[miika]

Me and my boyfriend usually don't argue much, but today I had a really bad day and everything was upsetting, and he only made it worse.

He told me last week that he was going to hang out with his ex again, and after telling him I wasn't very happy about it, he said he won't go. But then today he texted me he was going to meet up with her again (so I got the impression he told me he wouldn't hang out with her just to make me feel better that day).

I'm just not that happy with my boyfriend hanging out with his ex even though he tells me they're just good friends.

And he said that it seemed like he hasn't hung out with her in so long (even though it was just less than a month ago.. And I only see him 4/5 times a month).

While he was hanging out with her, I was the fifth wheel between a bunch of my friends who expected my boyfriend to be there. And it was even more difficult to tell them the reason he couldn't come because he was hanging out with his ex.

After we both got home, I talked to him and how I was kinda upset he wasn't there, but tried to hide that fact that I didn't want him hanging out with her. Yet he just made it worse by saying how much fun he had with her today.

At that point, I just stopped talking.... cause he never says that after we hang out.

He realized I was mad then, and told me to go to sleep.

That just pissed me off even more.

I thought it over and now ....... did I over exaggerated or was he really being an ass? Should I apologize or what?

[leenahs]

Okay, YOUR BOYFRIEND IS SUCH AN ASS.
Somethings wrong with him.
First of all. YOU DONT TELL YOUR GIRLFIREND THAT YOU HAD FUN WITH YOUR Ex.
AISFSAOIDMASOID ARGH MALES.
They make me so angry =_=

[muffinx3]

Honestly, I would be effing pissed too.
..... I'm pissed for you.

Not only did he do something that he knew you were uncomfortable/insecure about, he also rubbed it in your face that he did it and even more so by saying he had a great time. Way to stomp on your self-esteem. :|

You definitly have the right to be upset. Your boyfriend sounds like a d bag.
Don't apologize, you're not wrong. He should be the one apologizing.

[Xian]

In my opinion, it's understandable why you're upset about it. He told you that he wouldn't go see her, and then he changed his mind at the last minute. However, he at least had the decency to tell you that he was going to hang out with her, and didn't end up doing it behind your back. This, to me, means that he's at least honest with you and that's a good thing.

As to your having difficulty saying anything when your friends asked where your boyfriend was, you could have said he was hanging out with an old friend of his.

I think your boyfriend should be more understanding toward you, especially because he is well aware that you don't feel comfortable with him hanging out with his ex. Did they hang out one on one? Because if that's the case, then I too would feel quite uncomfortable about it. I cut off all contact with a guy I knew from way back when my boyfriend found out he had contacted me again. Because to me, my boyfriend means that much more to me and if that guy bothered him so much, then it's my responsibility to make my boyfriend feel at ease. That guy was the only one whom my boyfriend had a problem with too, he could care less about the other guy friends I hang out with. And isn't it the same with you? It's just this one ex who's making you feel uncomfortable, right?

Your boyfriend should have been more considerate, but his tongue might have slipped. Talk to him about it, about how you feel it's wrong for him to hang out one on one with his ex like that. And no, you don't have to apologize. He should be apologizing for being inconsiderate. Good luck.

[shining_star[:]

Just by reading this he makes me pissed. GO CONFRONT HIM!!!!
What the eff is wrong with him?!!!! T_T yes you have the right to be upset!

[sooolost]

I have to agree with the other replies here.. I think you have every right to be annoyed. If he really cared, he'd take your feelings into consideration.. And as the gf, you should have waaaay higher priority over his ex. If it seems like he prefers to hang out with her more than you, something is definitely wrong. If they were awesome friends before getting into a relationship and realize it was a bad mistake, then i think it's okay for them to hang out. But if it was a case like she broke up with him and he still had lingering feelings.. then you should be more cautious..

