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Are you really in love? Or do you think that you are in love?

There is a big difference between Love and infatuation. Some people can't tell the difference, thinking they are in love but really it is a deep infatuation. Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.
There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away.

Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying.
But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up.
It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

INFATUATION

Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love.

Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction. often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.

Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless.Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the feeling than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.
This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if
you are truly in love.

LOVE

Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love. Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment of expectations.

When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.

Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace.
It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
Love is Kind Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others..
It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.

You can do the following:

1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.

2. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.

3. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important.

4. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others.

5. Love is Not Jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget
about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

6. Love is not about bragging. Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.

7. Love is Not Arrogant. Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky, or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you." Of course, this is not love.

8. Love always covers. This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential.

9. Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't criticise and broadcast to the world the faults of others.
Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.

10. Love always Perseveres. Love always stands its ground and hold out. It will outlast anything. It will even love in the face of unrequited love. Real love will last though all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

11. Love is Not Provoked. This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.

12. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centred rather than self- centred. Love says, "I love you, I want to give to you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

13. Love does not act unbecomingly. This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonourably or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl, or offering her your arm when you walk together.

14. Lastly, Love is forgiving. This is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

** Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins. **

ps. I didn't write this, I found this article somewhere and thought it was interesting.
yeah its a bit long xD

[HaplessChild]

Yeah... ummm... Am I the only one that finds it ridiculous that people try to define subjective emotions on their own terms and tell other people what they are and aren't feeling?

[Meenuh]

Yeah... ummm... Am I the only one that finds it ridiculous that people try to define subjective emotions on their own terms and tell other people what they are and aren't feeling?

I completely agree. I was about to post pretty much the same thing. They'll learn to build these "definitions" on their own through experience. I know I have.

[chocopocky]

And all I know is LUST.

Let me turn on some Marvin Gaye and turn down some lights, I'll show you some lovin..

[Mannosuke]

If you like someone, you like someone. I don't care if you like someone on a scale of 1 to 10 somewhere close to the cube root of pi or the 327819th digit of phi.

I read stories of people trying to explain that they really love someone. Why? Simply because everyone else is being cynical and telling them "it's not love! It's only lust!" when that wasn't even the question at hand. Talk about irrelevant, no one posts advice questions just to hear "you're not in love! LOLOLOL." Who cares if it's not love? It never helped anyone make the move anyways, which is all that matters in the end.

No one really cares if you can define precisely what you're feeling.
In conclusion: good for you, are you ever going to make the move even after knowing all this?

..

That is exactly what I would post in the comment section to the blogger that wrote this.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

lol, so basically when two people have been married for 30 years, 2 kids, great experiences...then suddenly separate and all due to "bad stuff" it wasn't love? Great, 30 years down the drain and 2 lives screwed over. What an excuse. Neither infatuation nor love exist: they're just false ideals that you use to convince yourself that your actions are correct, and essentially an excuse to not the make move.

[realization]

LOL like chris rock says

"if you haven't contemplated murder, you ain't been in love
if you haven't seriously thought about killing a mufcka, you aint been in love
if you havent had a can of rat poison in your hand and looked at it for fourty five minutes straight, you ain't been in love
if you haven't bought a shovel and a bag and a rug to roll their as.s up in, you aint been in love
if you havent practiced your alibi in front of the mirror, you aint been in love
and the only thing that's stopping you from killing this mufckaa was an episode of csi"

but really
i think sometimes, love is when you can find a way to see every single flaw, and still deal with it
or even when you can't figure out the reason you think of them all the time

but infatuation is
you can't seem to find a flaw and when you do you get disappointed
and you always have reasons as to why he or she is so perfect for you or sum shiat like that

[Mannosuke]

but really
i think sometimes, love is when you can find a way to see every single flaw, and still deal with it
or even when you can't figure out the reason you think of them all the time

but infatuation is
you can't seem to find a flaw and when you do you get disappointed
and you always have reasons as to why he or she is so perfect for you or sum shiat like that

Makes sense, but that never happens.
I can't imagine anyone getting cheated on and still put up with it just cause you're in love.

[xJoyful]

|AHHHHHH ! i wish i saw this for my essay on "Romeo and Juliet: love or infatuation"
..don't i have great timing.

[brown.eyes]

Love can last a long time but infatuition is not.

Oh! I'm not sure. Haha! It's only my opinion.

[Regina Rae]

"if you haven't contemplated murder, you ain't been in love
if you haven't seriously thought about killing a mufcka, you aint been in love
if you havent had a can of rat poison in your hand and looked at it for fourty five minutes straight, you ain't been in love
if you haven't bought a shovel and a bag and a rug to roll their as.s up in, you aint been in love
if you havent practiced your alibi in front of the mirror, you aint been in love
and the only thing that's stopping you from killing this mufckaa was an episode of csi"

Yah. That's the kind of love I want. A crazy psycho love.
:D Jk. But really though. It's crazy how "in love" people can get.

[clouds4ME]

|AHHHHHH ! i wish i saw this for my essay on "Romeo and Juliet: love or infatuation"
..don't i have great timing.

LOL. that made me laugh.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction. often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.

Wrong. I don't know Kim Tae Yeon personally but I still wanna marry her anyway.
So no I don't think I'm infautuated or whatever that is. Because I wanna marry her.
I love her to death zzzzzzz.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

And all I know is LUST.

Let me turn on some Marvin Gaye and turn down some lights, I'll show you some lovin..

Damn that is hot.

[Yolk]

^
^ LOL
You remind me of my friend

[mintcracker]

Love is when you stay even when the going gets tough, and you wanna pull your hair out hahaha.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

You know you are in love when you are barfing rainbows. Share that rainbow love!

[可愛い]

you know its really hard to define it. because for me, infatuation precedes love. love is the end result of infatuation , or desire thats been fullfilled. like when a guy you really want is your bf and then you are just blissfull.

[KOGEPANN;)]

this sucks, only thing i've ever seen so far is infatuations. bah wellls.

[shikilove]

Love is when you can read each others minds, and finish each other's sentences..

[Shuga]

People who deny the difference between love and infatuation don't mind giving someone a shallow sort of love - but how about receiving it?