[michikosashimi]

well since im the oldest child of my family and my brother is living with my grandparents. i live with my mom and dad. i think my dad has anger issues. ; anywho. i've been through alot these years of my life. and im still 15. but i dont remember any year when my mom and dad didnt have a fight because he thought he was correct the whole time ._. let me just tell you some things, my dad has been on this issue of my mom 'cheating.' which i know she isnt cheating on him because my mom tells me everything. and she doesnt even go out she only goes out at her working time and comes back after. because i always wait for her. since im not sleeping. well one time, my dad went to pick up my mom from work. and since my mom works in a resteraunt. she and this chef were left. since it was 4am. and she was working night shift. and she had to close down the steel pully door thing o_o i cant explain well. LOL. and the chef was going to go home too. and my dad saw him and just rushed out and beat the chef up. cause he thought she was 'cheating.' i find it so stupid, because he doesnt know for sure. i know hes insecure or whatever, but he cant just go beating up every coworker or friend of my mom's thats a guy. the second time is when my mom had to work the night and the day shift. (she works so hard T_T) and so she didnt come home. she called me and told me to tell my dad, which i did. but my dad thought she was cheating so early in the morning he went to her work and waited for her, more like to see if she was there. she was. and yes, guy coworkers again. he went in and got pissed and yelled at my mom's manager and said 'dont hire this woman!' broke her boss's cellphone. and dragged her home. when they came home my dad was beating my mom up and in front of my neighbors too! how shameful. then my mom went to work after the neighbors stopped him from beating her up and calmed him down. since my mom was at work my dad came home and talked to me. he told my friend that i had over to go home. and he was talking to me.
and he said im a dumb child who doesnt know anything about cheating. and i was like kid's these days know more than you think -__- and since i was playing computer that time. he took a chair slammed it on my computer and dragged me off my chair to the ground. theres this other time i will never forget. when my mom came home at night. he got so pissed because he thought 'cheating' again. he took this gigantic knife and threatened to kill my mom and chop her into pieces. he threatened me too when i tried to stop him. my uncle. (dads older brother) told me to make my mom forgive him and get them back together. of course i have my own life and all. but i know my mom gave my dad alot of chances and he keeps throwing them away.
because my dad keeps telling him to forgive her. and i dont want to see my mom get hurt or anything. but my dad is still living in the same house. only different rooms. so yeah :/ i sleep with my mommy now. he wants the chances but when he gets them he throws them away like its trash. i dont want to help him get back together with my mom. either way we're still living together. am i being too mean to him not to help? i dont want to get myself hurt either. the reason why im more of on my mom's side is because my dad doesnt spend a dime on our family. my mom's supporting us all. and i mean my grandparents house cause of my brother and our house. my dad always takes his paycheck and all those to gamble. but i dont think im being too mean to him. im being reasonable, because of all he's done to tear this family apart. sorry its so long!

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

You call yourself mean? Who the hell threatens their own daughter? Call the police now. You are probably risking your life, and your mom's, while living under the same roof with him. Your dad is just a leech. Just get it over with and call the police -______-

[colloquy]

Whoa, holy crap? Tell your mother not to take any of that BS and try supporting her emotionally as she goes through this ordeal. You're not being "too mean" to your dad, he probably deserves to be punched in the face, although you shouldn't go and do that or anything. >>

[vulgar812]

Your dad:
- Has a gambling addiction
- Beats your mom's co-worker in jealous rage
- Beats your mom in front of the neighbors
- Threatens to kill your mom and chop her body to pieces
- Threatens you for sticking up for someone else

Sounds like an abusive psychopath to me. Get away from him. NOW. He just might snap one day.

[jesster.]

I fear for your safety and your mom's. Call the police. NOW.
You're absolutely not being 'mean' to him. No father should do that to his wife or child.

