[this_lovex3]

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[MarineGreen]

I find it highly unlikely.

[~ BunnyliciouS ~]

o gee.. very descriptive

yeah very unlikely.

[nelly]

I think you're not a virgin anymore if you're spotting after what happened. He probably broke your hymen or something. Go get a pregnancy test if you're still unsure.

[adiavoy]

Hmm... probably not, I heard sperm can't survive in just air... I'm no expert though.

[mintywinter]

Try asking at the boards at Scarleteen (sex-ed site); they get questions like this all the time.

Or check this page for a pregnancy risk assessment.

Edit:
Spotting, etc.: It definitely is not implantation bleeding, because that can only happen a few days after conception. It's possible he broke your hymen. But whether your hymen is broken or not has nothing to do with pregnancy risks. You can still get pregnant with a hymen, or if you're a virgin (whatever that means to you), as long as his live sperm comes in contact with your vagina.'

To sum up from the pages I linked you:
You have a small risk of pregnancy. Depending on where you live, maybe you can get emergency contraception if it has been less than 120 hours since the risk.

Other important points: If you feel nauseous, get headaches, etc., the things you've heard that people feel when they get pregnant, don't freak out, because they're probably just the results of stress. The symptoms of pregnancy don't appear until at least one month in.

[blushyy]

In my opinion, it seems very unlikely that you are pregnant. But hey, I'm no doctor so... I think you should talk to a doctor about this, because you seem very worried and I know what it's like being stressed out about this issue. If you don't want to wait for your period, yeah... get some professional advice instead. It'd help you lessen the worry. Hope everything goes well.

[lime_shadow]

IMO, there's a chance, but it's so low and unlikely. You won't know for sure with a home pregnancy test until your missed period anyway. I would say wait for your period. Since you're stressed, it might be a bit late too...

Hope things work out.

[suzushii]

Yes, of course you can get pregnant if you get sperm in your vagina. It doesn't matter HOW it got there. Some women got pregnant just from the guy's lube, which also has a small number of spermatozoids in it. Whether you're a virgin or not, have had intercourse or not - doesn't matter.

Now a couple of questions:

- was it sperm or his lube? Was is a clear liquid, or whitish? I don't know, I find it unlikely that a guy would deliberately use sperm

- what day of your cycle was it (a period is counted from the first day of your actual period to the first day of the next one)?

If it was in the interval 10-20, then high chances of getting pregnant. If it was days 1-10, or 20-30 it's less likely. This is because you technically can only get pregnant for 24 hours every month. That's extended to a week because sperm can live for 3 days inside a woman, and while typical women ovulate on day 15, that can be early or later. HOWEVER, not every woman obeys this rule, some women ovulate all over the place, even during your period or right before it, some ovulate more then once a month. ESPECIALLY young people. So if you're thinking of using this rule as a contraceptive method - think again.

- what day of your cycle are you now? A pregnancy test is ONLY VALID if you're 7 days late for your period. And AT LEAST 2 weeks from the "event". So a test now is useless. Also, don't get paranoid about other symptoms like nausea, bloatedness or tiredness - these appear a month into a pregnancy, so whatever happens now, you're just induced it yourself since you're freaking out.

[eternaldarkness4]

i doubt you can get pregnant from that
but why the hell did your boyfriend put it on his finger?

<.<

[dorkafied!]

he probably went to hard to break yo' cherry
i ain't a expert though I'm just assuming :/

get a pregnancy test if your still worried about being
pregnant or not

[arwenstar]

Unlikely, but the best thing to do would be to keep track of your period and see if it's on time, even if you have a tendency to be late. Keep a pregnancy test on hand.

Another thing I want to add: THIS IS WHY GUYS SHOULDN'T "POP" THEIR 'HEADS' IN AND EXPECT EVERYTHING TO BE OKAY AND WHY GUYS SHOULD NOT USE THE PULL-OUT METHOD.

Oh, and, another thing to worry about besides pregnancy is the risk of STDs. Test, test, test. You guys are young, don't do anything you might regret.

