[xxdogluv]

ok. this guy is someone i liked for about 2 years and after about a year i was like... i really have to get over him because things aren't going anywhere. there was a lot of things that got in the way because 1. he was very shy 2. my best friend had this huge crush on him and practically everyone knew and these people included the ones that were friends with him 3. i was shy as well. then about the beginning of a new school year after summer break, i pretty much got over him. i didn't see him at school often, maybe once every 2 days or so or whenever we had band class tgt. so u know he was pretty much off my mind and i liked it that way.

but then. about a few months before school ends, i realize that maybe i actually haven't gotten over him yet. x( there's just these little things that happened that made me think about him all over again.

like once we were both about to open the door to go to class, and i reached for the door but then i hesitated because i thought he was going to get it, so i pulled back, and then he opened the door for me to let me go first.. so that kinda made things build up again X(.

and one time i accidentally tripped on his instrument, i was like sorry and then hes like it's ok. <-- that was like the first words he said to me. we have never said a word to each other before.

and once on a band trip, we were lining up for breakfast and i turn around to see him staring at me, and then he quickly looks away. i thought we wouldn't have like staring contests anymore. (well before we did i don't know why but i think he was a little weirded out or something.)

so u know little things like this would happen... and then there was this band get together at the end of school. when he was getting his instrument out, the piano was in his way. and i happened to be near and i went over to try to pull the piano back. it was a little embarassing especially when i was trying to pull the piano and it didn't budge <__< after a while i just went back to what i was doing. my friend said he just had this look on his face that said "thanks".

so now it's summer. and i didn't really think about him much since i'm busy with all this stuff. but what do u know, i see him today. when i was getting off the bus. i stared at him, and he saw me, and we had eye contact for maybe 2 sec. and he quickly looked away. it was so surprising. and i just couldn't stop thinking about him... again. >__>" so i don't know what to do. it's like he'll always be on the back of my mind or something even though i keep telling myself i don't like him anymore.

does anyone have ANY advice for me? x(

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if i stop seeing him, will my feelings for him eventually fade away? do u guys just think i'm too infatuated/attracted by him and that's why i can't stop thinking about him? cus technically i don't know him, but i'm just physically attracted to him.

[fredinsac]

I only read a fraction of your story but it's very very very very identical to many other stories on soompi so my advice is, get a new guy.

[xxdogluv]

I only read a fraction of your story but it's very very very very identical to many other stories on soompi so my advice is, get a new guy.

i've TRIED that, but i keep coming back to this one... >__> ever since i was in gr. 8 and now im going to 11. he will be graduating next year.

[Mannosuke]

So, have you ever thought of asking him out?

[xxdogluv]

So, have you ever thought of asking him out?

i haven't even talked to him before

[Mannosuke]

You should. Got another year.

[i ♥ eeyore]

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[xl0v3juicy]

What I really don't understand is how you can like him so much, when you don't even know him. Grade 8? Understandable. Grade 11? Time to move on and face reality. We've all done this before as kids, but when you're 16 it's time to grow up a little. Take the first step and talk to him first. If you guys have classes together, it's a good chance for you to talk to him. I mean it's not like you're going straight for the relationship, just befriend him first you know?? Talk to him like you would with any other guy.

Just because he looks at you doesn't mean he likes you or anything. That time on the bus?? He probably looked at you only because he recognized you from school. Maybe next time try smiling at him or something.

I don't mean to sound harsh, I'm just trying to help. You're right. This really isn't going anywhere. It's time you realize that this is merely a crush that dragged on too long. Sit back, take a deep breath, and just think about it for a second... you're not inlove with this guy or anything. You most likely just think he's cute, and you're hanging on to little bits of hope every time he looks at you. It means nothing. Time to move on

[ihigh]

^ thats some good advice
=) dont take it the wrong way... you're older, wiser? eh eh...right? i mean if it doesn't go anywhere and you can't seem to get your mind off him/ move on, why not just take a stab..ask him to go do something, movies, dinner, lunch, coffee, SOMETHING. then you'll see where it stands. i mean you can crush on him from afar and it can last for years, but LIKING him is different in my opinion=o

[Christinaisweird]

I think it's something about his exterior that you like, since you haven't gotten a chance to really know him . Basically, you're just liking his looks, so don't think too much of it.
I've also learned that it takes two or more years to really have your chemical reaction to really run out.
So no worries, it's just all the chemicals that are doing all the work.

