[eggball]

Okay today, @ SG time, 6am.

I'm suppose to meet one of my guy friend for a trip to Sentosa. Both of us plan this trip for a v. long time ( 4weeks? )
& that no one elses wanna go with us, so we're like " okay, we'll go together and take the sky ride blahblahblah ".
So we're suppose to meet @ 6.
I set my alarm clock @ 5.40am.

It was suppose to go off.. I mean it never failed me before..
Okay, the thing is, I'm not blaming my phone.

I woke up at 7.12am.
My phone totally black out.
I called the guy and he's home already. I kept apologising and yeah....
He keeps saying nevermind.
He waited for me for 45mins, I hate to wait for people, so I guess, I know how he felt.
And I feel like a total beech now.
AND IT'S 7AM IN SG, I CAN'T CALL ANYONE, HOW MISERABLE T.T

Anyway, I texted him, I swore I'll go with him next Saturday, but he never reply...
Previous text he said he's someone who won't bear grudges.
I've never felt worse than this, I feel so damn guilty...

So people, how can I make it up to him?
Advices please, thank you.

[Mannosuke]

It's up to him to forgive you.
The best you can do is never do it again.

[mintcracker]

Bake him a cake and go to his house. It's not your fault your alarm didn't ring =(
I'm sure he'll get over it after awhile.

[ShadowMax76]

He waited for me for 45mins, I hate to wait for people, so I guess, I know how he felt.
And I feel like a total beech now.

o_O' not everyone feels the same about things. but . i guess if you know him, then you know him.

_ Xx' how to make it up to him...
well, if he's a sadistic kinda person, then leaving you to feel guilty is enough for him -thumbs up- i know i'd like that. :D
if he's really not that bothered by it, then drop it. x_X cos it'd be rubbing it in.

. but eh. o0' you've got a while to figure it out.

[MineralWater]

It's your fault when your alarm doesn't ring, or when you sleep past your alarm. If it didn't ring because the battery died, that's still your fault. If you had to rely on your alarm because you stayed up late even if you had to wake up earlier than usual, I would say that's your fault as well.

Anyways, here are my thoughts on the guy. So...he was only waiting for 45 minutes and went home? That's...like nothing? I mean I waited like 1-2 hours for my girlfriend. Yea I was pretty upset but still, I think he could have had the preseverance to stay longer and have the patience to go on the trip he was looking forward to.

So yes, it is your fault that you woke up late. BUT if you felt bad about it, good, that's done and over with. I think the focus should turn towards the guy now. You've apologized, you've offered to make up, and if he's still grumbling about it then it's no longer your problem anymore. There is no point in feeling guilty about it forever, as long as you do your best to not let these things happen again between you and him.

[missxsuong]

OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!


On my birthday my boyfriend was suppose to meet me for breakfast at 6:45 a.m.

and he said he set his phone but it didn't go off so he slept through it

I too waited 45 minutes and i cried. I couldn't help it. It was my birthday. It was special to me and we planned the breakfast for about a week.
I forgave him though. It wasn't his fault he slept through it.

But your friend should get over it too. It's not your fault and he should understand that. His feelings are just hurt (that's how mine was) but he'll get over it.

[lemoncake0910]

If he's very understanding, he would understand what it's like when unexpected things like that happen. (lol, this sentence sounded a little weird. o__o)
It's not like you purposely came late or anything.. it's just your alarm did not go off.
If I was the friend who was waiting, I would be a bit impatient if I was to wait for a long time and the friend didn't show up... but if the other friend told me what actually happened, then I wouldn't feel upset anymore after knowing what actually happened.. and would just let it go. .. cuz things might not always turn out the way we planned, right?
But it looks like he doesn't understand even after you told him, right? and he's still upset about it?
I guess you can't really do anything about it. Just wait a few days or after a week and see if he forgets about the situation and is back to his normal self.
Honestly, if he stays upset over this... it's a bit silly, don't you think? o__O
well, I hope he's not those types of people who are very good at leaving 'guilt trips' on other people.