[cheerydumdum]

you definitely have a right to be pissed. sounds like he's telling you to sleep it off or something. even though he should have the right to hang out with whoever he wants to hang out with, he should've stuck to what he said originally instead of changing his mind at the last minute and expecting you to be okay with it. i'm sorry your boyfriend's like that. he shouldn't have said he had fun since he knows you don't like him hanging out with her. he should've said, "oh. it was an okay day." it sounds like he doesn't really care about the fact that you're mad. don't apologize since you haven't done anything wrong. wait for him to apologize.

[dreamyxxx]

whattt why should YOU apologize?
he should be the one saying sorry
i would be pissed too
i mean, you told him you were upset he wasn't there, yet he tells you how much fun he had with his ex?
-__-"

[des monstres]

ew. your boyfriend is an ass.
is he deliberately trying to make you feel bad/jealous?

what the hell.
he should try and be more considerate!
especially if you're having a rough day.

and hm. did you and your friends plan this day out for awhile?
and did you ask him to come beforehand and he just didn't come at all?
>>; cause that's pretty bad too!

[koezane]

does he love you or does he love her?

will he be there when you need him or will he run away?

these are the fundamental questions. don't push him away from her for your own selfish ends. but if you really do need him then he must come running. in the meantime, he must keep close enough to you so he will know what to do when he arrives.

[adaytodiefor]

Any bf who hangs out with their ex of course the gf wouldnt like it and vice versa.

[JAMIEE]

in my opinion, i dont think ex's should even be friends.
clearly he's not taking you seriously.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Are you upset because he hanged out with the ex or because he lied?

[Tone]

lol i ain't mad at u about not wanting him to hang out with his ex. but a relationship is build on trust, if you don't trust him enough to let him hang out with his ex, then you might as well just end the relationship and save yourself time.

[brownman90561495]

whoah take a hold of yourself here. i think it's a matter of principles here. i'm not sure but it seems you believe (while other soompiers here as well) believes that people shouldn't be TOTALLY be friends with their ex's. i apologize but i don't entirely believe that. i dont want to make any implications here, but i just don't believe that.

your bf chose you, and her ex is already the past. your intuition may be working against you, making you think they're fooling around. but anything that comes out of your intuition must not be trusted that easily BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO HARD AND CONCRETE EVIDENCE. don't change to your bf if you can.

on the other hand, it's ok to feel upset about it. and it's his wrong doing not making you feeling all assured about the two of you. he should have been at least considerate enough of how you may and are feeling.

i suggest you let him be for a couple of days or maybe a week. if you still feel bothered by then, maybe you should talk to him and sort things out PEACEFULLY.

[Mannosuke]

Is this the same horny guy? Not that it has anything to do with it.

[xwinnie_lovex]

okay i agree that a relationship is built on trust
but that trust depends on each person

in your situation, your boyfriend is definitely at fault
YOU trusted him not to hang with her
because he gave you his word
but he betrayed your trust and went to hang out with her anyways
so you have no reason NOT to be upset
cuse i definitely would be too
if he comes to his senses
he will call and apologize then cease his friendship with his ex
maybe not completely stop the friendship
but at least stop seeing her.

[Meenuh]

I love how he just told you to go to bed when he realized you were angry. lol.

He sounds selfish. I think it's obvious for almost any couple to be uncomfortable when one starts hanging out with their ex again. Yeah, people might say that "he/she is an ex for a reason" but people need to remember that he or she went out with that person for a reason.

No matter how lightly I try to take it, he sounds odd. If it was a group of friends and she was there that's one thing but for him to hang out just the two of them alone... Do you know how often they talk to eachother?

[StephyT]

Don't apologize to him. He should apologize to you.
I would have been pissed off too if I were you. Actually, I would have been really violent, but I'm guessing you weren't since you just tried to stay calm.
I think you need to directly tell your boyfriend that you don't like him hanging out with his ex. His ex shouldn't matter if he's with you.

[jaeka]

Tell him that, not us.

Communication, try it. :)