[jpark112]

Just wandering if there are any people who feel like they have absolutely NO privacy in their own home due to parents.

My mother drives me up the wall with her snooping around. and i absolutely HATE it when she randomly comes in and CLEANs and REARRANGES all my belongings. i am GRATEFUL but i don't want her to just barge in when ever she wants to.

She actually put a lock on my door because she was like when i'm changing i should have it locked....BUT when i do lock it, she immediately gets pissed off and demands why i locked the door and asks what i was doing!!!!
I have told her COUNTLESS of times to give me some space and my own privacy. but she says as long as your living under my roof, you follow my rules.
SHe snoops through my wardrobe...and if i had bought something new (shoes, bag clothes) she asks when? Why? and gives me a huge lecture in saving money .blah blah blah.

ARGH!!!!!
what should i do?

[last]

Have you tried confronting your mother about this?

[ShadowMax76]

perhaps being a more open and honest daughter will allow her to trust you in almost any general aspect of your life. x-X' but aside from the mini-lecture, yes... thankfully i'm not one of those guys who keeps magazines. bwaha.

[cand33clouds]

Well first of all, how old are you?
You could try talking to her first, but if she doesn't listen then you're gonna have to deal with it if you're under 18, or if you're over 18, time to move outtt
It's probably cuz she cares and she feels like you don't tell her anything. She wants to be more a part of your life, ya know?
My mom did/does it to me too all the time. -_____-;;
I went away for college (like, awayyy. can't just go home) and she reorganized everythinggg for me.
Then she found a card from my ex and read it. Omg -_____-
My mom told me that I need to be more open. If you're like me, then I'd understand why you can't be totally open with your parents.
Either way, try to talk to your mom. Be more open.
If doesn't work, deal with it til you're 18, then try to move out.

[jpark112]

Have you tried confronting your mother about this?

YES!

i've told her countless times, PLEASE give me some privacy...but nup, doesn't work

Well first of all, how old are you?
You could try talking to her first, but if she doesn't listen then you're gonna have to deal with it if you're under 18, or if you're over 18, time to move outtt
It's probably cuz she cares and she feels like you don't tell her anything. She wants to be more a part of your life, ya know?
My mom did/does it to me too all the time. -_____-;;
I went away for college (like, awayyy. can't just go home) and she reorganized everythinggg for me.
Then she found a card from my ex and read it. Omg -_____-
My mom told me that I need to be more open. If you're like me, then I'd understand why you can't be totally open with your parents.
Either way, try to talk to your mom. Be more open.
If doesn't work, deal with it til you're 18, then try to move out.

I AM 18. but yes i understand what you'r saying.

Actually there have been some incidents in my past where is was not 100% honest with my parents and i think they slowly lost their trust in me....
yes i'm open with them i mean i talk with my dad about fun stuff, but never serious discussions because both me and my dad are stubborn as and very opinionated, so if we were to discuss something serious...we ALways end up with tension and clashing alot.

and with my mum. we have very very different personalities, and yes we talk and stuff....but not to the point where i tell her all my secrets you know??

thnx anyways great advice!!

[HumanError]

Have you tried confronting your mother about this?

not that easy. I kinda have the same type of parent. she's gonna argue back and just not listen.
If talking doesn't work, just show that you are responsible. You should be since you're legal now

[OMGitzYOU]

Well, it's really not your "own house" if you live under your parent's roof.

Try changing your lock and get a key to it, if she starts about that, move all your belonging to the living room so you won't have a lock to lock and see what she does :] <-- lol that's what my cousin did

[Visvim]

confront your mother about it.

its not going to help if you keep hiding it.

[forgottenmemories]

My mother does that too. So also goes as far as digging through my trash for receipts to see where I went to eat for the week. Drives me crazy...

[,astrolicious]

I totally understand. My mom does that all the time
You're lucky you even have your own room/lock lol.
I've tried to bring up this stuff with her but all she does is get angry.

[iibbyxhun]

mom and dad drives me crazy when i talk on the phone for a long time, they start eavesdropping and then when i hang up the phone they ask me "is that your boyfriend?" . it's soo annoying and can't i get a little privacy to talk to my friends..

[myxo]

Lol, I feel your pain. Every time I visit go home to visit my parents, I feel as if I can never get any privacy. I can't even get my own time to talk on the phone because my parents miss me and want to spend as much time with me as possible. It's really funny, but I know they're only suffocating me because they care about me. I can only appreciate their efforts now because I no longer live with them and understand the reasons behind why they're acting the way they do.
If your parents are worried because you're on the phone for hours and want to know who you're talking to, it's because they care. Your parents have raised you your whole entire life. They understand you and your behavior, and once you start acting differently, they can pick up the cues and start questioning and "annoy" you. My mom still barges in my room and cleans up stuff for me. I have no complaints because I have nothing to hide, and I actually really appreciate someone taking my trash out for me, do my laundry, clean up my dirty dishes, etc. It doesn't bother me anymore.