[PhuongNguyen]

You're not being mean at all, if anything, you're being TOO NICE. Honestly, if I were you, I would've convinced your mom to leave such a abusive relationship a long time ago, he might actually KILL her one of these days. I'm sorry but your dad have no respect for your mom, and he's a pretty sorry ass excuse for a human being. I know that he's your father and all, but don't you realize that she's your mother also, how can you let him treat her like that, and still question on whether you should convince your mom to forgive your dad?!?! Get her out of that hellhole before it's TOO LATE. If you really want to save their relationship, and if THEY really want to save their relationship, asking for forgiveness from your mom isn't going to be enough. He need to seek counseling, he NEEDS to seek anger management. Even if your mom forgive him this month, the following month, history will just repeat itself. Tell him to get some help, and if he refuse, then your mom need to leave him and find someone who can respect her and treat her well. You're risking your mom's safety and yours by putting up with his crap.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Your dad:
- Has a gambling addiction
- Beats your mom's co-worker in jealous rage
- Beats your mom in front of the neighbors
- Threaten to kill your mom and chop her body to pieces
- Threatens you for sticking up for someone else

Sounds like an abusive psychopath to me. Get away from him. NOW. He just might snap one day.

Don't forget about the poor computer! Think about the computer D:

And the chair~ It totally blew up. And the knife, the knife has a possibility of being confiscated as evidence D:

[kimigasuki]

That's horrible.

No, your not being mean. I wouldn't risk you or your mom getting hurt by him. It can get more serious.
Enough is enough.

[michikosashimi]

thanks for the advice guys~
but i dont know, i have a feeling that calling
the police on my dad is something i wouldnt want to do.
i thought about it, but i just cant.
my uncle said my dad wants us to forgive him
and become a happy family again ;
but my uncle said to me he;s
also afraid that we'll leave him. but he also said,
my dad told his manager to send the paycheck to my uncle.
and that hes changed his ways and will no longer gamble.
my dad told his boss he has this sickness that he wants to suicide
and run infront of a car when it passes by. even my neighbors
see my dad walking on the street drinking soju ._.;;
my dad used to be such a nice person but now hes just .....

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

Get out of there ASAP, no good's going to come from staying in the same house.
And no, I really don't think you're being too mean to your dad at ALL.

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

thanks for the advice guys~
but i dont know, i have a feeling that calling
the police on my dad is something i wouldnt want to do.
i thought about it, but i just cant.
my uncle said my dad wants us to forgive him
and become a happy family again ;
but my uncle said to me he;s
also afraid that we'll leave him. but he also said,
my dad told his manager to send the paycheck to my uncle.
and that hes changed his ways and will no longer gamble.
my dad told his boss he has this sickness that he wants to suicide
and run infront of a car when it passes by. even my neighbors
see my dad walking on the street drinking soju ._.;;
my dad used to be such a nice person but now hes just .....

Well... Do whatever you feel right and I hope you make the right choice. Just please don't end up in the current events section @_@

[michikosashimi]

Well... Do whatever you feel right and I hope you make the right choice. Just please don't end up in the current events section @_@

i hopefully wont end up in the current events section ^^;

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

i hopefully wont end up in the current events section ^^;

Okay I trust you then. Good luck!

[itrayya]

you're dad is either insecure or paranoid, or both.
im sure he likes the control he has over your mom and you,
the words that he uses to make himself feel bigger.
obviously he has gone through something in his life that he can't overcome.

make sure your mother is not hurt anymore by him.
leave. tell relatives, report it to the cops.

that totally sucks, but i hope that you can stand up for your mom and yourself.
not literally stand up, but i mean through being mentally stronger than him.

i unno, but i would leave. take mommy and leave.
a father like that is not a father.

GOOD LUCK.
take care.

[Thatoneguy]

Although he is your dad, that's just freaken creepy. I think someone that actually pulls a knife out and threatens someone is mentally ill already.
Your dad seems to love the family, but the way he acts is pretty scary. He wants to commit suicide at some point?
Hopefully I won't see "Asian father takes lives of family members and then commits suicide" when I surf the news.

[michikosashimi]

you're dad is either insecure or paranoid, or both.
im sure he likes the control he has over your mom and you,
the words that he uses to make himself feel bigger.
obviously he has gone through something in his life that he can't overcome.

make sure your mother is not hurt anymore by him.
leave. tell relatives, report it to the cops.

that totally sucks, but i hope that you can stand up for your mom and yourself.
not literally stand up, but i mean through being mentally stronger than him.

i unno, but i would leave. take mommy and leave.
a father like that is not a father.

GOOD LUCK.
take care.

