[Patorikku]

I have a really big problem with holding a conversation with girls. When I talk to them I sometimes lose anything interesting to talk about and become silent.

When speaking to guys I don't have this problem. I'm confident around girls most the time, and have no trouble talking to them, its only keeping a conversation which I can't always do. My friend is able to do this easily and it annoys me that I can't

Any tips or tricks anybody know to overcome this problem? Thanks in advance.

[ROCKETTOTHEMOON]

Ask her Qs'
Make fun of her

[Mannosuke]

So why do you think it's possible for you to hold lengthy conversations with guys?

[Patorikku]

So why do you think it's possible for you to hold lengthy conversations with guys?

Well, dunno talking to the same sex is pretty easy because most of my friends are male and I can hold a conversation as we can talk about anything. I find it much harder to do around girls. Maybe I'm afraid of saying something stupid or just being uninteresting.

[BlazingSkies]

Well, dunno talking to the same sex is pretty easy because most of my friends are male and I can hold a conversation as we can talk about anything. I find it much harder to do around girls. Maybe I'm afraid of saying something stupid or just being uninteresting.

happenED to me dude
just talk about how you feel.... plenty of stuff to talk about there

[Mannosuke]

Well, dunno talking to the same sex is pretty easy because most of my friends are male and I can hold a conversation as we can talk about anything. I find it much harder to do around girls. Maybe I'm afraid of saying something stupid or just being uninteresting.

Ya, maybe you're just afraid.
Just slowly get into the habit of treating them like any of your other guys.

The girls I know constantly talk about games and anime and gackt with anyone.

[Patorikku]

Ask her Qs'
Make fun of her

Good advice, thanks.

happenED to me dude
just talk about how you feel.... plenty of stuff to talk about there

Sounds good, will give it a shot

[Edit:] @Mannosuke: Will definitly try that, haha lucky you, barely any girls around here have interests like that.

[BlazingSkies]

i used to have silent convos because i was scared of messing it up and stuff
but seriously if you just talk about whats on your mind its more natural and they will like you better because you talk more and eh, ITS NATURAL

[Mannosuke]

[Edit:] @Mannosuke: Will definitly try that, haha lucky you, barely any girls around here have interests like that.

Your friend seems to have no problem, just hang around him and maybe you'll pick it up.

[Patorikku]

i used to have silent convos because i was scared of messing it up and stuff
but seriously if you just talk about whats on your mind its more natural and they will like you better because you talk more and eh, ITS NATURAL

Sounds good, thanks Blazing, maybe my problem is I try to hard to think of something to say when I should be myself more.

Your friend seems to have no problem, just hang around him and maybe you'll pick it up.

I will =], see what happens.

[hannieoon]

Just don't think too hard when you have a conversation with her. Go with the flow. Someone will bring up a random topic. That's how my bf and I talk. Talk about random things and manage to entertain each other. Haha.

Oh and another thing, it shouldn't be a one way thing. If the girl isn't interested, she will most likely give you answers that are very minimal. She's most likely trying to get YOU to lose interest in her.

Last tip. Ask open ended questions. Not questions that can be answered with a "yes" or "no". Hahaha

[Patorikku]

Just don't think too hard when you have a conversation with her. Go with the flow. Someone will bring up a random topic. That's how my bf and I talk. Talk about random things and manage to entertain each other. Haha.

Oh and another thing, it shouldn't be a one way thing. If the girl isn't interested, she will most likely give you answers that are very minimal. She's most likely trying to get YOU to lose interest in her.

Last tip. Ask open ended questions. Not questions that can be answered with a "yes" or "no". Hahaha

Good advise, thanks =]

[JASON;]

Last tip. Ask open ended questions. Not questions that can be answered with a "yes" or "no". Hahaha

^That's a good one

[qsushi]

i know this sounds cliche, but just be yourself and be comfortable. if the girl likes you, shell come up with stuff to talk about. or, just say whatever pops into your head like "hmm im so hungry" or whatever. it doesnt have to be carefully planned out lol girls respond to randomness, and if they like you theyll think its cute.

[Patorikku]

i know this sounds cliche, but just be yourself and be comfortable. if the girl likes you, shell come up with stuff to talk about. or, just say whatever pops into your head like "hmm im so hungry" or whatever. it doesnt have to be carefully planned out lol girls respond to randomness, and if they like you theyll think its cute.

Thanks , yeah I understand, I will definitly try it =]

[sugarlessgirl]

to be honest, girls can pick up on it if youre trying to stretch on the conversation, or that you're nervous (or uncomfortable or whatever), and at least for me that's a big turn off. so just be yourself, don't go thinking "oh gosh what do i say next?" and just say whatever is appropriate to the conversation. if there's silence, let there be a silence. or maybe start out with talking in with a group of friends, the conversation can go so many ways

[leedre]

Never ever look beneath her chins.

[MRLEE]

man i can talk forever. probably why i had girls talk to me all the time. except recently i just dont like talking anymore.
but back then, when i do talk, i usually just talk about everything. and especially ask them questions.
they love it when you ask them to talk about themselves.
just act smooth. dont get too nervous

[Octopus__]

I say you just say whatever's on your mind.
I do that to guys and then they start opening
up to me. Well, not anything that's on my mind.
It's rather, I talk about something that sounds
appealing or general. Food's general, so be like,
"Oh, the other day I had orange chicken at Mimi's.
It was really good. Want to go there with me sometime?"
Actually that's creepy if you just randomly say that
to a girl. Just go with the flow. If the girl you're
talking to you is nice, she won't judge quickly. ;D

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Maybe I'm afraid of saying something stupid or just being uninteresting.

That is the problem.
It means you're not as confident with girls compared to with guys.

Just be yourself and talk and joke the same thing.
When people try to think what to say to make yourself look good, nothing usually came out, and the so called "awkward moments" is born.
Because you're thinking what to say, and she's not saying anything.
Then we get nothing.

So just be yourself and just assume the girl is just another guy.