[House_Rulez]

Hey before I get started I'm not trying to play any pity card but I wanted to know something...

When I tell girls and 'ahjummas' that I've never had a single girlfriend or lady friend (a close one for that matter) ever they get surprised - they could be lying.

But I get a lot of compliments on looks from ahjummas... o shi z... i mean... k... ideno nemore...

Yeah I've been single my whole life, and every attempt I make I'm unable to give myself the chance or opportunity to ask a girl out... or just go to the movies to he very least.

Sometimes I tell myself I'm just being lazy or spending less time in trying to get into a committed relationship, b/c a lot of other stuff is in my mind.

Like college, career, dreams, etc - and I'm 20 btw...

Like ... I don't ... please don't tell me I'm gay and I don't know it... I know I'm not gay. K thanks.

[ilikecandixD]

i unno maybe its jsut that your new at this stuff. ask your frineds that are girls.

[moot11]

Err, that was kind of random.

Anyways, you didn't give us enough information to properly identify your problem.

[House_Rulez]

Eh lets see...


I don't know. I haven't had a girl friend...

And ... It's difficult to approach ladies or girls i have an interest in...

And just a little addition, I'm more confident with girls i have no interest or likeness in...

Y eah and i gues i could be new at this stuff...


Btw why do girls make this stuff so hard? lol.

[moot11]

Eh lets see...


I don't know. I haven't had a girl friend...

And ... It's difficult to approach ladies or girls i have an interest in...

And just a little addition, I'm more confident with girls i have no interest or likeness in...

Y eah and i gues i could be new at this stuff...


Btw why do girls make this stuff so hard? lol.

If the intial approach is the problem, you have no other choice but to do it until it becomes comfortable. Difficult, but there really isn't any other way to get around approach anxiety.

[House_Rulez]

^Yeah anxiety is probably it... I haven't really matured in that side of things.

[shim shim hae]

first of all, don't take compliments to heart..... especially compliments from ahjummas... come on they compliment everyone.
thats like believing your parents when they give you compliments, you wouldn't tell your child he/she was ugly if they really were right?

second, if you're okay with never having a girlfriend at 20 then thats fine... but you should atleast have female friends. no girlfriend and no female friends is maybe a sign of a lacking social life and a lack of interpersonal skills.

i would just say to stop thinking about it and enjoy life for now, when you have a gf there will be times you wish you can be single to have more time to yourself & vice-versa.

give it a little more time, but not too much... dont end up as a 40 year old virgin.

[azn3dvietboy]

confidence and courage can bring u closer to the things u want my friend

[supa'Wanki]

dude i get the same response from everyone when i tell them i don't have a girlfriend and they don't believe me when I tell them I don't have a girlfriend either. Ahjummas always tell me to keep my options open and need to start dating so that I can get married. My grandpa keeps asking me if he should hook me up with all the smart and pretty girls he know of. All the girls my age think I'm gay when I tell them I don't have a girlfriend. Everyone gets really surprised and asks me to hurry up and find one. If you know me in person, you would know I have many many many friends that are girls and have girls that I can ask out on a date. My answer to them is that I haven't found the right girl.

[brownman90561495]

a lot of guys are having the same problem as yours, even at your age.

i'd say this isn't really a problem to be solved with some sense of urgency. if you're really interested in girls, you'll have your time. someday, your courage will just go unusually up that you'll be able to ask at least a single girl out. then it will start from there.

don't fret to much about it. you're still young.

[greenlavender]

i dont think that your gay.

im a girl but i have the same problem too but im still in highschool so its no big deal for me. im not close to any guy in particular and the one i do talk to more frequently than the rest are ones that i cant date. i sometime do tell myself the same thing you do too that im lazy or is not ready to make any commitment to a relationship or that i have my whole life infront of me and theres no room for another person. really i just think that we just need to wait for the right person to come around that we would make a move to ask out. but it would help us to broaden our social life to a point where we could have close friends of the oppisite gender and maybe we'll find someone that way.

[Mannosuke]

Have you actually gotten along with any of the girls you meet? Like, they're still willing to talk to you the next day?

[heineken.]

first of all, don't take compliments to heart..... especially compliments from ahjummas... come on they compliment everyone.

Hahaaa. Very, very true!

Anyway, I've come to learn that girls love confidence.

You could look like a very average/below average guy, but if you exude confidence and have a good personality, that's what really gets to girls.

I think you should just build your confidence up. If you don't get a girl, so what? I've seen guys get rejected and then try for the next girl that comes along without blinking lol. Just don't take it personally! I've turned down attractive guys just because I didn't know them that well.

Get to know a girl on a personal level, and if it works then it works.
Things like relationships shouldn't feel forced, they should feel quite natural.

[Bombom.]

It's okay. Maybe right now your just not interested in girls.
Later on you'll be, because you don't always need a girl.
It can be wait (:
Good luck though

[meyo]

i've got the same problem
im in my last year of high school - never had a bf, never been kissed and no guys friends
i cant say im totally content but i know that im not a social retard just cos i got/done those
but it depends you know?
everyone has different reasons
most guy friends i've had, have overstepped the 'friend' barrier but never gotten to the 'more than friends' bit?
so we arent friends anymore
as for not having a bf, just guys dont seem to approach me
and i dont have the confidence to approach them because i feel insecure and unworthy
perhaps thats how you feel
but im sure there are plenty of other people who are in your shoes too

[acsrad]

^Yeah anxiety is probably it... I haven't really matured in that side of things.

Take a deep breathe and jump! If you ever have the urge to talk to a girl, DO IT! It'll help you gain confidence and who knows, maybe a friend or more.

Dont force yourself into having a relationship or force yourself into a friendship. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. It should just come naturally. There's plenty of time and 20yrs old YOUNG!

Just live life... but live it with no regrets!

[brownman90561495]

Take a deep breathe and jump! If you ever have the urge to talk to a girl, DO IT! It'll help you gain confidence and who knows, maybe a friend or more.

Dont force yourself into having a relationship or force yourself into a friendship. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. It should just come naturally. There's plenty of time and 20yrs old YOUNG!

Just live life... but live it with no regrets!

TOUCHE!

[mintcracker]

confidence is one of the most important qualities in an attractive guy, so you need to be confident and be out there. Quit stressing and hesitating =)
girls will lose interest.