[jinjingji]

Well, I'm fourteen year old girl (almost 15). Never been crushed on. Never dated. Never been kissed. I'm afraid that when I grow up, I'll be alone. No guys have ever been interested in me. Ever. My peers tell me it's just a stage... but thats what they all say. I was just wondering, if I have a soulmate out there somewhere. Waiting for me to find them, so we can live our lives together happily.
I can't say I have confidence in my appearance. I guess I'm not that ugly. I know, I know, no one is ugly. But I can't seem to wonder if I'll ever get my chance to be with someone who will love me.
I know that I won't be convinced if just a few people on Soompi, reply stating, " I found my soulmate." or "Soulmates do exist." But, I'll try asking the question anyway. I really wish I can believe, someone out there will love me..

[Mannosuke]

The real question is: how much effort have you put into finding this soulmate? Or looking for dates?
Soul mates may exist, but they aren't handed to you on a silver platter: you have to go out yourself and look for him.

I don't really see why people are picking on you for being 14, talk about ageism.

[WoopieDaDoo]

What's there to be afraid of? You have still got your whole life ahead of you. Don't think so negative. Honestly, I can tell you, you are not the only one that's been through this. There are many people at a young age that haven't had their first kiss, or relationship etc, but that doesn't mean that you will end up being alone in the future. Love takes time. You should not be questioning yourself: Is there a soulmate out there for me, because of course there is someone out there for you. Patience is all you need. There's no rush. Don't seek for love, let it seek you.
When you stated this in your post: "I can't say I have confidence in my appearance. I guess I'm not that ugly" <<< not THAT important when it comes down to relationships. Don't be so hard on yourself, your making your confidence lower by doing that, which wil result in bad situations. Think positive, take your time, like I said, you still got your whole life ahead of you. Afraid of living alone for the rest of your life? Trust me, there are more things to be afraid of in life nowadays. Love is everywhere, there's no avoiding it. You see and feel it everyday, whether it's from family, friends, relationships etc.
Keep your head up and start looking at the bright things in life and start by saying: "I can ....... " instead of the: "What if...." Do you understand what I mean?

I wish you the best of luck,

Brandon

Btw when you stated: Never been crushed on << can you prove this? ......I didn't think so =)

[cow_vinh]

Of course there is SOMEONE out of the billions of people out there who will love you and comit to a relationship, hopefully being ur soul mate.
You're only 14 and you got A LOT of time left. Im in no rush cause im th same age as you. You shouldnt rush it either.

I know you dont like w8ing all that much and I absolutely hate it! Things didnt work out too well between me and this one girl and now Ive moved on but Im lonely. Don't worry the w8 will be worth it.

Don't think its over yet. If you call it quits now then Im totally curb stomping you!!!! lol xD

[Painterlyy]

There is obviously someone out there for you.
But there are many people out there that will love you.
But you won't find them if you don't try

[chinese tears <3]

I don't believe in soulmates. I believe that there are many different people who you can possibly be compatible with; it's just a matter of who you meet first. But I don't really think you need to be worrying about that right now... you're only 14.

[lilaznanime]

Gee, we're pretty similar.
I'm about the same age as you. Never crushed, dated, nor kissed.
Sometimes I'm envious of my friends who coupled.
(about maybe 5 couples in my group of firends)
Sometimes I would feel bad because this Saturday for
example, they have like a quadruple group date thing.
I would say my appearance isn't so great as well.
So don't worry, you're not alone.

As for the soulmate thing, I honestly really would like to belive in such a thing.
But at the same time I don't want to rely on that acting like I'm guaranteed a significant other.
I really don't know what to believe now.
But honestly, there's alot of time to consider. Just walk your path and relax.
You never know what life brings and hey, some kinda of drama is guaranteed from highschool.

[Regina Rae]

No, I don't believe in soulmates. There's not someone out there that was meant to be with you & vice versa.
There is no such thing as destiny when it comes to love. But there are people out there that you are more compatible with. More so than others.
That's what love is. It's about finding someone (out of tons of people) that you get along well with. Not finding that ~special~ someone that was born to be with you.

That's only in the movies.

[MNLV27]

I believe that there is a soulmate out there for you but that doesn't mean he/she will be the ONLY one perfect for you. If he/she does come by in you're life, you either accept them into you're life or you lose them forever and maybe you'll get a second chance to meet them again, if not then just hope that you're able to find someone else whose able to come close to being like you're soulmate.

Btw, you are still young, you still have years to go and why are you soo worried about soulmates or whatever already? Just have fun and live your youthful life before you enter adulthood. Once you turn into an adult, then that should be when you start to look more forward to finding your soulmate or future spouse.

[ShadowMax76]

ahaha..-pats- this is cute.

[joie.de.vivre]

you've probably heard this a lot, but i'm going to say it again because it's true: you are only fourteen, and you have nothing to worry about (:. and, you're not the only one who feels like that at your age, trust me. when i was 14 or so, i felt almost exactly the same way, and possibly even worse.

anyhow, there's no need to rush. when the time is right and when you're truly ready, you'll find that real love will come.

WoopieDaDoo has some really sound advice.
be positive. take risks once in a while. and remember to love the person that you are. (:

[hsin531]

You are only fourteen so you shouldn't feel like you have to be in a rush to fall in love and find your soulmate. Take the time to figure out yourself and the kind of person you want to become first, the rest will eventually fall into place. You also have to love yourself and accept yourself, don't let anyone else determine your self worth.

To answer your question, I think it is possible is that there are dozens of potential "soulmates" in our existence (or illusion, thereof). I think that at anytime, the one that you are with can be your soulmate as long as you accept each for who you really are. It is a matter of believing in each other and having that deeper bond with each other than with anyone else. So your soulmate is the one who reflects your love back to you more clearly and intensely than anyone else.

[<3StrawberryPocky<3]

Awwww!!! I sometimes think that way, too, only I've had crushes and just VERY few guys crushing on me. But I consider myself in the same situation since the guy who had a crush on me.... was related to me. I see myself in the same way though.....only I think I look like Chewbacca, so your esteem is probably higher. Haha. I believe there is a special someone perfect for us, only they're very hard to find. We probably just need to make an effort to reach out and find the one!! Are you very shy? Because I know I'm super shy, but since I was so bubbly and happy two years ago, people saw me as friendlier and approachable. Smiles make a difference......seriously. Lol. Last year I was all dark/emo/frowny, and I scared a lot of people. Hahah. But since we're both young, I think the only time we should really be concerned of being alone is when we're 40 year old virgins that have never been crushed on.

[lxh]

Haha, you're just like me when I was around your age. I keep thinking I would end-up as a virgin old lady living in a house of cats x_x. But hehe, now I'm dating so . Hopefully I won't end up like that >>;.

Don't worry about it, you're still young, there are tons of people out there. Especially when you get to high school and college. You never know what would happen :].

But as much as I like to believe in the theory of soulmate, I am a skeptic.

[beccaxlee]

aww don't get to down on this.
when your 14/15 your main thing is to be a student. love is just an experience that some people get to try at your age
don't worry you still have half you life until you have to start getting desperate.. 30 ahh
you'll find the one for you when its the right time

and for soulmates.. i kind of a romantic, destiny junk believer. so yeah, i think that there is a special someone out there for you.. but some people don't always find them in the right situations and let them go.
BUT, there are tons of happy people who do find their soulmates and live happily together.

anyways there's my little rant

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Sorry to break this.
But there's no soulmates for a 14-15 year old.
You are far too young to think about that.

I say concentrate on school.

[I_Love_Rice]

Your only 14, you should be more worried about school than soulmates. and yes THERE IS surly a soulmate out there for you. I never kissed until.... I'm 18? You have a whole life ahead of you. Finding a soulmate is hard, you'll probably end up dating a few before you even find one. Now a days, everyone makes it seem like you have to have someone at like 12 or something.... (s tricked Asian parents, not allow to, until out of high school )

if you worry about it, you'll never find one.

[thelostmistress]

I don't know I never experienced being in love. At my age (14 years old),
I'm still young for love and love can wait forever. But I think it will be hard
for me if I will find my soulmate. I think its unbelievable. Soulmates are just in dramas.
But you never know there might be a real soulmate for you. So don't lose hope?.
You should enjoy life being with friends and your family. <33333333333333333333333

[ohemqeex3]

starting off, you're farrrrrr too young to be thinking about soulmates.
you're not at an age yet to where you should be experiencing true love and true pain.

but to answer the question, i'd say no. there are many people you will meet and love,
and possibly spend the rest of your life with happily.
you just have to find one of those people or, better yet, let them find you.

[HaplessChild]

Well, I'm fourteen year old girl (almost 15). Never been crushed on. Never dated. Never been kissed. I'm afraid that when I grow up, I'll be alone. No guys have ever been interested in me. Ever. My peers tell me it's just a stage... but thats what they all say. I was just wondering, if I have a soulmate out there somewhere. Waiting for me to find them, so we can live our lives together happily.
I can't say I have confidence in my appearance. I guess I'm not that ugly. I know, I know, no one is ugly. But I can't seem to wonder if I'll ever get my chance to be with someone who will love me.
I know that I won't be convinced if just a few people on Soompi, reply stating, " I found my soulmate." or "Soulmates do exist." But, I'll try asking the question anyway. I really wish I can believe, someone out there will love me..

You're entirely too young to even worry your head over it. No one you would meet at your age would be who you marry anyway.

Relax and enjoy your youth.

There may have been boys that liked you and you just don't know it.

Don't rush it; it will come in good time.