[oceansea]

At least once in your life you've been annoyed by family members or friends. For me I've been dealing with annoying parents, specifically my mom for the past year now. One of the things that annoys me most is that she doesn't give or respect my space. Anytime I'm doing something whether it be for work, talking on the phone, or even just taking time to think she will interupt me. Prior to this past year I've been a very patient person however I think my mom has pretty much thrown me over the edge. Arguements will erupt because I get peeved at her for "suffocating me" (not giving me my space). She's a very sensitive person and will throw dirt in my face for not "saying things in the right tone." I'm sick of this now because it's no longer an annoyance but it's a hinderance on my life and stress level. The more unfortunate part is that I don't have enough saved to move out. I don't think i could be in a more crappy position. Please offer your advice or even personal stories. Thanks.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Well you are just going to have to suck it up until you do have enough saved to move out.

[ohemqeex3]

i agree. you just have to hold it out for the moment.
as much as i wanna say talk to her, i know it won't happen because i have a similar situation

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Well... you could try and talk to your mother, but after reading that, I think she would nag you about talking back.

[Xick-azn-chic]

Lmao, maybe best choice Is 2move in with a friend >.<
I'm not old enough 2 m0ve out myself yet, but ur mom sounds just like mine.
She ALWAYS wants to know wat I'm doing(like I'm planning 2 go robb a bank
or something) And we fight just coz I said something in a complaining tone, I mean wats
Her problem...

Wells I found the dumb problem... And a solution that would take some time
but is totally worth it

The problem was that my parents didn't (and still DONT) TRUST me enough to let me go
where I wanna go, date who I wanna date, or even just stay upstairs in my room. Ye it's a friggen pain and still is.
Solution: gain back their trust... Whatever I did inthe past I mustve broken their trust(Ive sneaked on the phone, lied about what I was going 2do, or just didn't tell them the whole truth.

***do u think u did/done/have done somethings that MAY have lost YOUR mums trust?
I'm not saying ur problem is like mine, but it could be an option.

Gaining back the trust of a parent that nags 2 much wouldn't be
Hard. It's actually quite easy. They nag 2 much, which means
They care 2much which means it'll be easy 2 get to their lenient side again.

[joogrlpekaun]

Your mother sounds like my mother, at least in the ways you've described here. She's not really controlling right now, but she is very nosy and likes to interrupt me when I'm doing something really often. She takes everything as a personal attack and gets her feathers all ruffled if it's not said in the right tone or obviously positive, too, like you've described with your mom. It's such an ironic thing that she's actually a very pessimistic, critical person herself who complains a lot, but she can't even take 1/10 of what she dishes herself, so it's really hard to even tell her what's bothering me in a reasonable way before she just cuts me off like I'm just saying meaningless things and going on and on, and she takes it so badly when I do manage to tell her and blows it up into a fight.

Over the years, I've actually gotten better at putting up with that type of stuff, and she's loosened up a little bit, so we don't face off as often. I bite my tongue and bear it for the brief time it lasts each time instead of even bothering to fully show that I'm annoyed most of the time. It's just not worth the additional stress and effort, even though those habits of hers also cause me stress. I've found that the less I think about how annoying a lot of her habits are, the less they actually rankle. Like a previous poster said, if she just won't listen without getting butthurt, you pretty much just have to suck it up and try to not let it bother you quite as much until you can finally move out.

If you've been trying to let her know how you feel by always getting obviously pissed and snapping at her, though, try just telling her why you're so annoyed in a calm, neutral, rational-sounding voice even if you're actually mad. It may not work at all (quite likely since she's that sensitive and emotional), or you may have tried it already, but getting testy with a sensitive mother is asking for a fight every time and makes her feel like a victim. You can take DreamingSaturn's suggestions, too, though I've found that my mother even acts hurt when I lock my bedroom door (or even just CLOSE it) when I'm home and STILL interrupts me by knocking on my door and then just talking through it anyway.

[HaplessChild]

Close the door and lock it. Leave the house for extended periods of time.