Although he is your dad, that's just freaken creepy. I think someone that actually pulls a knife out and threatens someone is mentally ill already.
Your dad seems to love the family, but the way he acts is pretty scary. He wants to commit suicide at some point?
Hopefully I won't see "Asian father takes lives of family members and then commits suicide" when I surf the news.

thank you :)
for some reason, whenever i stand up to my dad for my mom,
he'll end up coming after me o_o;; and he said so himself twice,
theres something wrong with him. we told him to go to the
hospital and all that but he doesnt want to -_-;
i want to leave, but he'll find us again anyways ;_;
not really a big place here. most of our relatives know how he's like.
but my dad's family is on his side. my moms family never liked my dad
from the beginning~ sometimes, my dad would want to make my mom happy
and ask me 'what kind of flowers does your mom like? what kind of chocolate?'
i'd always answer 'i dont know' it makes me mad and sort of annoyed that he wants
to make her happy even though he knows my mom doesnt want to be with him anymore.
but shes staying here in the same house because she wants me to have a 'father'.
my brother is coming soon because my grandparents are getting old.
and my mom says having my brother here is too much already.
here comes another person to worry about. my brother has never seen or heard my parents fight. lucky him.
but im sure he'll want my mom and dad to stay together. ugh D: im also thinking for my little brother. T_T its so hard.

[Jaely]

being mean? you have no reason to feel "mean". what have you done? not much & you need to do something other than having your dad in one room and your mom in another. i suggest getting an attorney and get this matter settled in court. he can be charged just for threatening to kill you and your mother. most likely your dad will lose custody of you and you'd be living with your mother for this.

i have a cousin. her dad is similar to yours. & it truly brakes me my heart that my aunt doesn't do smack about it.
don't be like them. if i ever saw that stupid "uncle" of mine again. i will give him a mouth full !

stand up for yourself, you cant be scared anymore. he may think he's so strong and what not beating people up
but he's just an insecure p*ssy. i'm a tough b*tch so if my father was like that, oh hell, i would be all up in his grill & tell him everything i feel, straight up. all bs aside. & i'd get him the freak out of my home.

this can't keep going on. you have stop it before, god knows what he'll do next.
good luck, i'll hope the best for you and your mother <3

edit///

ok i just read your replies to some people. alright this whole being nice crap. psh i don't buy it at all. i think for now he's just trying win back your mother. its all bs. your mom should listen to her side of the family. if they dont like him, leave him. yeah he's your father and of course you feel attached but for all he's done, its not worth it. if you get this done and over with legally & he's locked up, chances are he won't find you two. you'd probably want to lay low too if he ever tried to find you two and ask people around. & of course your dad's family is on his side, they're too biased. if my brother did that to his wife and child i would sure as hell not be on his side.

[Alt.Loves.Ctrl]

If i were in your position i would feel really scared of your dad. Maybe your dad does need help, but his ego is in the way? :S i think you should at least try to talk to him .. and tell him you want to him help. If he goes off and yells again, then i suppose you have every right to be 'mean' and not to help him. your dad sounds so scary D:
hope everything works out <3

[MNLV27]

You and your mom should move out or kick your dad out of the house before one day he snaps and actually really harm you two. You wouldn't want your brother to go through this too? You should tell your mom that it's alright if she wants to divorce him, it's not like it's the end of the world if they divorce. If you want to still have a father daughter relationship with your dad, then you can always go see him and spend time with him and if you don't then don't force yourself to. I think right now he's just playing the 'I've learned my lesson, so just take me back' card and trying to look pitiful so that everyone feels sorry for him and try to get your mom to forgive him but how many times have she given him a chance? too many times..Just be careful..

[cinimon]

Oh my goodness. your dad has some serious issues.
Like other people said, report him, tell someone, just stop taking in his abusive actions.
You said your mom stayed with your dad because she wants you to have a father, just tell your mom that your current father has issues and it would be SO MUCH better for you and your little brother if you guys live without him.
If i was you, i wouldn't care what my uncle says; he isnt the one going through hell cause by the crazy dad. And i bet his side of the family doesnt want your mom to leave him because they wouldn't know what to do with him and all his mental problems and gambling issues.
Stop worrying about being nice or not nice. Your father doesn't think of that when he threatens and beats your mom up. remember, he also gambled away your mom's hard earned money without care.
Hurry, before its too late. you guys are going through something you don't deserve.
Good luck and be careful.