[xMYOOx]

it happens.. =/
i agree with one of the above posters.. you should bake him a cake or cookies or something and go see him and apologize face to face
even tho hes disappointed, i'm sure he realizes that it's not ur fault.. its not like u did it on purpose..
=]

[colloquy]

He only waited for 45 minutes and is all pissed off? mini cooper happens, he should be more understanding.

My boyfriend waited for me for 3 hours for me once, and I've waited for him for 2 hours. It's not as if we were late because we just felt like it.

[ST@R]

Aw..it wasn't really your fought but it's up to him to forgive you.
Personally, I'd probably never fall asleep if I planned a trip XD

[ritzy!]

UHH..45 minutes is a longggggg time, Idk what's wrong with some of these soompiers, lol.. =p
if REALLY it was your phone's fault I wouldn't blame ya but just a bit suspicious like right on that day it doesn't ring, know what i mean ? or maybe you just slept late and thought it didn't ring 'cuz that happened to me quite a few times (inwhich case is most def. your fault) but you said your phone went black? what a coincidence huh! but i would make it up by calling him up and if he won't answer, not text but write a letter or go to his place to give him a bunch of cookies or SOMETHING..'cuz fourty five minutes to me is a long ass time.

[xiam9]

I once waited for my friends for an hour. The other one apologized sincerely but the other so-called friend acted like they were only 5 minutes late. Before they arrived I texted them that I wanted to go home and that I don't want to wait for them anymore, and this friend actually had the nerve to be angry because it was such a waste of HER time that she had to get up early, get dressed, etc just so I could ditch them??? WTF! She's so messed up. We don't like her anyway so it's all fair.

I think you have to personally apologize. Sometimes a simple and a very sincere apology can mean a great deal.

[<3StrawberryPocky<3]

Awwww, it's definitely not your fault. It's just hard to wake up for some people without having to rely on an alarm clock or phone. Anyways, a simple apology sometimes isn't good enough for some people, so I agree with the other soompiers that you just include something really meaningful like a hand-made card, homemade desserts, or anything that really shows you're sincerely sorry. Actions sometimes say the most.

[ir3ni3]

just try your best to let him know you really didn't mean to flake on your trip. there really isn't anything else you can do (he will probably feel better after a bit of time). maybe you should bake him some "i'm sorry" cupcakes (: lol.

[brownman90561495]

i am very sure no one wants that to happen, but you can't take the bad feeling away from him because he has the slightest right to feel that way. it's up to him when will be able to forgive you and talk to you.

if you guys plan this same thing again sometime in the future, quoting Mannosuke in his reply above, NEVER DO IT AGAIN sleep early the night before the trip, put up more than one alarm clock, and have him call you up in your HP when we wakes up.

[brown.eyes]

Tell him that you really don't want to do that to him.

Make an effort to tell him that you're really sorry fot what had happened.

[pblake]

It's your fault when your alarm doesn't ring, or when you sleep past your alarm. If it didn't ring because the battery died, that's still your fault. If you had to rely on your alarm because you stayed up late even if you had to wake up earlier than usual, I would say that's your fault as well.

Anyways, here are my thoughts on the guy. So...he was only waiting for 45 minutes and went home? That's...like nothing? I mean I waited like 1-2 hours for my girlfriend. Yea I was pretty upset but still, I think he could have had the preseverance to stay longer and have the patience to go on the trip he was looking forward to.

So yes, it is your fault that you woke up late. BUT if you felt bad about it, good, that's done and over with. I think the focus should turn towards the guy now. You've apologized, you've offered to make up, and if he's still grumbling about it then it's no longer your problem anymore. There is no point in feeling guilty about it forever, as long as you do your best to not let these things happen again between you and him.

completely agree. what a pansy.. 45 minutes isn't that bad.

[stupid.ity]

Aww....he's the type that says it's alright when it isn't.
The only way it works for me is....

TAKE THE GUY OUT TO DINNER.
LOL, that always gets my guy friends.
They'd forgive me as long as I pay.