[Malice_Kaiser]

So I realize some couples are totally cool with their s/o dancing with other people. I think that's fine; if you can maintain a healthy relationship with those standards then honestly more power to you.
For me, I'd be jealous if my boyfriend danced with another girl (not because I don't trust him, but because I'd know that the girl might have a thing for him), so since he doesn't dance with other girls, I won't dance with other guys (it's fair but frankly I don't have the desire to dance with other guys at all anyway, so it works out)

To the point:
One time when me and my friends went out dancing (boyfriend not there) some guy asked me to dance with him and I said "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." He was really polite about it and just left it at that. But another time some other guy asked me to dance, I said the same thing, and he actually got all offended and was like "Jeeze! I didn't mean that kind of dancing!" and seriously acted like I was insane for saying "no" since I have a b/f. I mean even so, I don't CARE if he didn't mean THAT kind of dancing, I don't feel like dancing with someone else, is that so bad?

Is it weird to say that I have a boyfriend as an "excuse" (it's not really an excuse though, it's a reason) to reject guys who ask me to dance?
I never thought that was weird but apparently to some people it is. That guy really threw me off and kinda made me feel all self-conscious. o_o;;

Maybe I should come up with a different excuse? "No, you're ugly"? -___- ;;

[heineken.]

What kind of dancing did he mean? Like square dancing? lolol wtheck.

Don't worry, I think having a bf is a perfectly acceptable reason not to dance with a guy.

[StephyT]

Haha. My friend's sister uses the "No, you're ugly." excuse. But I'd stay away from that unless you're absolutely drop dead gorgeous and hella mean.

I don't think that it's weird at all to say that you have a boyfriend and don't want to dance with them. I would do the same thing. I think you're just trying to be a loyal girlfriend since that was the deal you made.

And some guys just get offended easily... don't let it bother you. Just ignore them.

Haha. My friend's sister uses the "No, you're ugly." excuse. But I'd stay away from that unless you're absolutely drop dead gorgeous and hella mean.

I don't think that it's weird at all to say that you have a boyfriend and don't want to dance with them. I would do the same thing. I think you're just trying to be a loyal girlfriend since that was the deal you made.

And some guys just get offended easily... don't let it bother you. Just ignore them.

[hippiehop]

You don't HAVE to give them a reason at all.

I don't give a reason when a guy asks me to dance when I go out.

[visuelz]

I think it's a poor excuse. To me, it makes you sound very rotten. Not every guy that tries to dance with you wants to go out with you. Are you expecting them to dance by themselves? Another thing, preventing someone from doing things with the opposite sex is just asking for trouble down the line.

[Regina Rae]

I think that guy got offened because all he asked was to dance with you, lol.
He didn't ask to sleep with you or anything. You could have just said "No thanks"

[Humilious]

i guess you were just being fair because you don't let your bf dance with other girls due to your insecurity. not much you can do about that i guess. it is kind of a weird excuse though. your boyfriend wasn't even there to dance with you either and he must've realized it. maybe a 'no thank you' will suffice next time? hm.

[sylphid97]

But another time some other guy asked me to dance, I said the same thing, and he actually got all offended and was like "Jeeze! I didn't mean that kind of dancing!" and seriously acted like I was insane for saying "no" since I have a b/f.

Sounds like that guy didn't know how to take a rejection.

Is it weird to say that I have a boyfriend as an "excuse" (it's not really an excuse though, it's a reason) to reject guys who ask me to dance?

Truthfully, I don't even think you need to give an excuse. If it was me, I'd say, "No, thanks."

Maybe I should come up with a different excuse? "No, you're ugly"? -___- ;;

[Chirasu]

It's not weird, but I usually just say "no thank you". It's easier Especially with how it's so hard to hear people at dances and clubs and stuff.

[ilovethatpanda]

you shouldn't say that they're ugly. you never know what they might do to you o___o but anyways, just dance with them if your boyfriend isn't there. but don't let them touch you or anything, because that'll be awkward. if your boyfriend is there, just politely say "no thank you. i'm here with my boyfriend." i'm pretty sure that they'll understand.

this happened to me during homecoming too. but i already had a date with me, so i had to say no TT.TT he was pretty hot too.

[Malice_Kaiser]

I know he didn't ask me out or ask to sleep with me, that doesn't mean someone should get offended when I say no BECAUSE I have a boyfriend is what I'm trying to say.

I guess I thought just saying "No thanks" would be rude though. I figured having a legit excuse wouldn't be so bad. I'm afraid of coming off as conceited if I just flat out say "No thanks" and leave it at that.

I think it's a poor excuse. To me, it makes you sound very rotten. Not every guy that tries to dance with you wants to go out with you. Are you expecting them to dance by themselves? Another thing, preventing someone from doing things with the opposite sex is just asking for trouble down the line.

How does it make me seem rotten? I don't care if they dance by themselves or not (er, hello, I'm dancing by myself already otherwise they wouldn't be asking me), I'm not telling them "no, go dance by yourself," I'm telling them "sorry, I'm not interested." They can ask someone else. I think he was the rotten one because he obviously doesn't wanna respect my morals and my decisions.

And just what the hell is the last sentence supposed to mean. Preventing someone from doing things with the opposite sex is asking for trouble? That just makes you sound really creepy, or like one of those guys who has to be in charge and get what he wants all the time (wife beaters, rapists, etc).

[viffaye]

i think thats normal
id prolly do the same thing

[brownman90561495]

i don't see any reason that you did something wrong there. that guy in the bar is a jerk.

[kuroimisa]

Yeah that guy who reacted badly has problems. He was the one who was thinking otherwise -.-

It's fine to just say "sorry I'm taken". Or "sorry I'll have to pass" will be okay too.
Leave it to their imagination and only clarify if you need. Dont think much of it - it's a legit way to think/ feel.

[ecudni]

I assume you mean at clubs?

When I go clubbing, and I don't want to dance with a guy I just say "No, it's alright." Usually, they just walk away but if the guy gets all offended... then it''s his problem. I don't think you need an excuse for not dancing with a stranger.