[karina9476]

Me and my boyfriend recently got back together after a small breakup..we've been together about 4 and half years..high school sweethearts..its our last year in college. couple months ago i really thought that it was the end of us..but he came back n talked to me that..he realized what he really wanted all along was in front of him n it was me..that im the only one that makes him happy..he did not cheat or me or anything..but we broke up because he was really overwhelmed with all the fights we were having..and he jus blew up one day..n he sed he regret not thinking things through and hes ready to work things out..but just couple days ago, it happened again, we got into a fight because i keep making really small useless things into something big..thats always been my problem, i felt that because i wasnt complete seeing this relationship working out again cuz of what happened i started to jus stir up unnecessary problems to i guess test him? i dont really know if thats really it..but..we talked one night n i sed "i dont dink you're opening up to me and its pulling us back" hes always been the type where he like to keep things inside and let it fade..but bc i sed that he got confuse he thought that what happens if he cant change that..he seem pretty confuse and overwhelm so he told me we'll talk another day bc he dont wanna say anything he regrets. we havnt talked for 3 days, he talked to one of my friends yesterday and he told me that ..hes confuse on if he can commit to a relationship or if thats what he really wants..when i first heard that i was mad..then wth was all that stuff he sed before? i wanna b with u i wanna work things out i really want u...until..my friend did have a assumption that..hes scared..he was a player boy im his 6th gf we're 21 now..i was his best friend since 6th grade so, i know how he is..he went out with a lot of grls just for the hell of it..thats why i was hesitant wen he asked me out b4..but wen i look bak now..hes a whole different guy..he's reall cautious of the things he do..he was a big flirt..n the other day..one of my friends gf was bout to give him a friendly hug..he sed "i dont give hugs sorry" cuz he thought i might get the wrong idea..but the thing is..hes never loved anyone..and i guess i am his first true love..i feel that hes scared to get his heart broken if it doesnt work out..but thats only my assumption..i dont wanna talk to him or ask him to talk to me bc ive done that n he keeps telling me hes not ready to talk to me..he told my friend that..he didnt wanna talk to me n jus say everythings ok..but at the same time..i feel that he's thinking bout ending it..i realy dont know what to do..i wanna b positive ..i dont doubt that he loves me with all his heart but..to me that doesnt mean things will work out..i want it to..i wanna change my way of attitude, but somehow i feel that i wont evn get that chance right now..

[OMGitzYOU]

I think you need to change your little thing turning into a big thing, thing.

He doesn't want to talk to you b/c it would only cause more problems, knowing that way you react to things.

IMO, just wait it out or talk to him about it. Maybe you guys need a break?

[choot]

from the sounds of it.......he really wants a simple relationship.....like "I LIKE YOU, YOU LIKE ME" kind of thing.

i knowwww its bad for me to say this but.........u shouldnt test ur man out! lol. he'll just think that you dont trust him and that you're robbing him out of his freedom (happened to me =[ ) he probably said the whole "i realized the person for me is right in front of me" meaning he DOES like you.....but he DOESNT like the whole drama?

one day.......he has to talk to u. so its about time you or him make the approach. just tell him ur true feelings. if he cant accept it........thats just his loss.

[ginachan]

I'm going through a similar situation right now. I think you need to really trust him and don't bring up past problems just to test him, because that's probably why you guys broke up in the first place right? He's just tired of fighting and wants to think things through and really figure out what he wants and get his priorities straight. Guys hates confrontation and he needed that break to really find out what it is he really wants. The best thing right now is to talk to him and tell him how you really feel...but if he's still not ready then give him his space for the time being.