[sushi_azn]

(sorry i wrote the title soo wrong...i wasnt payin attention)

im close with my best friend who is a guy. i call him my bro and he calls me sis..and we're close friends.....
we have lots of mutual friends...so all of us go party here and there...

but last night idk what happened........
we started kissing and almost had *** .....but then he was like
"I dont wanna wanna ruin this friendship" and i said "me too"
i asked him if he can still act like nothing happened if we have ***
and he said *yea, but im worried about you* and i said "i can still be the same" and we started it

then after less than a minute, he's like no its wrong, i dont wanna ruin it and we just slept together.


idk....i feel so awkward.....i dont know how im gonna face him now. in the morning while everyone + he was sleeping, i just left to go to work.
we didnt text/talk ...i just feel so weird.

i think i like him little more than a friend....it just got to me. i cant talk to anyone about it...bcz i know it was a wrong thing....

i'd rather stay his friend for a life time than be a couple with him for a while and lose him....so i will convince myself not to like him ....
any same stories? and ur thoughts....

[dymsumboi]

Just go out with him. Live a little.
If you two are close enough to call each other "bro" and "sis"
you shouldn't have to worry about "losing" him. It's fear of
constantly "losing" someone that screws up relationships. Give
each other space, listen, care for each other, all that other good stuff.
If you don't, you'll definitely regret it in the future. I know I do.

[mimura]

I went through a similar situation with my friend. After though, our friendship wasn't the same at all, so we tried to turn in into something more by dating. In the end, it didn't work out and now neither of us really talk. In fact, it made me realize his faults too much. I'm sure it was the same for him. Point being I can't stand him anymore, and when I could, I could hardly look him in the eye. I don't want to say it would be the same for you, but it certainly didn't work for me...

[sushi_azn]

yea i guess its just wrong between friends

[brownman90561495]

wait, do you guys have your own lovelives going on? if not, then why not go out with him on a date?

[MAKEMESMILE.]

i'm still baffled by the fact that you call eachother 'sis' & 'bro' , yet you went so far with eachother ?

my bestfriend in the whole world is a boy & we call eachother 'sis' & 'bro' too , everyone tries to get us together because they 'think we are perfect for eachother' but we both just look at eachother & laugh because hell ... if you refer to eachother as a sibling , then nothing intimate should go on between the two of you ! but i'm not trying to sound rude at all , i'm just saying .. maybe if you feel as close as family , that 'almost sleeping with family' shouldn't be the way to go.

i mean , if you feel as if you can be intimate with him , then i'd suggest to not refer to eachother as family , maybe that will help seize the awkwardness ? 'cause seriously ... calling someone 'bro' & 'sis' one second & then the next second you're suddenly both kissing couldn't have helped with the situation (:

just my opinion though , i didn't mean this to offend anyone .

[MNLV27]

So you two ended up doing it? Or he stopped before anything happened?

You both knew what you guys were doing so I don't see why you should have to feel weird or awkward now. Just talk to him about it if it bothers you.

The furthest thing that my best friend[boy] and I did was hold each others hand. We were never too physical with each other besides the times when he'd jump out of no where onto my back making us both fall down. We both grew more feelings for each other so now we've been dating for a year now...

[MsChen]

I got really close with my best guy friend. We even went out for a while. Then, because of some issues... we broke up. We remained distant for a while, but now we're best friends again!

So... give it a go. If you were friends once, I am sure you can be friends again.

[clouds4ME]

I think you should date him.
I mean if he likes you and you like him then you should go for it.
but if it ends badly, and you and him still want to be friends its possible.
It might be difficult, but definitely possible.

[mintcracker]

um guess doing it with him was very much 'in the minute'?
Hm I'm sure it'll go back to normal, just can be alittle iffy for awhile. I don't know why you slept with him though, now you guys will have sex again and your frdship won't be just a frdship anymore. It'll be sth bordering on fck buddies.

[blue_wishesx3]

the closest that i've been with my best friend was hold his hand (our fingers entwined)
at the time i didnt know he liked me xP i just htought it was us being flirty, becuase that's just how
we were. now we're still really close, but not touchy / flirty because we're both in relationships.

[lalala[:]

I had this best friend who was a few years older than me. He graduated this year and is going away for college 8 hours away. He would always jokingly flirt with me. I never thought he was serious because he had a girlfriend. One day I asked him if he was being serious and he said yes. I was in shock but I realized I had developed feelings for him as well. After we hooked up the first time, we both said this is wrong we can't do this anymore. But we ended hooking up a couple more times. We aren't as close as we used to be, but we still put in the effort to be friends. It's just a little hard because when we look at each other, we both get that feeling that we used to have.

I think you and him should get together if neither of you are already in a relationship. If it doesn't work out, you two can still always be friends. It will be awkward right after that, but if you both put in the effort to stay good friends, it's possible. (: