[Yuki]

EDIT
read pg 2 please

[therey]

why do u all of a sudden dont like him anymore?

[可愛い]

I think I don't love my boyfriend enough. But I'm scared to break up with him because we live together. Only once we break up, can I go find the person I really like.

Is not loving him enough more important or is him treating me really well more important?
What would you do?

girl, if u dont love him then u shouldnt be with him.

[Yuki]

I don't know.....

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[Yuki]

more suggestions or comments please.....

[youandmee]

for me , not loving someone is more important .
i think if you don't actually love your bf anymore ,
you shouldn't be with him .
and maybe the guy you just met is just some sort of attraction that will
probably go away soon .
i guess you just gotta think deeply about what you actually want .

[mintcracker]

what the...you had a 'nice chat' and you just decided you no longer like your bf that much?

woah you sure like sb quick o_O
Just remember to not regret it later.

[Yuki]

delete delete delete delete

[mintcracker]

^ break up. He deserves sb that cares for him enough, not just staying with him out of pity or bc of some contract =/

[JaCkiie]

This reminds me of an article that I read a while back.


Couples living together before marriage have a higher divorce rate because they feel compelled to stay with other because they live with each and financially share things together.


All in seriousness though, if you don't love your boyfriend, then there's really no point in staying in a relationship with him then. It's a two way relationship, and if you're hesitating well I guess it's not going to really work out.

But I guess the most important thing is that if I was your boyfriend, I would feel really "used" if you remained with me.

[ShadowMax76]

what? the fuzzy feelings disappeared and now you're moving onto the next one?

[Yuki]

delete delete delete delete

[Mannosuke]

^ no, we've been dating for 1.5 years already. And i care for him a lot, but just feel like i don't like him enough......

If I asked you to explain how much is enough, you'd probably rather just say it's enough now lol

[myxo]

^ no, we've been dating for 1.5 years already. And i care for him a lot, but just feel like i don't like him enough......

And this isn't something that you're willing to work out with him?

Can you really just wake up one day and not like someone anymore?

I think if you're certain you no longer love him anymore, the first thing you need to do is be honest with him.

[x_wonton]

This reminds me of an article that I read a while back.


Couples living together before marriage have a higher divorce rate because they feel compelled to stay with other because they live with each and financially share things together.


All in seriousness though, if you don't love your boyfriend, then there's really no point in staying in a relationship with him then. It's a two way relationship, and if you're hesitating well I guess it's not going to really work out.

But I guess the most important thing is that if I was your boyfriend, I would feel really "used" if you remained with me.

I wonder about that. I mean, wouldn't it be BETTER to live with your bf/gf before marrying? You share financial burdens and everything like a normal couple, so once you get married, wouldn't it be better?

Anyways, on the actual topic, I believe you should take a break from your boyfriend. Either you or him should move out. There is no point to be in a one-sided relationship because in the end, he gets hurt even more when he finds out that you were just pitying him. Maybe you need to separate to figure how you really feel. Don't stay in a relationship that you doubt because there is no one benefiting from it.

Best of luck!

[Regina Rae]

Just leave him. jjjjjjjj

[Frozy]

This is something rather sudden you've started feeling. Are you two not spending enough time with each other at home/ outside?

Why do you suddenly feel this way? What does it even mean that you don't love him as much anymore? Try going with it for a little while longer, maybe something will change. How long have you been feeling this way anyway?

[ryoheiyoshida]

Take a break and go on vacation if you have to. Maybe you need some time away to really appreciate him .
If you still feel the same then don't lead him on , move on . Talk to your landlord and work something out , don't crush his heart down the road and let him find out
you've lost interest .

[forgottenmemories]

If you don't love him anymore than be fair and tell him the truth.

[Yuki]

And this isn't something that you're willing to work out with him?

Can you really just wake up one day and not like someone anymore?

I think if you're certain you no longer love him anymore, the first thing you need to do is be honest with him.

Take a break and go on vacation if you have to. Maybe you need some time away to really appreciate him .
If you still feel the same then don't lead him on , move on . Talk to your landlord and work something out , don't crush his heart down the road and let him find out
you've lost interest .

that sounds like a very good idea. thanks