[HumanError]

I read one of David Pelzer's books that was about his private life as an adult. He let one of his female friend crash into his house and i guess she wanted to share bed with him? but not as a couple. The did NOT do it, both had cloths on when they woke up, and yet she got pregnant

and is this your guyz way of showing love? == do something that is SAFE

[u+k]

Hmm... probably not, I heard sperm can't survive in just air... I'm no expert though.

There's a "morning after pill" that you can take if you're really worried. It's usually for raped victims to insure they don't get pregnant after. Just drop by a teen clinic or ask your doctor for perscriptions.

[HERinsinuation]

Spotting could occur from him tearing/damaging your hymen. Also if he didn't orgasm, it was probably just precum (which does not contain sperm) on his finger, and therefore unlikely that you will conceive. The only exception is if he had some sort of release in the 72 hours prior, in which case there is a chance that his precum picked up leftover sperm from his previous ejaculation. Either way, you should take a pregnancy test in about 2-3 weeks/if your period is late as a precaution - Don't worry too much until then.

[kinein]

Alright... so my boyfriend and I didnt have sex.. but im kindda scared cause i think im pregant...


about a week ago my boyfriend and i got to second base (touching - fingering) we've done this before but i guess this time it was different, he went in a little farther than usual. well when we were getting into it, he rubbed a little sperm on his finger and put his finger back into my vagina.. i know it may sound crazy but can you get pregnant from this or am i over reacting and thinking too much? also, im still a virgin and never ever had an actual intercourse so maybe i am a little bleh for thinking this. but then when i went to bathroom i was spotting a little because i saw tiny blots of blood on my underwear...

so what do you guys think? do you think i can get pregnant from this? should i wait till i get my period and take the pregnancy test? i need your help please!!

thank you (:

I need you to understand that is not normal behavior for guys to do that to girls. You have one odd boyfriend please reconsider your relationship. This is what we term "escalation". It appears you are pretty young and have to realize you need to take responsibility for your part in this. You can't one day find out your pregnant by accident!

Things to think about:
Can you afford to raise a kid? Will your parents still let you live with them? Can your boyfriend pay for your kids medical bills and help pay for schooling? Do you want to eliminate the rest of your life as a non-parent and start parenthood soon?

If you answer no to any of the above - practice safe intimate behavior ~ which means not playing with sperm like that! More then likely you are fine and you have already received excellent responses. I just find it odd the whole sperm finger thing.

www.plannedparenthood.org

Consider birth control in the near future if escalation continues as it does not appear your bf believes in safe habits.

[shining_star[:]

very unlikely, i agree with what others are saying.

[NEYUGN93]

I think you're not a virgin anymore if you're spotting after what happened. He probably broke your hymen or something. Go get a pregnancy test if you're still unsure.

Um, what ?
You lose your virginity when the male's penis is inserted into a female's vagina. Her boyfriend used his finger.

i doubt you can get pregnant from that
but why the hell did your boyfriend put it on his finger?

<.<

Well, he could just be using his sperm as lube ? But yes, its a very stupid thing to do.


Anyways, I suggest getting a pregnancy test, just in case.

[Malice_Kaiser]

Er, well for me personally, I can't believe how chill some people are about this.

How can it NOT be likely, if he put sperm on his finger and stuck it up there? Others like suzushii already said most of what I agree with, so I'll spare repeating it.

And like kinein said, that is NOT normal behavior for a guy to do that to a girl. It's stupid and reckless and selfish on his part because if HE messes up and you get pregnant, he's not the one who has to suffer most of the consequences. Honestly I've never even heard of a guy doing that to a girl and as I read the OP all that was going through my head was "What? Why?"

[lovenotee]

Um, what ?
You lose your virginity when the male's penis is inserted into a female's vagina. Her boyfriend used his finger.

some people have different definitions of losing their virginity. i know some people that think a girl that lets a guy do everything to her (except putting it in), and breaks her hymen with his fingers and they don't think she's a virgin. and i know another group of people that has your type of definition. but it just depends on the person.


and no, i don't think your pregnant. but yeah i'm not a doctor either, so idk.