^
^ i think u got me convinced
but I already tried thinking like that before but I get all upset over again >.< + I hope/dont think i have a bro complex because I didnt dislike his other gf (although u were just kidding
)
Well, the reason
why i dont like her is maybe because I dont trust her. She appears to be the always happy kind of person but there were some moments, when i thought "that was kind of
weird 
"
- like once i invited her for a bike ride (i asked/tried to encourage her at least 3 times) when she didnt have anything to do and since it was such a nice weather and my bro was busy but she just said No, so i left and went on my own. but when i came back, they were gone for a bike ride..and i just felt like o.o or when she cooked she only cooked for the two of them...didnt even leave anything for my mum to try a tiny bit.. (or when i came back from work and heard+asked about how it was, she said she didnt know cuz nothing was left)
- or when we were playing cards and my cousin who (who was staying at our place) had to take a shower she all of a sudden said in a very deep and serious voice "go and shower quickly" (or something like that which sounded like a command) and everybody just went silent because she didnt start laughing either (as if it had been a joke or something although she never joked with me/my cousins) she just sat there...
What I find annoying is that she seems to make use all of our money too...(like somebody else mentioned before)...when she came here she didnt even bring a hairband...she just used most of our stuff and let my bro pay for most of the things...and she also looked at all the catalogues saying to my bro "aww thats so cute" and "aww do u think that would look good?" because he'd definitely buy her anything she wanted...or she would make my bro buy her anything that she felt like eating even if my mum had already cooked for us...and also she always says that she's so ugly so as to make ppl say "noo you're not, i think you're pretty" or at least thats how it seems to me... even the first thing that my bro asked me (while she was standing right next to him) when i met her was "dont u think she's pretty? she always says she's not." because she was just next to him i couldnt actually say no of course...(although she really isnt)
what gets me upset: now he wants to take a 10h flight every year just to visit her...and i never hear anything about her visiting us...(not that i'd want her to but that would just be fair)...my bro says that she cant afford it (although she already has a job and he's only a student) but then I heard her saying something about buying a new computer...i mean, why doesnt she save up money too? and when i see how hard working my parents are just to pay for our education and my bro spends loads of money just for visiting her i feel quite angry about that....and he wants to visit her during the holidays = christmas (which is the only holiday he'd come home)...although my mum finds it very important to spend xmas as a family..
i find their relationship pointless (because its a long distance one and most long distance relationships are pointless i think...)...although its his first 'real' gf i think (although they only saw each other for 3 months after he had to leave the country again) ..but he has to study 4 more years and wont be seeing his family (us) except for in the holidays but he wants to fly miles just to visit her instead...i find it unfair to make my parents pay the high tuition fees and then not even visiting them in the holidays....
Is it unfair/mean/not justified of me if I want him to finish his studies first = not seeing her until his degree is finished? After that he can find a job near her place, move out/live there and see her 24/7....
Posted 05 July 2009 - 08:49 PM
. She gets on my nerves a lot.
