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[Dolce_love]

Dont sink down to her level, just shows that your as bad as her >__< Shes being totally unfair and if what you say is true, then shes just doing it to cover her own insecurities....(not al all uncommom)

talk to her, or talk to your other roommates. Maybe they feel the same way but don't want to talk about it incase they're the only one who feels it.

gl ^^

[Mannosuke]

She doesn't sound insecure to me.

because of her insecurity, she feels like she has the upper hand when she is in control of what each of us think about the other.

Doesn't sound like insecurity, more like arrogant.

You need to find better roommates.

[happy_tomato]

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[g-yo]

You need to get a new roommate cause you can't have these stupid little things distracting you from your main course of your life :/ Your room/home is where you're supposed to relax, not get stressed. I suggest you actually TALK to your roommate, which is something that roomies make the mistake of not doing. Talk to her yourself without the others because she might feel she's getting attacked. If she keeps it up, you need to talk to her again with the rest of your apartment mates (you should also talk to the rest of them about how they feel about her).

Worst comes to worst, you're the only one who's going to be moving out after that year, but the best would be her changing her attitude, OR she goes out herself if all of you have a problem with her.

[Mannosuke]

lol, from her?
Wow you're in quite a situation.

Talking to her won't help, so I won't bother saying it (though, I just did).
Sinking to her level won't help, cause she holds the keys.

You're stuck for another year!
Essentially, it's a matter of priority: the place, the money, or her.

[happy_tomato]

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[AnthonyKkoKko]

is there any way... i can "win" against her? I feel like a big part of this is her competition to be the roommate that's most clean, roommate that cleans most often, roommate that everyone feels closer to ,etc. I honestly don't care about that crap. I don't care if so and so wants everyone to think that she's the best/most, etc.

i just want to live peacefullyjust leave me alone! i mean why does she have to go so far as to make others look bad? aren't you satisfied with just making yourself look good?

hmm...

i think you should leave her alone, just let her be, ignore her yelling at you, etc.

i have a friend like that....

she just wants to make herself look better in front of other people.

don't try to sink as low as her and keep your dignity

if i were there, i would tell her straight up to clean her own damn dishes

[xxvictastic]

oh gosh. that really sucks.
i would suggest you change roommates D:

haha. this reminded me of the hong kong drama moonlight resonance. XD

[Mannosuke]

No, because in order to look good, everyone else must look bad. It's like putting yellow paint on white paper: doesn't stand out despite the fact that you have color lol.

But ya, she's being a little too excited about things. Did you ever tell her that she is the best?

[Christinaisweird]

still stuck with her for at least another year... plus we have a lot of common friends... besides, i don't want to break the lease. if not, i won't be able to get my security deposit back from her!

LOLs. You've just paid for one bad friendship and one bad place.
Just don't go home that quite often.

Tell her damn straight up to do her own stuff. And making a fuss all that.
She's such a drama queen.

ask other roomates about how they feel about her.

[simplicit]

wow, one of my close friends is like that. it's getting on my nerves soooo much lately too. so i'm in a dilemma right now, confused as to how i should deal with her. sanity or friendship? argh!

[ore0_gal]

I had a friend that's kinda similar to your roommate. On trips, she claims to going to do stuff but she never does it, and then she sits around n watch everyone else does stuff while she's like eating her snacks - and then claim that she had heaps of input into it. She pissed everyone off during the trip - esp her bf.

I honesty think that they r just out to seek attention, just let her be the way she is. I think actions speaks louder than words - so I'm sure all your others roommates can see with their own eyes about the situation.

But I do think that it'll be good to distancing yourself from those type of people.

[B L o T T - ii]

if u feel this way, perhaps others also feel the same as u?

try talking to some of the other ppl about this situation

if worst comes to worst, u need to confront her. if u weren't home all day, then say it in front of everyone & her when she accuses u. the worst thing to do is stay quiet, cuz that shows [to them] u confirmed whatever she's saying with silence

i don't think talking to her individually will solve the problem, cuz it's mainly in front of others that she's making u look bad

and no, definitely do not do what she's doing. other ppl might catch u, and by then, the situation will be worse, and u will only justify whatever she's accusing u of!

she definitely is insecure... tho i don't feel at all sorry for her. pity maybe.

don't be afraid to stand up for urself, girl! u can do it~~

[kathoz]

agree ^

have a general meeting?
your other housemates should know about the situation and the truth.

she needs to grow up.
have you ever talked to her about the the dishes?

[hsin531]

I'm a pretty blunt person so I would put her in her place when she disrespected me or spread lies about me. It doesn't mean that you have to get into a competitive grudge match with her but do stand up for yourself when you are being unfairly treated. You can still keep your integrity without being treated like a doormat. Just try to reason with her in a mature way, if she still doesn't get it and change then just keep your distance and go on about your business. Ignore her or tune her out as much as you can if you have to and show her that her comments towards you have no effect on you whatsoever. Maybe then this drama queen will get the message and leave you alone.

[demllequ]

I think if you just pretend it doesn't bother you she'd feel like the stupid one for trying too hard.
or you could just lock your dishes away so she cant use them, play mean but fair