[jpnoroe3]

Well, I've made several bad decisions in the past, and they're 110% regrets so what i do is i Don't think about them and i just pretend like they never happened.
So, by doing so, i don't talk about them and yea, i didn't bring it up to my boyfriend of about 2 weeks.
but he found out through someone else about it, and he's really disappointed in me, both because of WHAT he found out and because he had to find out through someone else.
But the thing is, i dont know if he understands my situation, how I didn't tell him because I didn't want to remember a regret i had in the past.
What I always do is this, its very cliche but really, this is how i actually am happy: Leave the past in the past, the future in the future, and enjoy the present of the present.
Should this affect our relationship? It's really early in the relationship too ; But really, we can't change the past and can't he like me for who i am right now? isn't that all that matters? >_<
It's not like the incident (the one i regret) happened during our relationship either, it was before...
When he tells me things he's done in the past, I guess theyre not as bad as what i did, but when he does, i mean i do flinch at the story sometimes but you know, it's the past.
I don't wanna lose him, but i think he's already lost some interest in me already i dunno.. :/

[allyy]

i'm not really sure what you did, but i've kept a secret of my past from him and told him later. we've been together almost 3 years and more than half of the reasons we fight is b/c i didn't tell him before.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

It'll take some time to get over it.
I told my boyfriend about my past relationships when we were only dating and 11 months later, he's still dwelling over it. Initially, he said he was glad that I told him but a lot of arguments sparked later on because of it.
But I keep telling him that it was the past, I can't change any of it, and that he just has to learn to accept it.

If he wants a relationship to work, your boyfriend has to learn to get over himself.

[Frozy]

Yes, it's understandable for him to be upset, but he also has to respect your decision on not telling him, as long as you have a good reason. Right now, both of you are experiencing a period of mis-communication, so why don't you talk to him about it?

[jpnoroe3]

wow those were helpful, knowing that there are many people who go through something similar..
but yea, i want to go on with this relationship and hopefully he does too...
this was last night, i'm like QQ status cuz he's not really responsive..
i'm waiting for him to cool down? i guess... cuz i kept being annoying last night... so i'm waiting for him to talk to me first..

[SayurixPark]

well...... like people have said before, its reasonable for him to be upset (depending on what it was he found out about and how it wasn't you he found it out from) however he should understand that there are some things you don't want to remember; that you don't want to recall upon.

i guess you just have to wait and let him take it in and accept it.
i've always told myself that the past is the past, but it's the past that can influence your future.

[Daylightful]

Well, I think it has to deal with the incident..?
BUT, I think point is is that your boyfriend is upset because YOU didn't tell him. Yeah, the past is the past, but he's your boyfriend and you tell him everything. You tell him good things about past life so why not some of the bad? Trust is one of the key factors in the relationship, and if you can't tell him anything how do you think he feels? He tells you the bad things but you can't? I'm sure if you told him about how you feel about the situation he'll understand! -^___^-v; You just have to talk to him! >~<v But you have to understand where he is coming from as well.. I'd like to know everything about my love one, even if they were bad. It's not like I'd judge him on the past or anything. I'm just happy he told me, y'know? It's like keeping a secret, and I wouldn't want to keep any secrets from him. I think that's the reason why he's upset about it. But, honestly! Tell him how you feel too, and I'm sure he has to understand! It's a good thing this happened early on then more on the relationship. Sometimes, the longer you hide things the worse it feels. But best of luck to you!

[diam0nds.]

Everyone makes mistakes.
Him deciding to leave you because of those mistakes are unadmirable.
It's the mistakes we've made that shapes us into who we are. I don't think he understands that.

[ginachan]

I dont know what you did...but I had the same reaction about my bf when he once lied to me and I had to find out by myself...newayz since I found out he lied about that one incident, we started fighting more and more. :/ I hope your bf can get past that and you both can move on from it.

[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

in my opinion, i think you have to accept that past.
because it's happened, and there's nothing you can do about it now.
so admitting, "yeah i've made mistakes, but who hasn't? i've done stupid things, but i've LEARNED from them."

i've made quite a few mistakes myself, and that's how i live my life.
before my boyfriend and i were dating, i already told him everything.
and if he didn't accept me for my past mistakes, then he doesn't deserve to be my boyfriend neways.
it's all about growth.

your boyfriend doesn't really have a "right" to be mad at you.
but, if he is your boyfriend, even if it's not all the details, he should know who you are and how you've become the way you have.

this is just my 2 cents x] haha.

[Mannosuke]

EDIT:

nvm, it's his problem if he can't accept you.
It's only 2 weeks, you're not expected to spill your life story on him.

[OMGitzYOU]

I think you should of told him but it was also on his half to have tried to find out all the major things about you before you guys become gf/bf. If you were in his shoes wouldn't you be mad if your so didnt tell you something major in the past that you think you should know about ?

[Trinity <3]

This happened to me recently..

I told my boyfriend when I broke up with my ex I immediately wanted to forget about everything he did and I did with him. He brought up a few instances with me and asked me "why I did it". I told him "I don't know" and I honestly didn't, because I had a stupid past. He kept pushing it and I told him to stop because it's my past, and he's my present, and if he still wanted to dwell over it he could, but I wouldn't.

Tell him straight up that your past is yours and the only reason you don' talk about it is because you want to focus on him now, the present

[MNLV27]

Well you should really learn from what you did wrong in the past that way you won't do something you'll regret in the future, so that you don't disappoint yourself and your bf. By not telling him what you did, it's going to make it seems like he can't really trust you because who knows what else you might be hiding from him.

[eternal_bliss]

Why don't you just tell your boyfriend why you're not telling him these decisions. Help him understand or he'll just feel like you're leaving him out of your life. Communicate more with him and if you have to make more decisions later on, include him so that he'll know he's important to you. Trust and communication is key in a relationship.

[rawrasaur]

I was upset with what my boyfriend did in the past even though he told me straight up when we started dating.
That stuff is unavoidable, but with time your boyfriend (just like I did) will get over it and accept you. He just needs some time to calm down and realize the only thing that matters is now.

[hippiehop]

You should learn not to regret things.

Take things as lessons.

You've accepted it as a part of your past... it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's who you were. Not who you are.

[juicejuice]

You both should really talk about it...especially when you want your relationship to last.

[rawr! :3]

we have the same situation but its the other way around. i found out something from the past that my boyfriend did (but he's the one that told me.. not someone else) && im not gonna lie, it was heartbreaking "/ but you know what? i pushed it aside and not think about it cause i love him so much that im not going to let the past ruin my present and future. so what im saying is that, eventhough its heartbreaking, your boyfriend should know that its the past, and you cant do anything about it. if he loves you, then he shouldnt let anything like this ruin it. it's the past.. get over it!

[brownman90561495]

hey, i hope i am not too late to give my two cents but anyway here it is.

i myself have this attitude of not telling my partner some things. but i choose those things wisely - are these things irrelevant in our relationship? will this matter even just a bit if i tell her? if not, why bother telling?

now i understand completely that in your first post, you have never mentioned this thing that your boyfriend has found out. i won't ask you what it is, just ask yourself - is it relevant in your relationship? i do think so because he got mad finding about it from another person.

things that you know will affect your relationship should be shared to your partner, be it the past, the present or even more the future.