[dongbang.suju.bigbang]

I need help. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!

This is the story:
(sorry, its pretty long)


I met this friend four years ago. We became close and were classmates for three years.
During our first year we've been friends, she's the type who doesn't talk that much.
It suddenly changed when we enter our second year, we have hot guys in our class.
This is the time were she started to show her true self. (In our school you need to wear
a tank top inside your blouse so your bra wont show. ) She don't wear tank top inside, and she
wear those flashy kind of bra.
She was known as the trouble maker of our batch. Everyone don't want to be involved with
her because they're scared that they might get involved.
Last year, our third year, she moved in a condominium with her family because she
ran away with her boyfriend. This is the part were i was scared of what will happen to her.
She started to drink, smoke, stay out late, clubbing, and hang around guys(those type of guys who drop out because they dont want to study anymore).
She met a guy and they had relationship. After 4 months they broke up. There was a time when she stay away from us to be with the new student. They were alike, they want boys.
We were hurt because its like all those years we had was NOTHING.....
After that time, she started to change SO SO SO MUCH.
She found her new lover. Every break time, she will tell stories about what happen to them the other day. We were shocked when she told us that they kissed on the escalator, not just a kiss but a french kiss, in public. Our reaction were like ''O_O. WTF?!?'' My friends were concern of her change but we don't know how to talk to her about it. Everytime her boyfriend and her fight, she goes to a bar to drink that led her to ''who knows what happen'' so they called it off.

Fast Forward:
During our summer break, she met her NEW friends. They are the bitttcch of the school. They love to sleep around. We didnt expect they will become friends because our friend hate those people... so much about that. I was absent for one week because of flu. The day i come back to school they told me they want to have a house party in OUR house. They keep on bugging me to say yes, but they cant make me because one of our friend told me that they were planning to invite some guys and do "SOMETHING". We already had history in our house that my mom didn't really like. hahahaha! So last week, she was laughing with some friends about something behind our back so we asked them 'what is it?' they don't want to say it but they give in. She told us she want to shop lift. Our eyes went BBBIIIGGG! We don't like the idea because we were scared of what will happen. So yeah, they started to shop lift EVERYDAY, seriously. I'm scared of what will happen if they got caught. They will be suspended and they wont graduate.


Im thinking about it for the past few days, and im thinking of staying away from her or dont hang around her that much. Im just a concern friend. She's younger than me. I'm 15 and she's just 14. I feel responsible.

I dont know what to do anymore. I want to talk to her about her change but im scared of how she will react. My mom dont really like her. She's happy because were not classmates anymore.


I need your reaction/advice or share you experience if you have ...

[kansaieito]

You aren't responsible for anyone else in this world but yourself and any kids you may have.

She's obviously not on the same path as you. Continuing to hang with her could put you in a position where you get partial blame for something she's done, or where people start to see you as someone like her. Birds of a feather and all that mini cooper.

I know it sucks major balls to see someone you once considered a close friend go down a less than stellar path but she's made her choices. Don't let those choices screw with you. Walk away. When life catches up to her and she loses everything...be there for her if you want. But for now, just save yourself and walk away. There's not much else you can do.

[rectitude*]

She's only 14 and doing these kind of things. I really don't know what to say. Like the person above said, you're not responsible for anyone else except yourself. You really can't stop her from doing the things she does. It's your choice you have to make if you want to stay friends with her. If it was me, I wouldn't want to deal with someone like that. But that's just me. She's taking the wrong path, and it's up to her to see the things she's doing.

[xDMufffins]

Have you ever talkd to her about how much she's changed?
She may feel insecure and feel the need to be all out.
Maybe you should talk to her about it and ask her why she's gone down this path.
But really, it's her choice to do what she wants with her life.
I still think you should talk to her about it though.

It's your house, don't let her influenece you about what you should do or not do.
I suggest you stay her friend but don't get involved with anything she does. Just be there for her when she's down and such.
OR you could just drop her as a friend. Do you want to be associated with a trouble maker?
Her safety is important, but so is yours.

[Gullwings]

wow...I'm shocked.......doing these kind of things with14 already? I think you either should talk to her about that problem and say that she won't have any future when she conitinues with that...or talk to her parents-teachers etc....someone must tell her that that's not the right thing to do ...
and probably something happened to her during those years.... people don't change just like that!
sorry I'm not a big help =/

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Just don't get involved with her anymore. What are you, her mom? Don't do charity work and cut her from your life.
What exactly do you feel responsible for? She brought this upon herself.

[miXxebear]

Oh I am kind of shocked that she is 14. Well sometimes those things do happen. People change overtime and they don't know how they are affecting the people around them. It's good that you are concerned for her but you also have to think of yourself. Sometimes when you're too concerned about a friend like that, they can influence you to do somethings they do. Try and talk to her if you can. She may get angry or feel that you are going against her but she has to realize you are just worried about her. Confronting her and talking to her about this will open up things but if talking won't work, it's better to just let her live her own life and you live yours. Some friends come and go and some friends stay. Maybe she was a good friend before she changed. I'm guessing it will be best for you to maybe stay away from her like not hang around her too much so she doesn't peer pressure you into doing things she did. I had a friend just like her. She slowly started growing apart from me and she tried to make me try new things just like her. It felt wrong though so I just stopped being friends with her. Even though I still care a bit, she needs to know that even though the teen years are called the "rebellious" years and we make mistakes, it doesn't mean we have to ruin our life completely. I hope that helped :/

[LeCiel.]

14 y.o and clubbing? o.o Is that allowed?
Anyways, just try to talk to her. Tell her what you noticed from her. But I think she'll get mad to you though. But if I were you, I'll still talk to her even though she'll get mad and everything. Because I think it would cause her to think what's wrong with herself. It could also help her to go back to normal. And realize that she's doing a lot of wrong things and need to stop it. You could also tell her that clubbing, drinking, or smoking are not good for her and she's still young to do these kind of stuffs. If she don't listen to you, then stay away from her :[ And yea, just what the other else said, you're not responsible for anyone else but yourself. Well, it's up to her if she don't listen to you. It's her life. You can't control people's life.

[brownman90561495]

you feel responsible, but you really are NOT responsible.

but this is serious, and i think this shouldn't be handled by a 15 year old. where are her parents? her family or some guidance counsellor in your school can help her on this.

[gsdjuuri]

When you said she was 14, it kind of reminded me of the movie Thirteen cause the main girls start doing drugs, and skanky things at the age of 13.

Well back to your post, I think you should talk to her, if she isn't willing to listen, then that's just her mistake for losing a friend that actually cares about her. (: