[my_monkey]

Anyone who has a cell phone do you text almost all the time?

At first I didn't really like texting but gotten used to it so now i text most of the time. Seems pretty fun. so.....

I started dating and my GF and I text all the time. Because she is at work and can't talk on the phone so she text me whenever she can.
We text each other a lot too even when both of us are not at work. We have conversations over text messages. I don't mind it at all. We talk (voice) over the phone too but not as much.
But now I'm starting to loose that communication connection between us because we text a lot.
Now I prefer her to call me instead or I call her cuz I don't know when she's free, her work schedule is different every week.
I don't know about her but I'm feeling like I'm loosing that bond where you create through talking with your voice and not texting.
It seems like my GF can't feel what I'm conveying over through text. Like I would joke through text and seems like she don't understand that I'm joking around.
I'm afraid that if this continues we might drift apart. We only see each other like once or twice a week most. 3 or 4 hours/meeting only.

I'm going to tell her we should talk in person rather than texting so the bond would be stronger.

So do any of you feel like this if you are in a relationship or starting one?

can you really build a relationship mainly on texting? (of course including the physical meeting too)

[hobobear]

maybe you can talk on the phone with each other at night before bed?

[KanyeWEST]

not possible and stupid. i dont think its the texting thats gonna drive her away, i think its gonna be you.

[xshoeee]

it doesn't work.
you need the physical-ness of things too.
call her before bed or something.
just keep the talking going.
if it all relies on texting, it won't last.

[muffinx3]

I wouldn't depend on a relationship like that.
It's not real. I mean, I guess since you guys see each other for a little bit and that makes it better, but its generally the same as online dating right?
You can't really tell a person's emotions through text.
I agree with xshoeee. It probably won't last. A relationship needs the physical and emotional side and that's why it's hard to have a long distance relationship (which is almost like what you have, communication wise).

Definitly try calling more.

[xAzumi]

Boy!


WAKE UP!

How do you know if she not a boy in disguise that playing around with helpless boy's heart!
I don't think she is wholeheartly in love with you, because girls will do anything to communicate with their lover. Everyone have time to talk on the phone, to eat, to sleep, and to take a shower. You get the memo?

This relationship will not workout, so do not waste time pursueing this girls, who probably live miles away! Go to the club, bar, beach, or join a club to meet a girl, that you can SEE, COMMUNICATE, and HAVE TIME to go out with!


You need everything in a relationship, and communication is important. Texting canot ever REPLACE personal phone calls!

[brownman90561495]

texting is good, but this shouldn't be your "mainstream" media of communication. i think texting was invented as an alternative media, like you are not able to call a certain person in a certain point in time and you couldn't do anything but leave a message, or something like that.

keep it balanced dude! don't text her all the time. call her up, meet her up. just balance at least for every way of communication possible.

[secretzel]

building a relationship through txt is fine but be sure to see each other whenever you can hehe.
my boyfriend and i started through txt too but then we see each other anytime we can
so no prob.

[NEYUGN93]

This is why most long distance relationships don't work ... your relationships are based predominantly txt msgs.
Find ways to see each other as much as you can or call her often

[MNLV27]

You're relationship is based on texting? I personally don't think it's going to work if majority of the communication is based on just texting. It loses the whole meaning of communicating with each other verbally. Texting doesn't show the kind of emotion that you would want your s/o to notice. I don't think you two need to always have to text each other through out the day. So why don't you guys just talk to each other on the phone at night before you fall asleep?

[~OjosQueNoVen1~]

Yea, def tell her because you really cant have a strong relationship over text. I mean, maybe starting out or something silly and random, but people need to be around eachother to feel something, or not at all so that they miss eachother. What youre doing is like a midway thing,...mmmm yea

[HaplessChild]

I have a rule. Anything more than 3 texts and it warrants a phone call.

[megan92]

yeah i hate conversing over texts cause its too hard to include everything and sometimes it's just annoying. i pretty much text my best friend only and i don't text her that much ahah. i much prefer talking in person.

[rawr! :3]

well from my experience, i started building up a relationship through texting.. that's only because my boyfriend and i didnt know eachother that well... he asked for my number before we started dating && texting is the only way for us to communicate (other than instant messaging) and got to know eachother that way, but once we got to know eachother a little more, we started hanging out. and now i see him almost everyday.

but in your problem, it's a little different because you stated that, you only get to see her for a short period of time twice or three times a week, that would DEF cause some drifting. i think the best thing to do is try to meet up with her more than usual, if not then you can try webcamming.. that's always funn && if not that then call her. honestly, if you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend you would know eachother's schedule wether she's busy or not.. so that way, you would know the right time to call her. people shouldnt rely on technology that much so i guess the BEST advice i got for you is just try seeing her often! gah, sorry if this post is long. hopefully i helped though "/

[lovelyvivi]

well my bf before, lik we wud just start building a relationship thru txt, cuz tats wat we both loved doing and we didnt really know each other very well XD but after a while, once we got to know each other more thru txt, we started talking on da phone before we each wud fall asleep so tat got us closer too i guess? but def seeing each other and talking is a lot more easier to build a relationship but i wudnt say thru txt is bad, just maybe find sum time to talk wit her?

but haha i we also ended our relationship thru txt so eh, sucks for both of us. we dont talk nemore or nething so... -.-;;; yea...

[BoAFriend]

Well for BUILDING a relationship or for the gradual beginning stages of a relationship, text messages seem to work fine. I know a good number of couples who developed feelings for one another through those late night, under-the-blankets text messaging and cute emoticons (ex. Hehe you're funny ^^). It seems to work.

As for the more middle/serious stages of a relationship, I see nothing wrong in texting one another, esp when one or both of the people are busy w/ work, school, whatever. But yeah if ALL you guys do is text, then hmm...time for a phone call.

[myxo]

When asked what they miss most about the start of every relationship, most people's responses are the long phone conversations. Talking on the phone leaves more of an impression.. or at least more senses of her for you to miss (ie her voice, her laugh, her attitude, etc). Those things you can't really pick up via texting. I text a lot too, but when it comes down to the end of the day, I would prefer that my s/o and I have at least a few minutes of talk time on the phone, unless something comes up.
I suggest you bring that up to her.

[ponta]

It doesn't work lol.
I'm kinda in the same situation and I can see us falling apart. I think eventually you guys are going to have to sacrifice something for it to work out. If youre both at work all the time, how are you going to spend time together right?

[alduhkneel]

My boyfriend and I are like that because he lives over 6 hours away. He works during the day and I take summer classes at night. Having conversations through text isn't bad, but I wouldn't depend on it as the main communication in your relationship. My boyfriend and I have late night conversations, either on the phone or through oovoo (usually both, haha).

[daulism]

one word: KOIZORA

of course any way of communication builds relationships .. the only problem is its easier to lie through texting cuz you can't hear voice tone and stuff =_= however , sending pictures & cute messages are fun too