[joohee.x]

so jst a question..

i broke up with my bf on monday after a 2 week holiday to korea
basically because we're both busy at 2 different colleges and dont really c each other

but we decided to stay friends still and still talk to each other and c each other wen we can

is this weird? because i dont think it is.. and i noe he still likes me and dont want to give him hope that we will get back together
and also.. whoever i tell this to like my family or frends,, they all find it very strange that i still talk to him and c him

my opinion is that people can still stay frends with their ex's
no matter how common the saying that u cant stay frends with ur ex is...

[heineken.]

I don't think it's weird. I stayed friends with my ex's and we call to chill sometimes~ BUT.. this was probably a good year or so later after the breakup, because there may still be feelings if you hang out with that person right after. Sometimes when you like someone, you could persuade yourself that they still like you even though they say they don't. Just make it clear that you're interested only being friends, so he can try not to get emotionally too involved whenever you do hang out.

[Mannosuke]

If it's a mutual break-up, why not be friends? You're just no longer a couple, doesn't mean you can't talk to each other. The ones that say "you can't stay friends with your ex's" argue with the same points you gave. Essentially, THEY just can't take it, not because "you just can't"

[Alt.Loves.Ctrl]

No. problems might come up if you get a new boyfriend though.

[juicejuice]

i am friends with my ex.... it is best to wait awhile to start that because of all the emotions...you both have to set it clear that no emotions will be involved other than just friends....

[Meenuh]

If you don't think it's weird then what's the problem? It really depends on the person/people. If you two are comfortable just being friends after breaking up then continue being friends. Nothing wrong with that.

[ilovethatpanda]

i'm friends with my ex-boyfriend.

No. problems might come up if you get a new boyfriend though.

i agree with this person too. it just feels awkward when i'm with my ex and my boyfriend.

[StephyT]

It's not weird. It's just not the most common thing.

They're called "exes" for a reason.

[IATEYOU]

If you'd made it clear that you're not interested in being back together with your ex (aka you're not leading him on intentionally), there's nothing wrong with being friends. Don't burn bridges, eh? haha

[grainsofrain]

It's not weird at all because I'm in the same boat with you.
(although my mom doesn't want us to be friends)

I don't know what'll happen in the future with having a boyfriend and all that, but for now it seems fine.

[hyperactivequeenliz]

1st ex- kinda... but it's an on & off relationship...
2nd ex- not really.. it's difficult for me to since he hurted my pretty badly.
3rd ex, most recent- we're still pretty good friends, amazingly. o.o

i guess it depends on how you guys break up or whatever.

[MNLV27]

It's only weird if you make it weird. If you guys were able to be friends again then that's good but if he still likes you like that then that's not good.

[vanbaby]

I don't think its weird at all .. actually I think it seems healthy. Haha. I'm still friends with my exes.

[Bombom.]

NOPE. I'm still friends wif ALL my exes xD
Except the ones tat didn't wanna be my friend anymore :3
It isn't weird for me, but maybe it might be weird for them.

[Echoe]

I think I'm the only one who doesn't talk to their exes.

[yiTian]

I think it's perfectly normal to stay friends with your ex. As long as you don't over think everything and continue a stable friendship, you're fine. Honestly, breaking up would cause you two to be a bit awkward with each other. But do what you think is best.

[ShadowMax76]

ask your ex what his opinion is.

problems that arise are:
- a likelihood of resurfaced feelings, perhaps after finding someone new
- a jealous bf can't stand an ex around his gf.
- one or the other pretending to not have feelings anymore, being 'friends' just to prove to him/herself that s/he is over him/her _ whilst that's somewhat... futile..

_ i tend to keep a distance from those i left. _ x-X' oddly, i stay in touch with those who left me. why? ..>_>' i still wonder. to scavenge what's left? not being able to let go? neh. i don't like having close friends. that's what lovers are for.

[dreamyxxx]

with your situation i think you should just wait a while
although it was a mutual breakup it would be weird because you guys still have feelings for each other (seeing as the break up wasnt because you guys didnt like each other anymore)

[TheFirstTime]

no it's not strange
it takes a lot of strength and courage to be friends with your ex still
cause when your around them, you're reminded of all the things he used to do when you hung out
but maybe that's just me cause he broke up with me and asked to be "friends" on the phone
sooo yeahh... I hangout with him a lot too lol
it's still awkward for us though, even though we don't show it

I hope things between you two go well friends or together

[Samael]

It's not weird... but it's not always advised. Mais, tout le monde es diff�rente.