most recent ex, because he did the same thing your ex did to you.

[Phantaci]

i think you can still stay friends with an ex.
it's just there needs to be time.
if you still want to be friends with her, tell her to give you some time to sort out your feelings and to possibly get over her.
and when you feel better and can accept her with a new boyfriend, then you two can still talk and be friends.


i'm still friends with my exes.
but it took a loong time for me to talk to my most recent ex, because he did the same thing your ex did to you.

you think i shud just tell her that im gonna be leaving? and that i need some time? so i dont lose her as a friend when i come back?

[smylies]

if she still wants to be your friend, i think she would understand that you need space and would talk to her when you're more comfortable.
so yeah, tell her you're leaving for a bit i guess.

[Patorikku]

Some people find it difficult to stay friends after they break up, most probally because they had a fight, or just feel bad for doing it.

I broke up with my girlfriend, and had the same problem 2 years ago. After a while we started talking again and are friends. So yes you can stay friends =]

[Unanimous]

Personally, it`s a no for me. But I don`t see it being impossible. I guess it just depends on the person and the situation. Anywho, no for me.

[BAZINGA!]

For some people it is a no. But for those who are still friends with their exs, it's probably because they weren't friends for a while first right after they broke up. Sometimes you need that time of not talking to each other to be able to become friends again.

[youandmee]

its possible being friends , and for me i try ,
but i guess he just doesn't want to , so whatever , it doesn't matter .

[Pandaa.]

The only reason why you need space after a break up in order to be friends is because one person is always broken up with when they didn't want to be(the one who got dumped, the unfortunate one). If both people broke up cause they lost feelings for each other then I could see being friends right away working out, since there are no lingering feelings from either side.

[rokky123]

aparently not

Tryin so hard to stay friends cause we used to be best friends for years
and i dont want all that to go to waste..

BUT he cant he says.Cause itll cause too much pain.

[cowsie]

Saying, "lets be friends" is just another way to excuse the awkward-ness when you guys see each other. You guys might be friends for like several months or several days after your break up, but in the future, it'll only be a hi and bye friend. Friends like that aren't really friends but acquaintances. Therefore I believe that you can't stay as friends after a break up.

[MRLEE]

im friends with all my ex's. surprisingly.. they always come back and ask me how im doing and i dont like being a jerk so i just end up being their friend.

[JetGirl]

there's no obligation to tell your ex. If you want to go ahead, but you guys are finished anyways, so it would be like asking if she wants a second chance, which you don't seem too keen on.

For me, it depends on the person my ex was, I'm not gona make a big effort to be friends. I have other friends that fill my life.

[Phantaci]

aparently not

Tryin so hard to stay friends cause we used to be best friends for years
and i dont want all that to go to waste..

BUT he cant he says.Cause itll cause too much pain.

Same.. we were more than gf & bf.. we were best friends too and now i dono what to do..

[nikkipicky]

i can stay friends with my exes, and i am friends with most of them. but it takes a while because there are hurt feelings to deal with before you can start a friendship with someone that had hurt you before. so after some time, like a few months or a year or more, i'll be friends with an ex if they want to have a friendship =\ both sides have to be willing. and have no residual feelings since that'll just hurt.

[jenny_nguyen]

I tried to be friend with my ex, but he acted childishly. He hasn't been over me yet, but I was over him for months. Therefore, he tries to do things to get me jealous, like he will tell me if he dates anybody and my answer is "So? I couldn't care less." And he gets angry whenever I say that. Silly boy! I hate it when after break-up, some guys can't face the truth that the girl has already been over him.

[janelforsure]

I think you CAN still remain friends with an ex-boyfriend, but I just don't think
you can remain CLOSE friends with him. Like, my first boyfriend, I broke up with
him & yeah we were pretty close friends, but there were certain things I couldn't
talk about with him in fear of awkward conversations or disputes. But my most
recent ex, I tried to be friends with him but he makes absolutely NO effort. So
I quit trying. Even if you say you'll be friends, I think there's still feelings of wanting
to be MORE than just friends, & that makes it harder for you to be close to them.

[fionarhz]

i think it'll be pretty hard to stay friends with them, especially if you haven't moved on yet and they have

and the feelings will always be lingering there.. so i dunno

also depends on what they are like as well, everyone's different, some guys might treat you like a real friend, whereas others might act real awkward round you

[lido0LmisSundersto0D]

it's not impossible. just.. not likely.