[-aimeex]

Actually my parents gives me my privacy but it's my siblings that I can't stand. Especially since my room is a den turned into a bedroom with curtains as doors. Sometimes while I'm on my laptop my brother barges in and scares the crap out of me. My sisters them also. Even though they know I'm in the room because I always have music on, they'll barge in anyways. When I yell at them they're always like 'Oh just wondering if you're in here.' I also have two siblings who's under the age of 8 and it annoys me to death when they go into my room and play around with my makeup. I have two mess up NYX Lipstick one night after coming back from clubbing.

So now I just lock away my stuff. Like I know for a fact that when I'm not home, one of my sisters likes to take my books so I always lock away my books and of course my makeup and other things that are important to me.

[kansaieito]

Your first mistake is believing you have the right to privacy. It's not your house. You just sleep and move around there. Once you come to terms with that, the rest if easy. Find somewhere to put your crap, then find somewhere else to sleep and move around. Might I suggest dorms?

[Bombom.]

Talk about privacy, I HAVE NONE AT ALL! >.<
I'm a girl living wif 3 boys in a one room apartment T.T
So yuppp, I sleep in the living room.
DONT HAVE MUCH PRIVACY AT ALL.
But yu should tell your mom about it *.*
Talk to her how you don't like it and stuff like that (:

[eigengrau.]

OMG, I KNOOOW. My dad knows to give my privacy, but it's my MOM!
She always barges into my room loudly, and I hate it when people do that because
it scares the crap outta me, and really, sometimes I just want to be left alone.
She comes in and starts shrieking about something and it's so annoying @_@
One time she snooped through some notes I wrote too, and back then I was like
an emo little kid -__-;

I tried talking to my mom about it too ): but she starts yelling at me on how I shouldn't
talk to her like that and sometimes she denies that she does any of the things I mentioned.
One time I told her to stop treating me like a baby, 'cause I'm not anymore and she was like,
"You're still my baby." TT______TT;

[MNLV27]

Well it is her house so you just have to deal with it. She's just being protective or maybe it's her way of knowing what you've been doing.
My mom tends to barge in my room without knocking, I don't have a lock, it was really annoying at first especially when I'm changing but I learned to stand right in front of the door when I'm changing so that she doesn't see me..lol..Otherwise my mom doesn't care to check my room and stuff since it's kind of messy and she's a neat freak so she'll just look around and sigh and tell me to clean and walk out..lol..

[Mishi-san]

Dw that happened to me; My mum also put a lock on my door and whenever she wants to come in she just comes in; when its locked shes like OMFG WHYD YOU LOCK IT WHAT ARE YOU DOING!? esp when its accidently locked ( I can open the door from inside when its locked so I usually forget when I close my door to sleep). My mum though never goes through my stuff, shes too lazy and my draws are too messy as if shed clean my room for me lol.

but I dunno i used to be not very trustworthy but as I grew older she still asks about my locked door but shes not anal about it. She pretty much leaves me alone until I walk out my room. Maybe bond with you mother more? Like when I go out my room and talk to her for maybe half an hour about whats going on in my life or when shes cooking dinner she leaves me alone for the whole night O.O

[linuhhparkk]

ugh.
it's really annoying. i mean, my mom isn't THAT bad, but still.
HELLO, closed doors = PRIVACY WANTED.
she just barges in. and i get pissed, which gets her pissed. T.T

[pblake]

Just wandering if there are any people who feel like they have absolutely NO privacy in their own home due to parents.

My mother drives me up the wall with her snooping around. and i absolutely HATE it when she randomly comes in and CLEANs and REARRANGES all my belongings. i am GRATEFUL but i don't want her to just barge in when ever she wants to.

She actually put a lock on my door because she was like when i'm changing i should have it locked....BUT when i do lock it, she immediately gets pissed off and demands why i locked the door and asks what i was doing!!!!
I have told her COUNTLESS of times to give me some space and my own privacy. but she says as long as your living under my roof, you follow my rules.
SHe snoops through my wardrobe...and if i had bought something new (shoes, bag clothes) she asks when? Why? and gives me a huge lecture in saving money .blah blah blah.

ARGH!!!!!
what should i do?

i take it that she just wants to be involved in your life.
or.. she's a neat freak and wants everything clean clean clean.

i think the best thing is to tell her things that are happenin in your life and
ask for advice.. she might want the whole mother daughter thing ya kno?
heh
sorry if i'm not helping. :x
good luck!