His appearance is just like a yummy new food that you just started liking. Afterwards is how your brain decides.
Those small moments of eye contacts are just something that would happen, just don't over analyze the situation.


Feelings don't just fade away when you don't see a person. "Distance makes the heart grow fonder"
His absence in your mind will be 24/7 afterwhile maybe two months or so it'll be, "out of sight out of mind."

I think you should write a letter about you feel about him and then burn or rip it up, it'll make all those bottled up feelings a little better, so it doesn't worse. You're not a sponge just absorbing it all one day it's going to hurt just releasing it all at once.

You'll learn to live without him dear.

So really watch some dramas or movies. Keep yourself occupied.
Plus, grade 11, you have bigger and better things to realize. Don't let a guy like him waste time with.
You don't want to look back in HS and remember it was revolving around a guy you never spoke to.

[brownman90561495]

if i stop seeing him, will my feelings for him eventually fade away? do u guys just think i'm too infatuated/attracted by him and that's why i can't stop thinking about him? cus technically i don't know him, but i'm just physically attracted to him.

it depends. but it doesn't necessarily mean that if you don't see him, the feelings will just go away. for something that's deep, i don't think seeing him physically is very well linked to fostering the feeling of liking a person.

i am not pretty sure why are you trying to forget him. does he have a girlfriend? i assume you don't have a boyfriend.

[charat]

you said you only think about him sometimes. if you're budsy you dotn think about him until something reminds you of him. if thats the case, you dont love him. you are just infatuated. youll get over him once you realize its just that, an infatuation. if you loved him, youd be thinking about him, even if you were busy.

[brownman90561495]

you said you only think about him sometimes. if you're budsy you dotn think about him until something reminds you of him. if thats the case, you dont love him. you are just infatuated. youll get over him once you realize its just that, an infatuation. if you loved him, youd be thinking about him, even if you were busy.

touche.

and to add to that, if he's the one guy you think of before you sleep until your last conscious thought EVERYNIGHT, maybe you do love him.

[soominie]

I only have crushes on guys after they do something to make it seem like they're interested in me. This, I don't understand... I think it's time for you to move on. :-(

[Mannosuke]

you said you only think about him sometimes. if you're budsy you dotn think about him until something reminds you of him. if thats the case, you dont love him. you are just infatuated. youll get over him once you realize its just that, an infatuation. if you loved him, youd be thinking about him, even if you were busy.

I call that infatuation.
If you love someone, you wouldn't be thinking about the person 24/7 to the point where it's unhealthy.

You don't need to think about it to acknowledge the fact that you love someone.

[xxdogluv]

well, you guys are right. and tbh i haven't even thought about him since that day. well the next day after that day. >< i think i was just thinking too much... and now it's time to move on. and well @ brownman i want to forget him b/c 1. it's not getting anywhere 2. my best friend still has this tiny crush on him and i don't wanna imagine what things would be like if i ended up talking to him. o.o so ya. thx for the advice everyone.

[kiss_bunny]

Okay Either you start talking to him so it goes somewhere
or you talk to other boys.
Do you have a lot of guy friends?
its easier to get over a crush when you start talking to other boys.

Well, he's shy right?
i know many shy boys will open up pretty easily once someone else start talking to them
like in a few days..
so strike up a convo if you want it to go somewhere.

[Mannosuke]

1. it's not getting anywhere

Nothing goes anywhere if you don't do anything.

2. my best friend still has this tiny crush on him and i don't wanna imagine what things would be like if i ended up talking to him.

TINY crush why does that matter?
Indeed, this is a simple question, but you're making it really complicated.

[mintcracker]

touche.

and to add to that, if he's the one guy you think of before you sleep until your last conscious thought EVERYNIGHT, maybe you do love him.

uh...
she's never talked to him before. So she likes him for his looks.


That's not love. Peopleneed to stop throwing that word around.


Anyway just find sb new to like? Talk to him? It's not that hard o_O